i'm with the best person i've ever met! or.. at least i thought.. til she cheated on me.. her dad's the same way so she blames it on that alot and i know she can stop. she promises she is but never does.. she went a good while being faithful but then this past weekend she screwed up again, even if it was just a kiss. she comes back crying, making me cry, swearing she loves me and wants to spend a life with me this morning and promising she will never ever do it again.. i want to trust her because i love her so much! but i don't want to be hurt.. i don't want to leave now with her being honest about not cheating on me because even though she has, its been the best year and 3 months of my life!
2006-09-19 08:32:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what should i do?
2006-09-19 08:33:02 · update #1
The best thing is to tell her that you'll always forgive her, but this is the last time you're going to be played for a fool. If she does it again, you're not going to get mad, you're not going to get even, you're just going to go find someone who respects you. Then, stick to it. If she screws up again, you find someone who respects you.
2006-09-19 08:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you let her cheat on you, it will continue. Every time she does it, you take her back, so why on Earth would she ever stop?
The crap about her father is just an excuse. She's old enough to have a serious relationship, then she's old enough to make her own decisions. The fact that her father was a piece of garbage should make her LESS likely to cheat. She's seen what it does to a relationship and a family.
Dump her now. You deserve better.
2006-09-19 08:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear about you situation, hope this advice helps...
You need to take a good hard look at why she does what she does. First...you know that she doesn't respect you. She may say that she loves you but does this sound like something that you do when you love someone? You also need to respect yourself more, If you don't respect yourself she won't either. Maybe she can change .....but if she's looking elsewhere its probably you that she wants to change. Let her off the hook and dump her, that's what she wants, she's just too scared to tell you to your face.
Good luck with whatever you do here, I wouldn't want to be in your situation.
2006-09-19 08:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by gimmefuel2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave this girl! She obviously doesn't care nearly as much about you as you do her and using her dad as an excuse is just pathetic. She will continue to do this because she knows you will take her back. You need to let her go. It will be hard, sure, but eventually it'll be easier and you'll find someone else that you love more than her who loves you the same.
2006-09-19 08:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by amanda725_2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The VERY most important thing in any relationship is trust. If you can't trust her, then there is no point in being with her. I understand that you think you love her, but if she loved you, she wouldnt cheat on you. Once is MAYBE excusable but not more than once. Haven't you ever heard the saying "You hurt me once shame on you, you hurt me twice, shame on me". Now it's not her fault she keeps cheating on you, it's your fault because you keep letting her get away with it. YOu're the one looking stupid because your girlfriend keeps cheating on you and you still keep her around.
2006-09-19 08:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't trust her. once a cheater always a cheater. i've taken a cheater back only to have my heart broken again. you just have to get on with your life without them. tell her you're sorry but you can't be with someone who wants to be with everyone else at the same time.
2006-09-19 08:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just move on. she snt respecting you enough to keep her word or be faithful. good luck!
2006-09-19 08:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't marry her, that's for sure because she has not changed her stripes yet. . . . .she may, but . . . . . . . I'd wait a LONG time.
2006-09-19 08:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her it is over if she cheats again
2006-09-19 08:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by tanner s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on my friend, move on.
2006-09-19 08:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋