I dont like the way my gf is treated by her parents, they never take care of her and treat her badly (they dont abuse her tho). Every since my gf was 16 and she got a job her parents made her pay for everythin of her own (even tho she was goin to school and workin), not only this, her mom made her pay for giving her a ride to work (she said it was for "gass money"). also shes on a phone plan with her mom and her mom is making her pay 80 dollars while she only pays 20... i am gettin sick and tired of this, and i just am startin to hate them.... this is especially disturbing since ive been going out with her for almost 3 years and we are serious about our relation ship. my question is ....
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
(sorry for writting so long, and please only serious responces, i WILL flag anything that is just plain being an a$$hole)
2006-09-19 11:26:25 · 14 answers · asked by Paul S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to the parents n say what they r doin is completely wrong, especially having to pay for most of the phone bill n gas money. for other things like clothes, ive been buyin since i was 14 n i had my first job, so thats no big deal. but the other things, thats just sounds retarded, id give talk to them calmly at first then if they start gettin mad just be like she is gonna move in with me so she doesnt have to pay all these retarded bills u stingy MF's
2006-09-19 11:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by snooppoopaloop69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what makes you think that being out in the real world will be any better? Her parents are doing right by her. You have no right to hate her parents for making her into a responsible person.
My mother did the same thing to me. I was living in her house, and I had a job, and she expected me to pay her, since I was working, so I did. Not only that, but I had my own bills to pay, and I paid those too. Every first of the year, I went up on the rent I was paying her, she never asked me for the extra money.
The last thing she did was to change the locks on the front door. At the time, I didn't understand what she was doing, I thought she was being mean, but what she was doing was making me grow up. It was the absolute BEST thing she ever did for me, and I made sure I thanked her for it before she died.
You should be thanking her parents for making her pay her own way. That way, she doesn't have to depend on ANYONE (including you) for what she wants from this life. I hope you're paying your own bills instead of having your parents pay for you.
If your gf doesn't have a problem with it, why do you? You better stop hating and start appreciating.
2006-09-19 11:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not really think it is your place but why not talk to them and tell them what you feel is happening. You have been with her for three years, so her parents must know you. How does your gf feel about the way she is being treat. Also does her parents have enough money, because if they do not, then they are doing the best the can. Once she is of legal age or if she is now, she can move out and be on her own, you the two of you can move out together. At that time she has not obligations to them.
2006-09-19 11:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to pay room and board at home from the time I got my first paper route. ( I was 11) I continued to pay room and Board until I came out of the army. I also had to pay for my clothes, recreation and anything else that I wanted.Did I feel it was fair? No I didn't. My mother told me that she made me do this so that I would learn right away that there is no free lunch in this world. If you want anything, you must be williing to work as hard as you have to and be prepared to pay for what you want. I am now over 60 and have never done anything other than pay my own way. It was a hard way to learn the lesson but it was a lesson that was well worth learning.
2006-09-19 11:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I would say DON'T talk to them about it. They might get up set and try to split you two up. (probably wouldn't be able to scence u've been together for 3 years, but still just not a good idea.)
I think she should get a different phone plan as her mom so she dosen't have to pay so much.
Other than that I'm not really sure on this one. I would say tho when you go out you could pay a little more offten.- It would help her and just be really sweet.
2006-09-19 11:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by Wonder1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if shes 19 by now, she should think about moving out. It may be a bit of a financial burden, but its well worth her peace of mind.
There really is nothing that specifically can do but to be there for her and be supportive. Her mom just might be trying to teach her responsibility, but she is going overboard now.
2006-09-19 11:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, moving out would be an option for your GF since she already pays for lots of stuff.
On the other hand, you seem to have a great girlfriend, hardworking and smart, great for you!! good luck!!
2006-09-19 11:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by alvarito8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. There is nothing you can do about your girlfriends parents. You can only influence your relationship with your girlfriend, and if you focus too much on her parents, you will make her feel caught in the middle and lose her. So, my advice to you is to lighten up and enjoy your relationship.
2006-09-19 11:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that her parents have some financial problem or they think that they deserve to take some advantages of an adult girl working and depending on them in their points of view.
2006-09-19 11:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by smilecow28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do. It's not really your place to intervene. I mean yeah it sucks what's going on but anything that has to happen needs to come from your gf not you. Good luck
2006-09-19 11:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋