How to get my 8 1/2 month old son out of my be and into his bed and his own room?

Question

and when is the best time?

He got used to it, 'cause he would throw up what he ate, so we had to keep and eye on him... until now...

Answer 1

There is a book called "The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers" by Elizabeth Pantley that looks like it might be what you need. I've only read excerpts from it on Amazon.com, but from what I've read it looks very informative with good advice.

The older your child gets the more difficult it will be to get him into his own bed, so you are wise to take action now. You'll get lots of suggestions, including what sounds cruel like letting them scream until they finally fall asleep from exhaustion. It is better to choose as gentle a solution as possible. We hear all the time about people with anxieties, fears and phobia's that eventually are traced back to some traumatic experience they had as an infant, toddler or young child. See if this book works for you and good luck.

Answer 2

There are different opinions on this topic but I believe the sooner the better. My son (now 13 yrs old) slept in a cradle next to our bed for about 8 months. Then came the time for the big crib and his own room. We bought the book "How to get your Child to Sleep through the Night". Don't know the author. Highly recommend it. The book recommends putting them in the crib, in their room, pat them on the back speak softly and leave. Period. If they cry you go into their room after 10 minutes, pat them on the back and talk to them, close the door and then go back after another 10 minute period. My son cried for about 3 hours the first night. Second night was better until by day seven he was "cured". It broke my heart for him to be so upset but it worked. He went on to being secure in his crib and slept in his crib until 3/12 years old! Good luck.

Answer 3

You will have to start out slow--if he is accustomed to sleeping with you all the time. Try putting him in his bed and then staying in the room with him for a few nights. Then stay in there only until he falls asleep. He might wake up a few times a night until he is used to it but just get up and soothe him back to sleep. Be sure to have a night light and maybe some soft music will help. Best of luck to you....I did the same thing and it took me forever to get my son into his own bed!

Answer 4

Whatever you do, do it now. My child ended up sleeping in my bed until he was three. He had become accustomed to twiddling my hair untill he fell asleep. It's a bad habit, having your child in your bed. Since he's small, you can put him in his own crib and let him fall asleep there. He may cry, but it won't hurt him. Every once in a while, check on him to let him know you're still there. He'll get the point and get used to it. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Just put him in his bed and listen to him cry. He'll get over it. A child should never start sleeping with the parents to start with. It only makes things hard later. When I broke my son from the bottle he cryed for two nights and then was fine from there on out.

Answer 6

I know it probably sounds cruel, but as the mother of 2, I can tell you that sometimes you just have to let them cry. They'll get over it. No, he won't be traumatized. If anything, he'll have emotional problems from sleeping in your bed for too long. Just put him to bed in the evening and let him cry himself to sleep. I know it's really, really hard to listen to sometimes, but if you want him to sleep in his own bed, it's what you have to do. After a week or so of this, he'll stop crying and sceaming. It's hard to get through those first nights, but then you'll be grateful you did it in the end.

Answer 7

Start now, by just laying him down in his bed each time he goes to sleep. Let him cry. It is hard the first week or so to just let him cry and get use to his bed, but in the end it is worth it. Don't go in there and get him out if he cries or go in there period! If you do, he will not get use to it, and know that when he cries you will soon be in to rescue him. Stay firm.

Answer 8

My husband had his son sleeping in his own bed by 4 months.

Answer 9

lay in his bed with him until he falls asleep,it worked for me,my wife and i would take turns doing this.do this persistantly.

Answer 10

TAKE HIM BACK TO HIS BED WHEN EVER HE COMES TO YOURS AS OFTEN AS HE CAN EVERY NIGHT
HE WILL GET TIRED OF IT. THOUGH HE MIGHT PULL TANTRUMS. BUT MAKE SURE YOU ALWAYS TAKE HIM BACK TO HIS ROOM AS SOON AS HE COMES TO YOUR ROOM. HE WILL GET TIRED OF IT AND GET USED TO HIS AS TIME GOES ON.
IT IS HARD WORK THOUGH!