sooo how do i convince.... (read on)??

Question

my already crazily overprotective and narcassistic parens to not send me to a psychiatrist when ive lost weight and have acted weird bcz i am scared they will send me to one but only made thins worse since i knew that if they did it would only make them mooooreee crazily overprotective etc over me ... im 22 by the way so dont treat me like a stupid child as well serious qn...

yes ppl can be overprotective and narcassistic unfortunately...
it means they only care about u so far as u fulifill their needs and what they want wish u to be/fullfill their dreams ways of being or feel the full force of the punishment that will come with it....

Answer 1

wow! ur 22 and ur parents are still overprotective? ok they can care but to do something like take u to see one of those is a bit ott.... have u tried talking to them bout how u feel, maybe getting ur own place (if u haven't already) i dont think they can force u to see one, u are 22 after all..

im 25, and my mum stopped "protecting" me at 18, u gotta learn sometime..

good luck with this, and i really feel for u
take care

Answer 2

first of all, are you really 22? you sound like 13. because if you are 22, there is no reason for your parents to be over protective if you are not too young. the way you wrote your question tells me that you are not really that old.

im 24, my mom tends to be overprotective as well... but it's not up to a point where she forbids me to do whatever i want to do. she just wants me to communicate with her and tell her what i'll be doing, where i'll be going etc.

if your parents are overprotective -- it's either because you are still young, or if you are already older... it could be that you did something that would have made them lose their trust on you. it could be that you were dishonest about something... and they just stopped trusting you.

second. why would you say that your parents are narcissistic? do you even know what a narcissist is? if they are narcissistic as you have claimed -- i expect them to be the opposite of what you would describe. not only would they NOT be over protective, they probably wouldn't care also.

third, you did not state what is the reason why your parents "want to send you to a psychiatrist?"

i would say that you have to be honest with your parents all the time. but your question doesn't make sense. you did not put any reason why your parents don't trust you, which makes me think -- maybe there is something that you DID that made them angry. if yes, then you have to apologize and gain their trust back by listening to them.

Answer 3

Right overprotective means they care about you too much, narcissistic means they don't care about you at all - which is it?
Next - why have you lost weight? Are you deliberately starving yourself or are you sick?
In what way are you acting weird?

I'll make some assumptions to answer, I assume you have dramatically lost a lot of weight, and I guess it is because you are starving yourself. I assume that your parents are near hysterical about your eating habits hence the wanting to take you to the psychiatrist.
Let's establish that your parents care, most do, I would be out of my mind if my child was starving themself, because I would think I had brought them up badly or I had done something wrong. I would also want to know what was going on inside your head so that I could make it all better cos that is parental instinct. And child instinct to parental concern is to clam up. There follows a big load of needless stress.
First of all, answer the questions, I first asked you, then go and talk to them. You said yourself you are twenty two, when I was your age I had to tell my parents I was going to marry my husband whether they liked it or not, I was scared, 10 years later I am still here, they understood. When my dad died he knew he had left me in good hands.
If you are starving yourself there is a reason why, if it's cos you think you look fat, tell them. If they say you don't say you can't help it. Let them restore some of your self esteem and pour some tender loving care on you. Tell them all the worries you have and if they suggest you go to see a doctor go - what harm can it do? Everyone needs to talk to someone, everyone feels something is a big thing that others think is nothing. Don't be sent to a doctor, be taken, lean on them, let them suppot you. Stop blocking everyone out, and get all the bad feelings out of your system.
If you are ill, you can get better but you need support to do it. No man is an island and all that jazz. Good luck !

Answer 4

if your 22 your parents cannot force you to see a shrink or any doctor for that matter you are an adult and unless a court finds you unable to make decisions for yourself they can't force you to go. If you still live with these over protective parents move out and prove that you can make it on your own.
Did you lose the weight through exercise and a sensible diet or do you have an eating disorder? If you do have an eating issue then seeing someone might be of benefit if not then explain to them how you lost the weight and that you are taking care of yourself and need your space to make your own decisions even if they are not the same ones your parents would make. We often learn more from our mistakes then we do from our successes and we need to be free to choose.

Answer 5

I think you'll need to slow it down a bit and break up the paragraph into some sentences that make a little more sense. It's hard to tell what you're upset about (besides having overprotective parents). Did you lose weight and they're worried or they want you to lose more weight?

Totally confused about how to help.

Answer 6

You need to branch out and be an adult. Maybe they care, but are showing that in the wrong way. Tell them you feel insulted that they are treating you this way and are not respecting your point of view. You should sit them down and have a serious with them both. good luck

Answer 7

It's not too late to go back to school at age 22>

Answer 8

Since you're 22, they have no say over you anymore.

Answer 9

If your 22 then they cannot 'send' you.

Answer 10

sounds like you need to sit em down and have a good talk, you dont seem crazy to me . you could move out , i mean your 22yrs old why are you living at home still ?