Help needed on a scenario! Female advice preferred?

Question

I like this girl very much and I am prety confident she is very well aware of it. My problem however is that I don't know how to know she likes me aswell. I have had bad experiences before talking to girls about my feelings and this time round I'm trying to be cautious. I lost all those girls as friends aswell, but I dont want to lose her as a friend and want to know, without the need of asking, whether she likes me or not. Please try to be as detailed as possible. thanks in advance

Answer 1

Bite the bullet and ask her. That's the only way you'll get an answer. I know from experience.

Answer 2

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Invite her out. The setting should be place that is comfortable, and not overly pretentious, but classy. Dress up. Offer to pick her up, but tell her you'd be fine meeting her there if that is more comfortable for her. Arrive early so she isn't kept waiting and looking for you. Keep the conversation casual. If she is there, she is interested. Do not express undying love, talk about work, or how bumbling and inept you feel. Compliment her on how nice she looks (generically, not ooh, you're really filling out that dress or anything lewd like that.) maybe focusing on the color of her dress. Red becomes you or something similar. Open door and pull out chairs. Defer the waiter to take her order first by a small nod to the lady when he arrives at the table.
Let the conversation flow naturally. A place with soft music and good food can fill in the gaps quite a bit. If the weather is nice, suggest a stroll to walk off the meal and a nightcap in a conveniently located upscale bar. When the conversation wains, thank her for a lovely evening and escort her back to her car or home. Ask if you might see each other again soon. Don't lean in for a kiss or shake her hand. If she appears to have warmed during the evening a small hug might be nice. Good luck.

Answer 3

The only way of knowing is asking her. I know its kinda scarey (from experience), but its better to find out then to never know at all. I too was afraid to ask this one guy if he liked me. But now I am engagged and live in an apartment with the first guy I've ever asked. Hey maybe u two might end up like us. I really think you should try though. If she doesn't feel the same way remember there are many other girls and I'm pretty sure u have a special someone out there for you.

Answer 4

If you want to go out with her, then just ask her out. There's no better way to find out than to start asking her out, and see where things go from there. You can't really have her "as a friend" if you like her in a different way, it will get in the way of any "friendship" you might have had. Usually it's possible to pick up the "vibe" the other person is giving out; she may be waiting for you to ask her out - or she may not be interested. Listen to your gut feeling and see how things develop before you "talk to her about feelings"; going on a few dates should give you more of an indication if she's interested to hear about the "feelings".

Answer 5

If you have had trouble in the past with talking to girls about your feelings than this isnt going to be an easy task to follow through with. What you have to do is follow your id instinct and satisfy it. There are ways around just asking. Notice the way she acts around you. Sometimes you can tell if a girl is interested just in their body language and the way that they present themselves in front of you. I smile alot and keep eye contact with the guy I like and touch. maybe she does this too, but I cant say that for sure. Just notice all the little things. Hope this helps ya!

Answer 6

If you are really sure she knows your feelings, take a leap of faith. It's the only way to be fair to yourself and to her. Ask her out - even for coffee or ice cream. Flirt a little, keep it light and mellow, but tell her you value her as a person. Let her know you don't want to lose her - ever. If she likes you and you are on the same wave length, she will know it. I am pretty sure you can make your feelings even more clear by giving her a single red rose (or her favorite flower) at the time you meet. Keep it light, keep it friendly and let her know how you feel. Good luck to you and I wish you the very best!

Answer 7

Does she smile when she sees you? Does she laugh at all of your jokes? Does she flip her hair around when talking to you? Does she touch your shoulder or arm when she's talking to you? Does she call you? These are all signs of flirting and signs that she likes you. If you see any or all of these signs, then you need to take a chance and ask her out. Ask her to go to dinner with you. Just take it one date at a time before you tell her how you really feel. Take it slow before you tell her everything you are feeling. Sometimes, if you come on to strong, it can be a turn off. Good luck!

Answer 8

Sorry I am not a female but I do have some advice. Throw caution to the wind, be yourself, be confident and a little arrogant and be complimentary. In short be a gentleman and be up front with her and your feelings. Yes this may be another one that is lost but you will be yourself when you do find the right one. Good luck.

Answer 9

I wasn't really sure if my boyfriend had a crush on me or not when I asked him out. I ended up writing him a note becuase I was so freaked out that he would reject me. Turns out he felt the same and wasn't going to say anything because he didn't want to lose me as a friend. if I hadn't asked him things would probaly not ened up the way they have. (We'll be getting engaged in Decemeber ) sometimes you just have to go with that little gut instict. If you want to just casually mention that you like her and see what happens, if she feels the same then great but if she doesn't but is a true friend things will stay the same.

Answer 10

If i were you at first u should give her little hints like saying i want a girlfriend or asking her about her past relationships. Always copliment her. Ask her what kind of relationship u guys are in after a while.Take things slow and never be afriad to flirt. I always here to answer good or bad questions [e-mail]

Answer 11

There is no way you can 100% sure tell if she likes you... unless you ask her. If you don't feel comfortable doing it.. then perhaps that is a sign she does not have the same feeling as you. Or perhaps your exicution of your feelings toward the other girls was in such way that was uncomfortable for them... so try thinking it through first and put yourself in her shoes