She is such a snob...seriously. she looks down on people and thinks she should "lead" every group. She is mouthy to other girls her age, and I am not sure how she learned this behavior... i know you will assume from me, but i have never been that way, and most certianly never in front of her. I push her to be kind and respectful. But at the same time i want her to have a leadership quality,HELP!!!
2006-09-19 08:58:11 · 11 answers · asked by ladyjno7 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
No no no- stop her. I knew a snobby girl like that in second grade, she still hasn't left my memory after five years.
I KNOW! Show her the movie Mean Girls and tell her that she will be just like Regina George, bus and all, if she doesn't cut it out.
2006-09-19 10:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is learned behavior. You want her to be a leader, and she knows it. This is the way to be a leader in her mind. You say she did not learn it from you.... are you the leader in your household? Also she may be acting out behavior learned from an older playmate or older sibling.
However she got that way, it is a learned behavior and therefore to address it, it must be unlearned, or redirected. You will not be able to keep 'leadership' quality and 'unlearn' the behavior (through punishments), as your child will still associate bullying with leadership and being punished for being a bully will be the same as being punished for being a leader in her eyes.
You can redirect and improve her leadership abilities however. Being the queen bee is not a bad thing if all the worker bees love and respect her. Teach her about respect and humility and show it to her in your own lives. Teach her the responsibilities of leadership, that as a leader she must set the example. Give her tasks in this area each week, "All the girls look up to you and so this week I want you to make sure that everybody is being nice to the new kid in school, you can start by making (him/her) your friend".
2006-09-22 17:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same issue with my 6 yr old. I teach her to be kind and polite but at school the teacher says she makes all the kids do what she wants and she picks on other girls. I think it is the way kids see things on tv. I am proud that she is a leader and popular but I am worried she can pick on kids and doesnt even care. I am looking at your answers also. Good Luck
2006-09-19 16:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her watch the movie "Mean Girls". Then she'll she how BAD it is to be mean to other kids.
You should teach her that she can still be "the queen bee" WITHOUT having to be mean to others. Actually, people become MORE popular by being nice. The nicer you are, the more popular you are. I learned this in summer camp *wink* *wink*
2006-09-20 00:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to fix something that isn't broken. Don't worry the other kids will put her in her place when it is time to do so. You are trying to "fight her battles for her" she isn't going to learn how to be kind and respectful if you do it all for her. Let her learn by experience.
2006-09-20 03:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a soup kitchen and tell her it's good to help others,
or volunteer with her to collect clothes for the needy,
and ask her what's up with her,
and listen to what she's trying to tell you.
Perhaps she's lonely, and doesn't know how to make friends, or perhaps they already don't want to be friends with her.
Listen to her, then you'll be able to help.
I keep hearing you way.....what you want....duhh where did she get her attitude???
It's not about you....it's about her....duhhh!
2006-09-22 17:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how people don't like those who act that way and if she wants friends she needs to be nicer. Also take her to church teach her about God and His will for her life. Once she realizes that she's behaving superficially and that there's more to life then attitude and money she will change
2006-09-19 16:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like the female version of my 9 year old son!! He is more bossy tho, and yeah we do not act like that (at least I don't), I'm just gonna read your answers---you're not alone tho, good luck!!
2006-09-19 16:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by POPPY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this book!-
unless you're biased against the Bible...
http://www.gospeltruth.net/children/pearl_tuac.htm
2006-09-19 16:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start kicking her butt put her in her room if she acts up sit down with her and talk to her about the way u want to be instead of the wats she acts now u have to be controlling not her
2006-09-19 16:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋