When my man and I are having sex.. he wants me to tell him how good it is, say his name, moan and stuff like that.. but I think screaming and moaning sounds so stupid... Its kind of funny because its so simple and I cant do it because moaning to me sounds whack!! Any advice as to what I should do?? For mature adults only!!!!!
2006-09-19 07:11:35 · 24 answers · asked by Whitney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start slow and only say what you've thinking.
like -- "This feels nice" or "I love you" or just a small "Oh!"
Tell him you're working on it and he should be happy you are trying.
2006-09-19 07:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is doubting his sexual performance. He feels he needs to hear these things from you so he will know if he is doing good or not. Then of course if you arelaying there like a log and you arent making any sound and no movement he may feel like he is having sex with a corpse.
Making sounds during sex isnt stupid, they sound like they are when someone tells us to do them, as sometimes we can be uncomfortable with our sexuality.
Do you secretly want to moan while having sex and you are afraid you will sound stupid?
Before I was comfortable with sex with my husband I often got the giggles during sex.
Sounds crazy but its true. For the first year every time we had sex, I would just laugh uncontrollably. I couldnt stop.
Then after I became at ease with my body and the way my body repsonded to my husband I became more relaxed and instead of fits of giggles I moaned and meant it!!
2006-09-19 14:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you girl. Moaning and groaning and all that sh*t is for porno's. Fake.
Maybe you could tell him how you like it or tell him when it feels good or when you're about to "***".
Women can have nine pound baby's come out of them but guys expect us to moan and yell over a nine inch piece of meat. Get real.
2006-09-19 14:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Marsha Mellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dirty talk is great. Maybe you should start out on the phone, just verbally saying what you would like to do to him...then during the actual act, you can moan and whisper things like "I like that..."
It's a good way to communicate with your lover.
2006-09-19 14:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not stupid, its hot to a man because he knows he is pleasing you and wants to hear it. Pleasing all of his senses and yours, makes sex even better. He can taste you, see you, feel you, and hear you moan. Or maybe he just isn't great in bed
2006-09-19 14:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by webster1305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are turned on by the female voice. some guys last longer and can go harder when they hear their partner moan. to them, when you moan or scream or say their name-theyre doing their job correctly. when we lay their emotionless and soundless they think they arent doing what theyre supposed to. now, when a guy asks you to do so, and you havent before, its hard becasue some girls will do it to please their man-but then they sound fake. its hard to find that line where your really moaning cause it feels good and your just moaning cause he asked you to.
tell him that even though you dont express your pleasure with sounds, he is doing his job. thatll make him feel better about it, and maybe hell stop asking you to moan for him.
good luck!
2006-09-19 14:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by rachey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what YOU want. When a girl says my name, then I know it's fake. Some girls moan, some don't. That's just how it is. Maybe he's insecure if he wants all that.
2006-09-19 14:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by m deal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so typical....Guys watch those pornos, and then expect us to behave like porn stars! But this is what we have to compete with. If your totally uncomfortable moaning, then don't! But if your in the privacy of your room, and there is no one around, maybe try it. If it turns him on, your right, it's so simple, but it feels fake, but it makes him happy........But don't be pressured into behaving like something your not comfortable behaving like. Good question.......
2006-09-19 14:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common. He wants to hear your enjoyment. He wants affirmation that he is pleasing you. Maybe you can start small, little moans and groans. Hopefully, in time, it will come more natural for you.
2006-09-19 14:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not only if you can moan or if you want it's a felling that you get when you are making love with that special person i know for sure i don't fake it with my man. try to enjoy him more tell him to make love to you slowly and see what you fell when he kisses every inch of your body.
2006-09-19 14:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like moaning..or screaming..then do it. during sex youre suppose to let your guard down and show how you feel completely. hopefully you are not thinking "should i do this now...it sounds stupid *sad face*" while having sex....
if you do not feel like doing these things its ok! its your preference
2006-09-19 14:14:10 · answer #11 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋