Is there a such thing as falling out of love with someone ?(a long question)?

Question

Is there a such thing as falling out of love with someone even if the other person did'nt do anything? My friend says that she does'nt look at her boyrfriend as "the only one for her" and " the one she's gonna spend the rest of her life with" she was previously with him for 3 years and she says that she was young at the time (she was 16 and he was 21) he's now 22 and he's 27. She said she was young and stupid for thinking she was so in love. They broke up for a year and a half and are now back together. She said that he did'nt do anything to her but she did break up with him. And she said that if someone else comes along that she likes more than her boyfriend, she will leave him and start to date the other person...I told her it just sounds like she's dating her boyrfriend just because she can.... this does'nt make much sense to me So does anyone have any opinions? Please don't be rude...and please don't say mind my business

Answer 1

yes you can fall out of love and no one has to do anything.. in fact that is really the reason most fall out of love.. because they are not doing anything together anymore.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said she is dating him just because she can. Its a relationship that is just wating to end - but no one has the guts to end it.

sometimes people get so afraid they will never find anyone else that they just settle for what they have. they don't believe they can do any better - or deserve any better so they just stay where they are - even though they are not really happy where they are.

Have your friend see a councelor - perhaps there are some things she can work on and then eventually move on to someone who can make her feel again.

Answer 2

people grow apart and when they do feelings change. maybe shes only with him because he makes her comfortable with him, when she meets someone new and exciting she will leave him.