We are usually together most evenings.Not last night. I went to our favorite bar and got pretty drunk. A young pretty girl pursued me and i gave in. I dont know what the hell i was thinking. I kissed her back. I drove her to her apartment and walked her in and we kissed some more. Thats all that happened but the guilt is freakin killing me today and i'm gonna tell her after work today because we have an honest relationship. I dont think i need to give any details but i'm not sure how to put it.Any suggestions?
2006-09-19 08:12:20 · 25 answers · asked by SCHMUCKY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, when you get into her place or whatever act like your really sad like your best friend got killed or something really horrible. When she say's what is wrong just look at her and (still acting like you are in tremendous pain)say "we have to talk". Then say "last night I realized how much you mean to me but I have to tell you something that happened" then say (acting really serious) "I can't believe this ****" and walk away and then turn to her when she says what. Then say "I got wasted and kissed some ho last night but then when I did, I realized I didn't want her and that I love you and I left". Then say "all day i've been worrying that the best thing that ever happened to me might be over and it's all my fault". Just take it from there. Say that you told the other woman you couldn't stay because you love your girlfriend as you were leaving.
2006-09-19 08:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"baby, we have a really honest relationship. And I want to keep that. I dont want to loose your trust. 'I went to our favorite bar and got pretty drunk. A young pretty girl pursued me and i gave in. I dont know what the hell i was thinking. I kissed her back. I drove her to her apartment and walked her in and we kissed some more.' then i left. nothing more happened. im sorry"
-no details??? if u dont give everything right away she might ask u and get mad more when u FINALLY come out with the whole truth
i must say i am amazed by ur honesty to ur girl. she's very lucky to have someone so honest.
u should tell her before someone that u both know that was also at 'ur favorite bar" tells her. it would be better coming from u
2006-09-19 08:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh careful I've heard of some women now doing this. Women hell even 18 yearxolds are freaking smart well cleverc really. Anyway they'll do this. They'll get you to go out or find a night like that one where you do and set you up. It's not hard.
This is how women know when you cheat.
The thing you need to know now is understand her reaction
1 if she doesn't say a thing. That's bad.
Ok hees an example say this happens the guy that did this to his gf walks in that night says to her off hand... Hey guess what I ****** some random.
1 if she just gies that's nice she knew about it. But it'll click in a few.... she'll say: WHAT!? To save face. Make it out to be your fault etc etc etc. Si yeah watch out.
First off the best way to do this without her knowing or finding out is ... What and guys look here girls do this all the time... :) that's right they pick a fight... Get you and. Etc don't believe me go ask one. Watch in horror as your jaw drops hahahaha. I'm telling you.
2016-04-14 05:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may want the details and if she does you should just tell her since all you did was kiss.
I don't know that your relationship will be the same, that really sucks that the 1 time you go out with out her that ends up happening. Bad luck I guess, but I personally would have to take a long time to think things through if my guy ever did that to me.
Best of luck!
2006-09-19 08:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... this is a tough question to answer. I have to put myself in her shoes (as should you!) and wonder, would I want to know if my man kissed another girl? No. Would I want to know that he went over to another girls house and made out with her? No. Would I want him keeping something like that from me? Probably not.
I have to say that I agree with the other answers on here that you are only planning on telling her because you feel guilty about it. Well, that isn't very fair to her. You tell her this, and then you feel better right? Because you were open and honest with her. Well, then she feels like crap because you cheated (and she WILL see it as cheating!). then she will start to question everything. Are you really where you say you are? Are you really talking to who you say you are talking to? When you don't call her back are you with someone else? Unfortunately, we are all prisoners of our own mind and this is going to really mess with her head.
I know that you feel bad for what you did. But if you are telling the truth and all you did was kiss this girl, and you have NO intention of EVER doing it again, you should probably not tell her. But keep in mind that if she ever finds out, she will be even more hurt that you cheated and then lied about it.
Good luck.
2006-09-19 08:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you are feeling guilty about it. It shows you have a conscience, unlike many men. You know what you did was wrong, and it's great that you were able to acknowledge it. Just be up front and honest and tell your girlfriend right when you see her. Don't wait, because otherwise you might be afraid and back down. Yes, she will be hurt, but it's better to be hurt from the truth then to be happy with a lie.
2006-09-19 08:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing i can honestly tell you is that just tell her. At least then you can't get blamed for not telling her in the first place. Get what i am saying? I don't really think there is a good way to tell her but to just tell the whole truth. That is all i can tell you what to do. Sooo good luck and hopefully you will not give in to any more young girls.
2006-09-19 08:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I wouldn't tell her because it's only going to torture her and make her question whether she's sexy enough for you, etc. I would just keep it to myself and use it as a learning experience and not get myself into this kind of situation again. If pretty young-thing calls you and tries to reconnect, tell her you were totally drunk and you are commited to someone else. Good luck and don't do it again!
2006-09-19 08:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by JennyF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why tell her? To make yourself feel better (Assuming she forgives you) or to help her in some way?
The only thing you do by telling her is to make her feel miserable and betrayed. If you value her and you relationship just dont do it again!
On the other hand if you feel there is more to this and you might stray again then just break up with her and do the right thing for her and for you.
2006-09-19 09:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oddly, I suggest you keep your mouth shut.
You wanna tell her because of your guilt "killing you". Dont you think its selfish to wanna relieve your guilt while hurting your girl? You deserve whatever you are feeling at this point. Suffer with it in silence.
2006-09-19 08:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋