Will all godly women submit to the husband even we know that the husband is in the wrong? We have to pray together for a decision, and even it could be a wrong decision, must the women still submit to her husband?
2006-09-19 07:22:36 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes. Submission in the Bible does not connote repression and lack of honor and respect for the one being submissive (this could be a wife to her husband, her husband to Christ, or Christ to God), but rather cooperation in the arrangement installed by God to do all things in an orderly manner. The responsibilty of headship over an entire household is an enormous one, one that can only be carried out easier if all involved are loving and cooperative. Of course, since wives have an inperfect head as opposed to their husbands and Christ, this is much harder to do. But we are still encouraged to do it!
Husbands can manifest the qualities of reasonableness and kindness, being ready to praise their wives. This makes wifely submission a pleasure and a source of refreshment and joy!—Proverbs 31:28; Ephesians 5:28.
The Bible says that a wife should “be in subjection” to her husband and should have “deep respect” for him. (Ephesians 5:22, 33) Even if her husband is not a believer, she is to “be in subjection” to him. (1 Peter 3:1) The Christian woman demonstrates such wifely submission by supporting her husband in the decisions he makes as long as these do not conflict with God’s laws. (Acts 5:29) And why does she accept this role? Not only because she loves her husband but especially because she recognizes that it is “becoming in the Lord”—that is, it is God’s arrangement for the family. (Colossians 3:18) Her willing subjection to her husband is thus an expression of her godly devotion.
Even when a husband is not a servant of God, wifely submission can pay good dividends, as the apostle Peter counseled when he wrote: “You wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, in order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their wives, because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect.”—1 Pet. 3:1, 2.
Applying God’s ways will produce much, much better marriages. So if you were to take 100 marriages and apply God’s ways to them, far more of them would be successful than 100 marriages where neither partner respected Bible principles.
2006-09-19 07:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by da chet 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Men are also supposed to submit to the wife as I understand it. I don't think a wife should submit as she would to God, for the obvious reason that your husband is not God. I don't believe that submission means in a worshipful way, just that a wife should leave final decisions to the husband as the head of the household.
Since he’s also supposed to submit to the wife, if he’s wrong he should be willing to listen to reason. But what do I know? I'm a ex-Christian turned agnostic. I don't believe in any of this stuff anymore!
2006-09-19 07:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How that works, so I'm told, is that they discuss it together, hopefully he makes a good decision, and she goes along with it. If she married an idiot or a hardheaded schmuck, she has no one to blame but herself. The wife should have input, which the husband seriously considers, weighing all the pros and cons--even the ones he didn't share with his wife in the discussion, and there always ARE some--then makes a good choice, and the wife is adjured to 'submit' her will to his.
Realistically, this doesn't mean she needs to bow down to him, or let him make every decision--like what she's wearing today, for instance--but where it touches on the running of the family, as in business, things work best when there's only one boss. The Bible says it should be the man, and there's a very good reason for this, even in today's feminist-swung society.
Psychologically, men are the doers, which makes them peculiarly suited to guiding, providing for and protecting the household. Women worry lots about nurturing and making the home and feelings, but it is the men who were built to see to its safety and provision, and that's what they do best. Doesn't mean you can't really lean on getting him to hear your opinion, but you should ultimately accept his decision as being the best. Sometimes even when you think it's stupid. You don't know everything, any more than he does, but what you'll do with what you know is hardly ever as much to the point as his choice will be.
Obviously there are circumstances where you do have the right answer, but if you picked a good man, his only mistakes will be unintentional, and you could be wrong, too, just as often. The thing is, especially where being in the moment with your response is critical, leave it to the man. He is especially suited to make those kinds of choices. Then again, think that in giving way to his decisions with grace and firmness, you give your man the confidence in himself--build him up, as it says in Proverbs--to do a better job with the next thing that comes along. All men are born to be heroes, but only a good wife can truly make him one.
2006-09-19 07:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by kaththea s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God is in the midst when a couple prays that they make the right decision. A husband shouldn't make a decision until their is an agreement with the wife that's right and is destined to draw the couple closer in every situation. The husband should respect his wife intuitions and seek God first. Patience is virtue.
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2006-09-19 07:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Pashur 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says "women, obey your husbands." But right before that, the Bible first instructs "men, love your wives." I think there was a purpose to ordering it this way. First, man must love his wife. Then, woman should obey. If your husband truly loves you, knows your feelings and tries to do everything to please you, and you trust him, then why wouldn't you go along with what he wants? However, if he is wrong, I think the proper thing to do would be to correct it. God would not want you to help you husband to commit a wrong.
2006-09-19 07:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is for the current answers, When wives submit to their husbands it is not like the husband beats the wife or anything, The husband must love the wife like Christ loved the church, and it is not like the husbands make all the decisions either, husband and wife are one and they should discuss issues (financial, children, so and so forth) with eachother as a joint effort for decision making, but them men make the decisions with the help and suggestions of the wife,
2006-09-19 07:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by ixfriendlyxi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends upon what you mean by wrong. If you mean an auto purchase, a job change or a move; then the worman should submit. If you mean morally wrong; like not stealing, descrating the Sabbath, not having an abortion, then the woman should not submit to her husband and should put God first.
2006-09-19 08:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by pennypincher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not! Women are equal to men, we don't have to submit to anyone. We are not cattle, and can not be ordered around. If this is what you have been taught, then who ever taught you is living in the past. Stand up for yourself!
Oh, and why does the Bible state that man is the boss? Because it was written by men! Are women so incapable of making their own decisions, that they need a man to hold their hands? Bollox! I earn my own money, pay my own bills and I am more than capable of fitting a plug, and putting up shelves!
We are too used to being told that we are weak and emotional and can't see beyond today. Women are more than capable of being rational, it is religion that is perpetuating the status quo, of women being the mothers and homemakers, and men being the breadwinners. Men are just as capable of raising children, just a women are just as capable of going out to work and earning the family wage.
2006-09-19 08:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Seph7 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know many marrages that are in accourdance with Ephesians chapter 5... And they are very strong and long lasting... There is "true" equality in that each has a role and faithfuly keeps it. to the honor of the other. The greatest burden is on the husband in a God centered marrage. if the husband is not acting towards his wife as Christ loves The Church then the Husband is in the wrong and the elders of the church need to correct him accourding to God's direction.
in a broad sense the wife is subject to the decesians of the husband... But... Biblicaly there are limitations within the guidlines of Ephesians chapt 5
I do take a bit diffent position than some of my Christian Brothers and sisters on this subject. If you would like to read my pov you may at:
http://pages.zdnet.com/mikevanauken/outreach/id56.html
All honest seekers welcome
2006-09-19 07:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The Hindu rig veda says'Yatra naryanthu poojyante ,tatra davathi devathaha'
which means GOD lives in such a place where Women are worshipped( or treated well)
2006-09-19 07:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by aathrey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋