One of my (female) friends has a male friend at work that she thinks would suit me, me and the bloke are both single. She's mentioned maybe a group of us doing something like going bowling but he's suddenly gone really against the idea saying he's wary of having a blind date! Do most blokes think like this or would you say there's something more to it? I'd be a bit nervous about meeting him but I think it could be fun as I've been single for a while and my mate thinks I'd get on with him
2006-09-19 10:33:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bloke = term for a man
2006-09-19 10:36:21 · update #1
and by blind date I mean dating someone I don't know yet. Though if we did go out there'd be at least 2 or 4 other people there as well so it wouldn't be that uncomfortable. Just not sure if he's genuinely wary or what it is.
I've been told I'm attractive. Been single since March 2005 because I don't really have any male friends, don't fancy anyone at work, and all the men out at the weekend are drunk and lairy and horrible!
2006-09-19 10:39:31 · update #2
Not that I'm saying this applies to you, but what can you REALLY expect from a blind date? As someone else put, if somebody is good looking, why would they need to go on a blind date? Now for all I know, both you and the guy might be stunningly attractive, but from HIS perspective (his, not mine, let's make that abudantly clear), you probably wouldn't be very good looking else you wouldn't be after a blind date.
I've done the blind date thing once - no I'm not a looker and I have my own problems getting women so that probably explains something there, but the girl in question... she wasn't a horrible person by any means but, and I don't mean to sound mean here, she wasn't good looking (and was VERY large, I can't highlight the emphasis on the word 'very' enough there), devoid of all personality and I got the impression she wasn't very bright either. And I didn't want to do the blind date because I figured this was EXACTLY the kind of thing that would happen. And then she spent several months harrassing me and phoning me at all hours of the night after I'd asked nicely several times for her not to contact me any more. I have to admit I didn't expect that.
So look at it from his point of view - he won't be expecting much and would rather not have the hassle with that being the case. Assuming you are actually a good catch, so to speak, your friend is better off trying to arrange some large social gathering and introducing the two of you then without suggesting to the guy beforehand that there are any intentions (even if that's what she ultimately wants). Admitedly, the bowling event you described sounds similar to this, but your friend probably said something about a blind date, hence him being put off.
Frankly, I know a lot of women that feel along the same lines about blind dates and would rather not go down that canal, so it's not a man thing in the slightest.
2006-09-19 10:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by chris_ninety1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blind dates seldom work out. Why would an attractive girl want a blind date anyway ?
2006-09-19 10:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by redjonjak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depend on how shallow he is. The usual fear is ending up being introduced to a moose, and having to endure a date with someone you find repulsive. You'll find that if you get your friend to show pictures of each of you his fears will either melt away or he'll bolt for the bathroom window.
Basically it's a sign of immaturity and shallowness, but don't hold it against him, all us men suffer from it....sorry ;-)
2006-09-19 10:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be more to it. I met a girl online, we went on a blind date, and now we live together, so not all blokes are idiots.
2006-09-19 10:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Joker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why could desire to I be afraid of dates interior the 1st place. they are candy, delicate, blond or black and that i like eating them, exceptionally with nuts. !! an extremely intense high quality fruit of a palm those dates are.... what's this "blind dates" component? a clean style?? lol lol
2016-10-17 07:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my last blind date was probably the nicest girl in the world but I couldn't get past her looks. she was not pleasent looking to me. just invite me over to a friends house for dinner. If I'm interested I'll hook up
2006-09-19 10:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean Hun,
I have been on a couple myself ( In company ) and it seems as if you have to talk to your date all night, like her or not. I for one would be more comfortable on a one to one I think.
But HEY..... what have you got to loose ? Its a night out isn't it?
and us singles dont get overloaded with invites do we ?
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2006-09-19 10:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blind dates r fun
2006-09-19 17:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by merlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i was scared.arranged through friends to go to the cinema. met up with her there. ended up seeing the adams family,she was bloo*y in it. cousin it and fester all rolled into one. still have nightmares now it was 12 years ago
2006-09-19 10:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if there isn't room for the cane and the dog under the table..
2006-09-19 10:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋