worried about my son he is 15 and he has changed so much?

Question

i am sceared that my son is taking drugs he is only 15 we used to be so so close now he are fighting all the time i love him but he is hurting me or even killing me when i look at him and think the way we were with each other plz help me he won,t go to the doctors at all and said that he is not talking drugs and calls me mad plz plz help worried and caring mum

Answer 1

He sounds like a regular teenager to me too. Its all part of the 'finding your place in the world' thing and most of us did it at some stage in younger years. The massive surge of testosterone in adolescent boys causes a certain amount of aggression.

You don't say if he is showing any other symptoms of drug abuse? You can find information at http://www.addictions.org/signs.htm but be careful with the list and try not to look for symptoms which aren't there if you know what I mean.

If you need help, advice and support in dealing with his moodiness and aggression get in touch with Parentline Plus at
http://www.parentlineplus.org.uk/.

Answer 2

he's 15! i understand your concerns, but please don't forget that he is at the height of puberty and will therefore resent any attempts you might make to save the relationship you had when he was a child. take a step back, acknowledge by your actions that he is getting to the age when he can start making some decisions of his own. that way you'll be able to see for yourself if you can trust him and if he's mature enough to look after his health, and he will see a new side of you that he won't have to resent. except for his behaviour with you, how is he doing? do you know his friends? is he performing as normal at school? as long as his academic performance doesn't go down dramatically or he suddenly starts hanging out with other kids, i wouldn't worry about it too much. if you're really insecure, talk to his teachers and the school counsellor, but try not to do it behind his back. instead maybe tell him something along the lines of "well, if you're so sure you've nothing to hide, do you mind if i talk to mr./ ms. x/y?" if he does mind, there is the possibility you might have reason to worry, but cross that bridge when you come to it. right now, just remind yourself what you were like at 15 (i assume an unholy terror, that's what i was and most people i know too) and base your judgement on that. :-)

Answer 3

I have a fifteen year old daughter who in April threatened me with a pool cue, she smashed the house up as well. I was frightened that she was on something because she wouldn't have done this six months ago. I have since learned that teenagers are very confused individuals who are hurting inside and this is why their behaviour is so erratic not necessary due to drink or drugs. Let your son know that you love and support him but he also needs firm boundaries because this is where he knows you truly care. I can empathise with you and I remain optimistic as you should that when they come out on the other side that they know you have and are still doing your best for them and that you do believe in them as people.

Answer 4

The firt thing you need to do is perhaps get him to the local doctors..blood tests will show any drugs being taken..and if the test is positive..it may be the cause in his change of character.

You need to set some clear boundries in your house.Restrict pocket money..get a board up and write doen the rules of the house,when he gets agressive..do not argue back simply just walk away..otherwise there is a vicious circle.You may need support too,it can be tiresome dealing with these issues.If all else fails take him on a trip to the backstreets of London and he can see where it all leads too..the shock tactic.

take care,i will be thinking of you.Plan a day out together ,just you and him!

Answer 5

you have heard of puberty ain't ya? lol!!!!

Hits boys around 14 15 or 16 weird smells, hairs appearing just about everywhere, voice drops as well as ahem other things!!!

Teenagers get really shirty with parents about interfering and nagging when we show concern but, you're gonna love this. They complain we don't care about them and never listen to them or understand what they are goin thro!!

They don't even understand themselves why their emotions are all over the place at times. The hormone levels rise and plummet like a roller-coaster causing lethargy and even depression. They sleep all day if u let them and become creatures of the night reject authority in various degrees and try asserting their independence in many inappropriate ways.

Its all normal but difficult to watch and endure as a caring parent but, hang in there. Fairly normal human beings have been known to come out this metamorphosis okay!

Answer 6

When my 3 boys were 15 they were distant at times. I made sure that I did special things with each of them seperatly. Take him to a movie, go out to eat, go for a walk, clothes shopping, cd shopping. Even driving in the car can be a way to just talk about random things. If you get close with him in these ways and don't get mad at him when he talks it will be much easier for him to come to you when he has a problem. Don't push, just be his parent and let him know you care.

Answer 7

Could it be that he's just being a teenager? Kids change a lot around that age, and the fighting thing and growing apart from you don't sound that out of the ordinary to me... Is he doing anything else that makes you think he's on drugs?
Most parents I know think that it will never happen to their kids when they become teenagers and it nearly always does - hopefully it is just a phase...

Answer 8

Sometimes teenagers get really moody and just want to rebel. He could be doing that - keep an eye out for symptoms that he may be on drugs you can find alot of these online.

if any of these symptoms come up - don't give him the choice and take him to get tested. otherwise he could just be being rebellious and irritating.

if he is doing drugs he'll thank you later that you put an end to it but don't accuse him until you think you have legitmate proof otherwise he could start lashing back more.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You just have to relax a bit. He's 15 and that's a terrible age for teens. They think themselves as adults and demand to be treated as such. Plus that he is also puzzled by all the changes that occur to his body. Give him more freedom but stay in touch with his teachers and try to find out who are his close friends. And remember that moms are like this . Let him come to you. In the meantime make sure he doesn't skip classes and encourage him to keep himself busy with things he likes to do. Tell him that you trust him and let him make his own choices. You might be surprised :)
Good luck !