me and my son argue all the time is this the teenage yrs....but later on he feels sorry and so do i ..is this what teenagers do???or what.
2006-09-19 08:05:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
it just makes me so sad i just won't to cry i love my son it has alwasy been me and him divorced when he was 1 1/2 .and he has a step dad but it's more like a friend u no ...
2006-09-19 08:14:58 · update #1
THANK YOU ALL SO VERY GOOD COMMENTS..................
2006-09-19 08:17:03 · update #2
all the answers r great ..so thank all of you i feel so much better.
2006-09-19 16:46:17 · update #3
Oh yes this is the teenage years but by listening to your ad-ons to this question it is much more than that. In life it is much easier to fight with someone you love and trust than to fight with a stranger. Although your son may not know it but he feels safe fighting with you because deep inside he knows you will never stop loving him no matter how much you fight. Life as we all know it is not easy and for a teenager it is so full of stress with his peers. we as adults have learn to condition ourselves to take a certain amount of stress then push it away for a while.
yes being the mom, you are in for many bumpy rides but just remember he is your baby and he will always be your baby and the love he will always have will do nothing but grow.
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2006-09-19 18:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much... I'm not a parent, but I was a teenager recently enough to remember all too well what I went through with my parents, and I'm seeing the same thing with my little sister (who's only 11, but starting early I think). I was always a pretty good kid - helped out around the house, got straight As, never gave my parents much trouble - then the year I turned 13, I started fighting with my parents all the time. I told my mother I hated her - then apologized, crying, a couple hours later. It's hormonal, mostly, and it's hard, but it will end all too soon and he'll be grown up before you know it. Just learn to choose your battles - don't give in to him to easily, but if he's obviously just trying to be difficult or start something then drop it. Teenagers will use any excuse to argue with their parents. If you drop the small arguments, it will be easier to win the bigger, more important ones.
2006-09-19 15:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Cristin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This starts as early as ten years old.
Heck, even earlier.
I got like that.
I'm twelve now.
I still do.
Teenagers do that all the time.
We're all just changing.
Sometimes I'll randomly get annoyed with my mom, but then later I'll realize how pointless it was.
It'll go away in time, don't worry! He still loves you! If he didn't, would he feel so sorry? I feel bad when I get mad at my mom, and it's just because I love her and I don't ever want to lose her over something silly. Even though something as silly as different opinions will never take away how much I love her, it still worries me. A lot.
Anyhoo, he's just going through changes. He might even just be tired. When you reach your teenage years, your body tells you to go to sleep later and sleep in later. It's real facts based on real research from real sciencetists.
It's okay to argue- it's normal for everyone!
Just make sure that no physical anger gets involved, and that neither of you abandom each other- you'll both regret it.
2006-09-19 17:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is regular teenage behavior. I did the same thing to my mom, we fought all the time. Don't worry about it once a kid reaches the age of 18 19 they realize how silly they were for fighting with mom and dad so much. It's a hormonal rush and it happens. Don't worry about it. It gets better PROMISE. Especially since you both feel sorry.
2006-09-19 15:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Snowtoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean.
Its just that there are lots of emotions involved when you're a teenager and they are very new. So dealing with them requires so much more energy and not only that but now there are things he may feel he may not be able to tell you...and that in its self is frustrating. So don't worry most of the time it has nothing to do with you.
Hope this helps
2006-09-19 15:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by winnielours44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teens are a breed of their own. I'm sure you love him and it cant be easy being a single mom. It's good he has a father-figure but do be sure of the boundaries. Just be patient with him. If he's receptive, ask him about himself, get to know what's going on in his life and what excites him/makes him unhappy. You need to communicate when you are not arguing.
2006-09-19 15:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sofia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The teenagers are experiencing personality problems at this age, and they are very vulnerable to any psyhologic threat. So it's best to stop argueing with him and trying to put the problem in a manner that he understands and agrees with.
2006-09-19 15:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by shteck2k6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a 14 yr old, so I can tell you that, yes, this is surely what teenagers do...uh, even though I'm a girl, i kinda know what the guys are like. lol.
2006-09-19 17:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen mother...
i am 14 and i go through the same with my mum most times
not v. often but i know what you mean
teens at my age always feel like you wanna tell us what to do all the time
so we take everything offensively so that leads to arguments and then understanding our mistakes and sometimes apologising. this i think carries on about other things too like about allowance and how late you let us stay out... you have to understand us...
2006-09-19 15:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by TMFULP. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 to argue. He won't learn that it's inappropriate unless you cut it out first.
2006-09-19 15:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋