hi, my daughter is 6 now.. and when she was 3-4 i did akinda chart you can by these from local staioners,with smily face stickers sad faced stickers or a face thats in between, and every day when your daughter behaves she gets a smiley face on her chart , make abig fuss of her and tell her how well shes done and in volve her and let her stick the stickers on herself, and if shes not so good then sad face , and if shes not bad,lol the in the middle face, and then tell her if she can get a smiley sticker for everyday of the week, at the end of the week she willl get a small present, ie sweeties, new book etc, yr daughter, will really want to behave as the little stickers are abit of anovelty and make them feel quite special, especailly when they get ahappy face!!..and after a few weeks to amonth you will find yr daughter starts to behave because she has learnt to, and not just because there is areward, and if a few mths down the road, shes misbehaving again, just start it again, it really works wonders, and the children find it lots of fun too! goodluck
2006-09-19 08:26:33
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answered by georgousgirlz 1
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LOL.. my suggestion was on Nanny 911! That's funny...
She had jars with the kids names on them, and they got a marble put in when they did a chore or did what mom asked, or were kind... anything that deserves a reward. Then at the end of the week, the marbles were counted and reward was given... This was for a family with 3 children, so it was a competitive thing, which is why I think that it worked so well, but I bet you could modify it... say, a certain # of marbles at the end of the week and mommy takes you out for ice cream, or a barbie... since she's 3 you'd want to keep it REALLY simple, but I bet you could figure something out....
2006-09-19 15:27:38
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answered by sokkermum 2
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The only system that worked with my was sticker on a clearly define sticker board (Reward) and timeout for clearly defined reasons (punishment).
It works for the both of them 4.5 and 3 and I make it a ritual everyday to go to the sticker board and go through the good stuff they accomplished. I make a point of giving the timeout immediately when the naughty thing took place.
PS: Once the sticker board is full, they get a reward (a new book, an evening at the restaurant, a game of their choice with mum and dad...)
2006-09-20 00:12:05
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answered by panda 3
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First off, you have to remember that a TV show is just that... a TV show.. it's made to get ratings, plain and simple. In actuality "time outs" should be used sparingly, if used often they lose their effectiveness. Also, you should not use time outs on children under 2 and for children over 2 it is recommended to keep them in time out for 1 minute per year of age, so a 3 year old shouldn't be kept in time out for more than 3 minutes. now, moving on.. there are many, many reward/reinforcement systems.. but i personally like this system.. give the child a choice! first off that doesn't mean you give in!, you are the adult and what you say needs to be what happens. that doesn't mean to say NO! remember, children learn by mimicking you, so if you use the work NO they are going to use it also, instead, give them 2 choices that both are appropriate to you. for instance, if the child is throwing a fit, in a calm voice you can tell them that they shouldn't be throwing a fit, and give them the choice to act right or two throw a fit in their room.. for the first few times they are going to want to keep throwing a fit and they probably won't easily go to their room.. so you give them the choice of walking to their room or you can carry them to their room.. again the first few times they will probably make you carry them... then you can ask them if they want to stay on the floor or on the bed.. and you can set them down wherever they pick. then you can ask them if they like the lights on or off.. then you can end the session with the first question again (basically) would you like to throw a fit or stay in your room.. if you are consistent with this eventually as soon as you ask the first question they realize what's going on and will straighten up fairly quickly. also, if at any time they decide not to make a choice, just let them know that you will make the choice for them if they don't choose. my nephews are some of the most stubborn children on the planet.. and my mother has effectively used this method on them many times. just make sure the choices are appropriate and consistent! if you do, however, want to go purely with a physical rewards based system use things that are small, out of your way, and that the child can see.. a good example would be stickers on a board.. just don't use candy or large toys.. don't use candy because (depending on the state you live in) child obesity is up to 15-38%. as for toys, they can get in the way and frustrate you.. and again, children mimic, so if you are frustrated, they will act like you. another thing you can do is let the child be a part of what you are doing.. say you notice that every day when you start cooking in the afternoon your child starts to act up. it's probably not a true behavioral problem, but a cry for attention, so you can play a game with them, and let them help out at an appropriate level. that doesn't mean let them fire up the oven, but rather maybe every day when you cook their job can be to get shiny mixing bowl out, and even if you don't need it that day, they can get it out. you'll see that they will act up less, just because you are fulfilling their need for your attention.
2006-09-19 15:50:07
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answered by pip 7
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It really depends on how you plan to reward or punish. When my child does one "naughty" thing in one day, he is "punished" for the rest of the day. No TV, no toys, no computer. (he is 5). When he is good for one week I give him something that I know he wants, when an entire month, I take him out just him and I.
2006-09-19 15:29:22
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answered by Anonymous
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you could try the point system, even though she is young she will learn that this is a good thing.
my son is now 7 and we have used the point system for a few years now.
he earns points for his good behaviour and even chores now, and loses them for being naughty.
he can then use these points to 'spend' in a special 'shop' we have on a saturday morning.
things in this shop can include, a small amount of sweets, small toys, books, magazines, cds and even dvds.
earlier this year he amassed a total of 250 points, which was enough for him to buy a dvd of the incredibles that he desperately wanted.
you could try a similar type of system, where she earns points/stickers/etc... and they can be used to gain treats - ice cream, sweets, storybooks, toys, etc
the idea is that you have a board for the points to be written on, and where she can look to see how she is doing that week.
its up to you how you do it, but as supernanny always says you must keep it up. whatever you do chose for your child, you must not stop (unless of course it doesn't work), but you can always add things in later years, like points for chores - taking out rubbish, laying the table, etc...
good luck with whatever you chose.
:-)
2006-09-19 15:35:45
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answered by ? 3
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i think a good punsihment is time out or a spankin...thats how ive been raised...and for a reward u could do a chart of some kind and have a sticker for every time she does something good or helpfull and if she misbehaves take a sticker off and when it is full u can take her out somewhere or buy her a toy.....that might work
2006-09-19 15:28:01
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answered by Shelly 2
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You can try a chart if she does somthing good she can add a sticker to it. When it is full the she gets the reward. If she doesnt listen of is being bad you giver her a warning that you will take a sicker off her chart. Then if she still doesnt listen then take a sticker off.
2006-09-19 15:23:18
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answered by tpenut 1
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WOW thats so funny. I watched a super nanny marathon last week and saw the time out mat and that will be my next attempt. I think the best reward system is unconditional love. Its not about the bribery. It should be if you're good we get to do more time doing things TOGETHER that we like to do. If you're not good, you go to your time out mat.
2006-09-19 15:19:50
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answered by camoprincess32 4
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ok girl if ur child miss behaves put her in her room and let her just sit there for a few if she does good at times give her a reward like a piece of candy or something she likes
2006-09-19 15:33:01
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answered by Anonymous
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