our parents are so different, his are more well off, posher, I am worried they won't get on.
2006-09-19 10:57:27 · 33 answers · asked by Sharon T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
they aren't the ones getting married to each other, the important thing is that you and your future husband get on. if there's been 9 years and they've not met, chances are they wont meet many time after your wedding day either, I shouldn't worry.
2006-09-19 10:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age many couples don't have their parents getting together. Just because a relationship is serious, doesn't mean both sets of parents have to be friends!. It's also very old fashioned to assume people get engaged and should be married within a year or so. With 2 out of 3 marriages ending in divorce, whether you get married now or in 20 years, if ever, does not matter. Getting married does not guarantee happiness, security or staying together. I've just mentioned this as this is not sad as someone else wrote. My fiance of 5 years (and we'll wait 10 if we have to because we'd rather spend money on holidays and deposit for a house!) does not see his parents as they live on the other side of the world, this does not affect our relationship, is not an issue and whether or not one day our parents meet has nothing to do with our future. They are completely different, grew up in different countries and are like chalk and cheese. But who cares, eh?. The parents will meet, be nice to each other and that's probably it. I wouldn't worry who likes who and who doesn't, focus on your relationship - l wish you a lifetime of fun and happiness, married or not !
2006-09-22 16:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you put it off, the harder it will be explain the meeting.
Regardless of how worried you are, what's going to happen AT the wedding? What's going to happen when you both have kids?
A story:
My sister-in-law and her husband were engaged after dating for a few weeks. They didn't even TELL his parents for a few months--her parents didn't even meet his until a month before the wedding. What happened? She was thrown 5 showers, two by the mother-in-law who was in a different class. At the wedding my sister-in-law had people come who didn't even know her name.
Just introduce them. Your fiance IS the product of that marriage, and he IS going to be like his parents in some ways. It's time to get over your fear and host a nice sit-down meal. If you don't have time or energy (who does these days?) arrange a dinner at a nice restaurant. It will go better than you think.
2006-09-19 11:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just so sad! Firstly, why are you going out with a guy for six years and you're not married yet? Why would you agree to a three year plus engagement? Is that part of the problem? Whenever I went out with a guy seriously, having our families meet was paramount. When I finally had the one guy I ended up marrying, he was as comfortable in my parents' home as in his own. They loved him and welcomed him wholeheartedly in the family. Sorry you haven't had the same experience....
2006-09-19 23:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I got married just 4 weeks ago, and it was the first time our parents met as they live at different ends of the country and it was always myself and my partner that did the visiting! Try and arrange a party or a dinner where they can meet, then they wont feel like its a big occasion, and will hopefully just enjoy themselves and so will you!
2006-09-20 04:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be surprised. My parents were very kind to my second husband's parents, even though my parents were college educated and worked teaching at college and his parents both had blue collar jobs.
Also, you aren't marrying his parents. They are more likely to be impressed with you as a person if you present your parents in a matter of fact way, as being proud to be their daughter, loving and respecting them, as I'm sure you do. They are all just people. If your fiance's people are all stuck up, do you really want to marry into their family anyway?
2006-09-19 11:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by wo_manifest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't matter, they don't have to see each other.
Anyway, I'm sure they'll get on fine once you're married and got a few kids.
Give them time to get to know each other. My parents are different from my wife's. Mine are English, Hers are french, they can't understand each other's languages, so they never talk. Doesn't bother them one bit. They are polite when they meet, and even friendly, but have nothing in common whatsoever.
No problems !
2006-09-19 11:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by savs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as you love each other and are very sure you want to spend the rest of your lives together, nothing should matter! Just get the parents together without worrying about whether they will click on not. You two are clicking, eh? Tick Tock!
2006-09-20 01:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Shana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck!
Your worrying too much, people naturally expect the worst case scenarios and it won't possibly be as bad as your imagining - but if it is, then start thinking about yourselves and what you's want - your parents won't have to meet again after the wedding... and they're all supposed to be adults....
2006-09-19 11:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engaged for 3 years? Parents haven't met? ?????
2006-09-19 11:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by worldneverchanges 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋