2006-09-19 11:08:08 · 31 answers · asked by mememe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i thought this, i met my father when i was 17, one of the first questions i asked was why didnt you get in touch, his reply was your mother moved, a bit of common sense would tell him my other relatives were living in the same address!
i say its their loss, if they can't be bothered knowing the child, then what right do they have to be called daddy?
obviously the child would be better off without a man like that in the first place.(thats my opinion, sorry if not everyone agrees)
2006-09-19 11:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
mcardham has a good point. It seems that only the woman makes the choices she decides if she is going to keep the child whether it has been discussed or not, the bloke really doesnt have any say in it at all. Being a female i do rather feel for the guys sometimes, it does take two to tango yet it does seem to be the guys fault if the girl gets pregnant for not using anything but whats up with us girls making sure we are using something, then when the inevitable happens the bloke is still wrong if he suggests anything other than i will be there for you and the baby no matter what, they are also allowed to have an opinion and should they not want to get involved why are they being criticised for it when it was made perfectly clear from the start what he wanted. I fell pregnant and knew that my partner at the time didnt want children under no circumstances, i chose to bring my baby up on my own why should i mess his head up when i chose the decision.
2006-09-19 23:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually in a situation like this. I have 3 children with my ex husband he may see them once a year if that, doesn't call and the only reason I get child support is because of the state. He's never grown up enough to accept the responisibilty that goes with haveing children. Thank god I am now married to a wonderful man who treats them as they were his own.
But there are also woman in the world, I know one, who will do everything in there power to keep the man from seeing his child. My husband now has actually hired a detective to find his ex. She has a daughter that she said was his, then disappeared with her. He still celebrates the little girls bday and has actually stored stuff in a closet for gifts that he has bought her for her bday or for christmas. Things like that. So there it's not always the guys fault.
2006-09-20 06:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughters dad lives 15mins away from where we do, we lived together till our daughter was 3 and a half and then i left him due to abuse, since that day hes seen me in town, with our daughter she knows who he is and once went up to him shes 5 now and she said hello and he just walked off in the other direction, if u ask me, a man who doesn't want to no his own child is not worth bothering about, no i don't think these sort of men do think of the child if they did they wouldn't be such t**** to them, just give ur child the best life possible my daughter will have a step father at the end of this yr nd he will love her more than her real father will
2006-09-20 00:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard my son's father has never took an interest in him he pays maintenance because the law makes him but he just as no interest in seeing him and it really breaks my heart as he is 10 now and at an age were he is curious about him iv spoken to his father on several occasions about having contact but he just says he is to busy with his other children but this is no excuse to me at the end of the day he left me not his child
2006-09-20 02:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by vicky s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand either. My daughters father and I have common friends and when we go over to their house and shes ther but sleeping he won't even go peek at her. He has seen her at the fair and said hi to me and her dad (my now husband who is raising her) and didn't even look at her the funny thing is she is two and the women he's with has a daughter and a son that he is raising now. Not sure what that's all about.
But on the other hand my dad had a daughter and went and met her when she was 30. We live in a different country. And he was told not to try and contact her but he said he couldn't live with himself he didn't find her while he was still in good health and able to travel. needless to say her mother was not happy with my dad. But that was due to the mom and not the dad.
2006-09-19 11:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by niknac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant speak for any one else but i never saw my son till he was 2 1/2. It's the sorriest thing i ever did and all coz i was a selfish t**t to busy enjoying myself (at least at the time i thought i was enjoying myself) taking things i shouldn't and drinking amounts of alcohol i shouldn't. But i grew up and now it's me whos gotta live with what i did and the questions he'll no doubt ask... by the way i've got a lovely little family now three lads 8,6 and1.
2006-09-19 11:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by European Champion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some fathers are just complete Tosser's.
I saw mine at a family funeral last year, he was not interested in what I was doing or had been doing in the last ten years, as the last time I saw I was just 20.
He is a waste of space, and really does not deserve this many words written about him.
2006-09-19 20:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by thebigtombs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder this too, my nephew is nearly 13 and has not seen his Father since he was 1 year old. He dragged my sister through court to get custody but lost and won access instead, he turned up twice and then that was the last anyone ever see of him.
2006-09-19 19:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just meet my "sperm donor" or father last year, I talked to him on the phone a few times, went out to eat with him once, and went to his wedding, and he hasn't spoken to me since. I have no idea why but he hasn't wanted anything to do with me again.(he ran out when he found out my mom was pregnant) I found out for the frist time that I have two older brothers, and a couple of aunts and uncles. but have no way to contact anyone. I have tried to convince myself that he wasn't in the first 22 years of my life, so it shouldn't matter. But in all reality it still hurts.
If my father ever decides to talk to me again, I will ask him for you okay? then we will both know the answer.
I am so glad that my husband is here for me and my child, so that he doesn't have to grow up without knowing where he came from.
2006-09-19 11:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by paganrosemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋