Back in my day, Kindergarden was fun and everyone was your friend. Why are there bullies there now?

Question

What factors would cause a 5 year old boy and girl to bully his or her peers in Kindergarden? I'm trying ti understand this, because right now, I'm boiling mad. I left a message for the vice principal, and the heifer hasn't called me back yet. I've spoken to the teacher about 4 times. Everyday, my son comes home with a story about this boy, "Matthew" and this female delinquent "Mary Elaine". Kindergarden. Tell me why? My son will not hit. I want him to fight back though, but it seems not to be in his nature. Do parents of these hellian spawn think this $hit is cute? Kids have DIED from being assaulted by bullies at school http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/cases.htm and after reading up about these things, I want so bad to cause bodily harm to the parents to see how they enjoy it. I have to restrain myself from saying something smart when I see these little bitches at his class. Yes, I am fed up. What the hell is wrong with these frickin' bad assed little kids?

Answer 1

There is no disipline in the schools today. If you have a problem and take it to a teacher they will try to convice you that your child is the only one with a problem in the name of being politcally correct. The parents with the problem children don't care, the school is incapable of enforcing any disipline, so they just try to make the parents who care about their kids shoulder the responsibility for everything. Just wait till they get older and you're helping your kid get all the work they should have done in school done at home, because there is no disipline in the class room, and they can't do it there, in the pandemonium that is considered acceptable in the classroom these days.

Answer 2

Call the principal and the whole administrative staff. There's no excuse for kids being bullied. At the school I went to until I graduated they had a no tolerance policy on bullying. 1 time you picked on someone and you were suspended for 3 days, or more depending on what you did.

Request a conference with the principal and possibly even Matthew and Mary Elaine's parent there too, to see if everyone can come to some kind of agreement as to what needs to be done.

You should also speak to the school therapist.

Answer 3

I agree with Dan. You need to get a conference with the principal, vice principal, teacher, Matthew (and his parents), Mary Elaine (and her parents), your son, and you of course. Bullying isn't acceptable. I know this is horrible but you need to find out if your son is doing something to these kids to make them react this way or if they are just being this way for no reason. If there is reason behind it (your son is using their crayons with out asking--or something along those lines) you can explain it to your son and he can fix the problem. I'm not saying it's your child's fault and you are right; children should feel safe at school regardless of mistakes they might make but make sure you get the whole story. Honestly I don't know why there are bullies. It's sad but true--you can blame it on daycare, neglect, parenting or because the kid picks his nose. Maybe after you point this out to the school and the parents--they may look into this and find a reason behind this bad behavior and find a solution. Good Luck!

Answer 4

first of all there were bullies in kindergarten 30 yrs ago as there has always been. Second, I can see you are frustrated but you are sending your son the wrong message. If it is not alright for anyone to inflict or incise violence than it is not okay for any child including yours(this includes your rant of violence).
Now here is the problem I am having: my son is in kindergarten and there is another boy that he tends to have problems with. i.e my sons teacher has told me twice were the other boys family has called and said my son hurt their son and mine was a bully. Both of these issues were of my son "re"acting to the other boy, which means the other boy started it. The teacher has spoken to me and the other parents and has made it clear that the other child started it and my son(I agree) is reacting badly. The other family will not take credit for their sons actions and I have and my son has not had a problem in over a month. Now if the parents were to see my child compared to their child they may be embarrassed to see the huge size difference as there son is 6 inches taller and 20 pounds heavier. Though I know size is not an indication of bullying maybe they would tell their child to grow up and stop picking on the smaller kids!

Answer 5

It is entirely possible that when you were in kindergarten there were bullies, they just didn't target you. A child might not notice what's going on around them at that age. The situation with your son is extremely difficult because he is YOUR son. No one can stand idle while their child is being bullied. Encouraging him to fight isn't the answer though. Keep calling the vice principal. If you are annoying enough, they will eventually have to meet with you and the other children's parents. Don't let them ignore the situation. Also, don't do anything to the other children's parents, you could get into big trouble with the law and that isn't helping anyone.

Answer 6

I understand your anger. I am a teacher in a middle school. But it sounds to me that you are making this more of a deal than your child. Right now it seems to me that you are being a bully yourself! And asking your son to fight back is WAY WRONG!!! I have a 7 year old and he has been picked on too. I just explain to him. There are mean kids in this world. I also tell him to steer clear of the kids who have the bad behavior. Ever since my son has been staying away from them and choosing the right friends. He has not had a problem.

Yes I see these types of parents everyday and talk to them everyday. I am worried if you cant handle this now! What will happen when your son is in Middle school and then high-school for that matter. I know you want to protect your children. But you just cant. Most kids now a days do not get parent love. So they go to school and act like their parents do at home so they will get attention. Why dont you try not being so angry. maybe talk to the kids that are being bullies. Ask them what stuff they like or tell them hi. Let your son see you do this. More than likely they are looking for attention. They also may like you so much they will stop picking on your son and start wanting to get to know him. Also remember these are children not bitches! Dont act like the parents of those children. Because you are making it just as bad as them. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I agree with your completely. I have a son in Kindergarten and so far, so good. BUT I see it with my other two kids. They are in 7th and 4th grade and it only gets worse. I blame the parent's for this awful behavior. Most parent's won't do anything about it either, but if it's their kid coming home crying it's a different story. I would be waiting for your child and if you witness any rude behavior I would follow that child to their parent and have it out right then. If nothing is done, then I would get a lawyer. Bad things are happening to our children and if these damn principals aren't willing to take care of it, then I would take it into my own hands. Good luck!

Answer 8

Parents put too much pressure on kids nowadays so they revolt by taking control in school or on the playground. I hope your kids don't hear you talk the way you expressed yourself in this letter (which I'm sure they didn't). There were always kids that were bullies or thought they were better than everyone else. I do believe kids learn lots from their parents and only a little from tv or video games.

Answer 9

I can't blame you. I'd be furious as well. The fact that the teacher has obviously not intervened would be of huge concern to me. The VP should have called you back ASAP. I would go to the school and talk with the principal at this point. This needs to be resolved and now!

Good luck!

Answer 10

They are probably bullied at home. A child learns to respect others first by respecting themselves. To learn that, the parents show them what respect is by demonstrating it to them and to each other. These kids' parents could neglecting their children or the children have neurological disorders that are so far undiagnosed or ignored. Or the parents mistreat each other.
And sadly, some people are very proud of this behavior.