My girl and I started our relationship with a healthy sex life. Now, all of a sudden, we have it less and less among other things. I love to have sex and I know she does, so I know something's wrong. I told her we needed to talk and she jumped straight to "because I didn't want to have sex?". I said, "It's more to it than that, but yes that is an issue." She feels sex isn't that important and I disagree. What's your opinion, please respond.
2006-09-19 09:10:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-19 09:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things: 1. WHY doesn't she want to have sex anymore? That's more important than how important is it in the relationship. 2. the first thing she answers your question with is "because I didn't want to have sex" sounds like she's holding out for some reason. If she says sex isn't that important to her she might be looking for other ways to connect with you. She might be feeling like that's all you want her for. Sex is important but if you put too much emphasis on it it could have the opposite effect. Go with it for a while show her its not all of what your about and if she doesn't come around then you can address the issue.
2006-09-19 09:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Smithy14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that sex is important in a relationship however just because there has been a decrease doesn't mean that you should jump to the worst conclusion. As a female there are multiply factors that go into having that certain drive. She could be stressed out from an outside factor. Try not to pressure her at all and be understanding and see if you can help resolve whatever issue is at hand.
2006-09-19 09:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Boo Bah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very important but it not the most important. Sometimes girls just don't want to do it all the time, I know you said you used to have a lot but not anymore, it doesnt mean somethings wrong but you shoudl check it out, though. Maybe you should try something knew, it's hard to say you are bored with sex or something like that? But maybe you are worrying about nothing at all. Good luck in getting some more (I mean that, not being sarcastic)
2006-09-19 09:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by stlllllllll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not the only important part in a relationship. However, your sex life says a LOT about how the two of you are feeling in your relationship. Chances are, it has nothing to do with you, maybe she didn't feel good or something on that particular day. The amount of sex in a relationship does fluctuate quite a bit. You need to talk to her about it, objectively and respectfully.
2006-09-19 09:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by yumyum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its important. The way I always figure it, what's important isn't whether you're doing anything, its whether you want to. If the attraction isn't there, you have serious problems. They can take out an otherwise good relationship, but they can also be a sign of problems in a relationship that looks good on the surface. Yes, you need to talk.
2006-09-19 09:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by pag2809 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a very fun, happy, fufilling relationship. however, the sex so far has been...not so. i don't mind at all and he seems to enjoy himself so good. i'm a giver and there are plenty of other ways he can please me besides sex. and he's damn good at them all. i know people who were virgins when they were married and they were with the guy for five years before they got married. and no sex. so sex obviously isn't that important. in fact too much sex can tear a relationship apart. people can start to replace things such as communication and doing things together with sex. like my last relationship. so i think sex is something we can all live without, and bad sex is something we can all live with. if you care about someone you can overlook it. now all relationships go thorugh a "bunny rabbit" stage where you bang like bunnies alot. eventually that starts to disipate. you think all married couples bang all day like they did when they first met? no, sex begins to fufill a need in the heart rather than in the pants. it's becomes something special you share and enjoy together, and you don't have to enjoy it all the time like you used to. just make the times you do have with your girlfriend as special as you can. you can make sex an important part of your realtionship but it shouldn't be all or even more than 50% of it.
2006-09-19 09:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sex is importanat , but you said you Stated your relationship with a healthy sex life and it could mean she is feeling that is all you want her for. Try talking to her about how the relationship has changed and be understanding.
2006-09-19 09:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any mature relationip, sex is imporant. It is not the end-all-be-all, but it is important. If she suddenly doesn't want to have sex with you it is an indication of a more serious problem in your relationship. If she has decided that sex isn't imporant, then you will probably have to decide whether you can live with that. If not, you should break up.
2006-09-19 09:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex in a relationship these days is more important then love that's the number reason people cheat and leave out of relationship so you need to let her no whats up
2006-09-19 09:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with us, yahoo question answerers if you expect us to help you. It's okay that your a Homo, we won't hold that against you. And yes, sex with your boyfriend is an
important part of your relationship.
2006-09-19 09:18:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋