I feel like I am in love, but not sure..I spent 1 week with him, and that is it.. The rest has been on the phone, email, text.. He says he loves me, but not sure if he does.Things are strange sometimes.. He calls every second..and then he calls very little. He is in Honduras now, and it's just so frustrating. All I have is the phone.. no dates, no dinners, no romance..
2006-09-19 07:44:49 · 20 answers · asked by rcg0221@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-19 07:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck I don't get dates and romance with my husband. He's in the army. But that's just him. You can't judge the whole romance thing until he's actually there in person. What does he do when you do see him? If it's good then, and you just feel like you're missing our while he's gone then that's not a good reason. But you have to decide something, if you think you love him, this will be a pattern a way of life. My husband is currently gone for 3 weeks and then he leaves for Iraq in Dec. It's easier when you're married because you can for the most part go where he goes. If you love him then you should wait, it's not wrong of him to ask you to wait. I waited for my husband. And I will wait for him while he's in Iraq for a year knowing he may not be coming back. But not all women are cut out for that. If it will bother you then you need to be honest with him. I'm sure he would rather yoube honest with him then for him to discover later that you weren't faithful or that while he was waiting for you you weren't waiting for him. It's just matter of what you can handle. But you need to decide to do one or the other and be fair to him and stick to it.
2006-09-19 14:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 22 and in the Army. He is currently over in Iraq. He met up with a girl back home during his leave and now they are talking about moving in together when he comes back.
The difference is he knew this girl from highschool although they didn't date back then. I still think he is rushing things.
One week is not long enough to know if you love someone and phone calls and text messages can only give an illusion of love. Love is something that grows with time spent together learning about each other. However, it is long enough to know if you are interested.
These guys are lonely over there and seeing what they see on a daily basis probably makes them want to reach out to love moreso than any other time in their life. And only they know what other emotions are running through their minds being over there.
His calls will be irratic if he spends time in the field, keep in mind his purpose for being over there. He doesn't always have access to the phone. The times he calls you every second is probably when he doesn't have any other responsibilities. When he doesn't call he is probably not able to.
If your not ready for this exclusive commitment you are in no way committed to him to have one. Just be honest with him. You've only met him one week.
Only you know if in your heart he is who you want to be with and if he is then isn't he worth waiting for?
2006-09-19 14:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and you believe he loves you then stick with him. He has a tough job to do. If you honestly don't know if you love him, you need to sit down and sort out your feelings for him. Think about if you two got married, would you be able to handle him being gone for weeks/months at a time? If you couldn't see yourself doing that, break up with him now and save him the heartache of you cheating on him. Dating someone in the military is rough and you have to be flexible. If you want the constant dates, romance and whatnot try dating someone who's not in the military.
2006-09-19 14:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy_Fir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Sounds like you have doubts about the true depth of your feeling for this guy. I have been in your man's situation and looking back on it, I was more in love with the idea of being "in love" and having someone waiting for me than actually being in love with the young woman I was writing to and calling. Tell him you are not sure about your feelings and want to put the relationship more on a friendship basis than as people "in love" at least until you can see each other again in person. Don't tell him you want to see other people - just do it and figure out how much you really care for your army man. Goood Luck.
2006-09-19 14:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
military life is a different life style, if you are not born in a military family or have military back round it may take time to understand it. With that said relationship is base on time spend together not on the phone or writing email. All that communication is a way to delay a true relationship till he comes back. It is without question he need you but being needed is not love. Time, commitment and being true to your self and him is the real test in love. your should frist ask your self what is it you want in this releation.
2006-09-19 15:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him, your heart would tell you to wait for him. He is in another country he can't be with you like he lives around the corner. You sound a bit immature for him anyway! He is becoming a young man. If you feel you can't be faithful to him then let him go. He will find another that will appreciate him and be lucky to have him. At least you get to see him every 6 months. Don't be childish!
2006-09-19 14:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 week is not enough to determine love. All you can get after a week is infatuation. It's not fair of him to tell you not to date anyone if you cant seem him more than every 6 months. You need to have a life.
2006-09-19 15:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. It sounds like he wants to make sure he's got someone there for when he gets back. A convenience thing. Either that or it's hard for him to make calls, he is working after all. You need to just give it time. As hard as that is, you'll see with time whether you want to be always waiting for him.
2006-09-19 14:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must give it time as the military is very demanding of his time I am sure. if it is really love then you can wait untill he has time for you right now the military has most of his time. If you can wait im sure it will pay off in the long run. Good luck to you.
2006-09-19 14:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You havent really had time to get to know eachother and even know if you want to be faithful to him or not. You might want to be forward with him and let him know that you do like him alot but you are not sure of more serious feelings for him. You need to talk to him!
2006-09-19 14:50:04 · answer #11 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋