I'm getting married next year, and trying to figure out who I want in my wedding party. I have 3 best friends. I'm having a hard time deciding who I want as my maid of honor. I don't have a sister or any female cousins to use in that capacity, and I don't want any of my friends to be jealous that I picked one over the others. Do I have to have one?
2006-09-19 08:08:35 · 29 answers · asked by Becca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just to clarify, I plan on having all 3 as bridesmaids. And I thought about the "Friends" idea, but 2 are already married, each using their sisters as maid/matrons of honor.
2006-09-19 08:16:39 · update #1
you don't have to have a maid of honor. It's optional. I personally am having a matron of honor (my best friend who is married), a maid of honor (my oldest friend) and then a bridesmaid...there's really nothing to it other than the title and where they stand at the altar.
2006-09-19 09:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my sister in law. I don't have any sisters or cousins nor really any close female friends (long story). However, I was in a wedding in 2002 with a girl I went to high school with. She has two older sisters that she was in their weddings. They were both Matrons of honor and her best friend from another state came in and was her Maid of honor. Actually there were 8-9 attendants in all and the way she distinguished us was the Maids/Matrons wore white gloves and the rest of us wore black gloves.
Anyhoo, I see no problem in sitting them all down and telling them you love each of them and you see no point in making one more important than the others. If nothing else, drop the title and just have the three of them as bridesmaids. The only problem will be deciding which of them stands closest to you.
I had two, my brothers wife who is actually my closest female friend and my husbands sister. I called my brother wife my Matron and my husbands sister my Maid. No biggie.
2006-09-19 15:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,they're is no rule stating you had to had one but i can give you an option since you have 3 best friends why not have the married to be your matrons of honor and the unmarried one be a maid of honor .I would not worry about petty jjjealousy since it will past this is your day and any to jealous to enjoy it doesn;'t belong there this is about your happiness not others.
2006-09-19 19:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't. My son and daughter-in-law had no attendents at all at her wedding and my cousin only had bridesmaids and groomsmen; no maid of honor or best man.
I would suggest your 3 best friends be your bridesmaids and share equally in the duties, privileges, etc.
Are you close to your mom? My friend did something special. She was close to her mom so she had her mom as matron of honor and her friends were bridesmaids. Her friends couldn't argue with that and their feelings were not hurt at all. It was a wedding I will never forget...very touching.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-19 15:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by CJ Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have someone sign the marriage license as a witness. I would recommend your mom. Have 3 bridesmaids & no maid of Honor. That will work out the best.
2006-09-19 15:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not have a Maid of Honor. I had 3 friends and just decided to give each one of them a small job instead of having just one be the maid of honor
2006-09-19 15:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by naute_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all 3 are your bestfriends, then all 3 will probably be helping you with the wedding details. You could either make them all your Maid of Honor or all Bridesmaids. It's your wedding and you can do whatever you want! : )
2006-09-19 15:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by thaigoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly, anything goes with your wedding. It is your day to do just as you wish and no one is going to leave saying "wow, she didn't have a maid/matron of honor."
I don't think one is necessary anyway. Having your three best friends all stand up for you as bridesmaids is a lovely idea... and I am sure they will all appreciate being appreciated equally!
2006-09-19 16:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of no one attending as maid of honor, you could ask each of your three friends to do a special and unique function at your wedding. One can stand with you on the alter (or whatever) and serve as the female counterpart to the best man, one could sit beside you at the head table, and one can list the bridesmaid's dresses on ebay. (or choose another exalted duty for #3) that way each of them can have a special position in your ceremony.
2006-09-19 15:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your day and it should be whatever works best for you not them. Dare I say it but sometimes females get a little jealous about who gets to be who at weddings so perhaps they could all be maids of honor or all be attendants.
Or you could do what they did on Friends: everyone take turns. So Rachel become's Monica's maid of honour, Monica becomes Phoebe's, and Phoebe's becomes Rachel's.
Your call but I send you my best wishes for a great day and a lifetime of happiness together.
2006-09-19 15:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Alma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋