This guy I can't stop thinking about used to work at the grocery store I frequent. We had a great flirtatious thing going on. This went on for a couple of months. But, alas he left at the end of June and I asked one of his ex-coworkers where he went and she told me the name of his new job. I mailed a friendly note at the start of Sept to his new work address but didn't enclose my phone # or email. I haven't heard anything. Maybe it never got to him? Would it be horrible of me to call the new job and ask for him? Or to ask one of his ex-coworkers if they're still in touch and to pass on my number? I'm TOTALLY obsessed with him and would like to get to know him better.
2006-09-19 11:28:35 · 14 answers · asked by chnchita 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may seem like stalking to some people, but it seems totally harmless to me. I could see if you were trying to track this guy down to hurt him or some other bad thing, but that's not the case. If you really want to know this guy better then go ahead and try to find him. Who knows you might just get what you really want out of it. You'll never know until you give it a try.
2006-09-19 11:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mail him a card saying who you are, including your phone number and e-mail. Say you miss seeing him and would love to get together sometime soon. Also say that you forgot to include your phone/email last time, and that's why you're writing again.
Lastly write that if you don't hear from him, you'll assume he isn't interested, and you won't bother him again.
On general principle, I think it's a bad idea to call anyone at their workplace. It's okay if you're his wife and you have an important message for him, but it's NOT okay if you aren't even his girlfriend yet.
Good luck!
2006-09-19 18:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not stalking trust me.
how in the world is he suppose to get back to you.
In all the talking that you did with him he never said
My Wife.?
maybe he did not get the letter.
I say give him a call if he says "no" to a date
then stop thinking, talking, and asking about him
because then that will be stalking.
And nowadays harassment is a two way street.
2006-09-19 18:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a flirting thing going on he must have liked you to. are you sure he's available? I think it would be OK to contact him if your comfortable doing so. Maybe send a group letter with phone # or you could organise a group get together. Good luck I hope it works out for you.
2006-09-19 18:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by luckycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he never asked you out when he had the chance then maybe he has a girlfriend already, but if he did flirt with you then you should go ahead and try to pass your number to him. I think you calling him yourself id your best bet to make sure that he does get your number...good luck
2006-09-19 18:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to pop your bubble, but if he wanted to get to know you better, he would have made sure you got his phone number, email address.
Could be what you call flirting, he calls customer service,ie, being nice to customers.
The guy might have a steady girl,or a wife.
Be careful sweetie. Be careful.
2006-09-19 18:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he had wanted to keep in contact with you that he probably would've let you known that he was leaving the grocery store.Sorry. Unless he quit spontaneously. If he is at another grocery store...you know where to shop.
2006-09-19 18:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah this is verging on stalking. this would creep me out if someone did this to me. also the TOTALLY obsessed part also kinda gav it away. stay away from this guy if he liked you he would have asked to out the months that he flirted with you. he hasn't and you need to let it go.
2006-09-19 18:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obscessed with him??? Back off and get professional help and leave the poor guy alone. Maybe he is married or has a girlfriend.
2006-09-19 18:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know where he works don't be shy just go and see him and tell him honestly how you feel you mite be surprised he might be thinking about you and you know nothing about it go see him and let us no how you get on i hope i have been help full . "B"
2006-09-19 18:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by buster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋