This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

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26 minutes ago
And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.

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3 hours ago
But it's weird, like sometimes she'll seem sad, cuz she wants to be with me, then shell go and be REALLy happy and flirty with this other guy, then shell come up and talk to me, like she misses me, and then shell go flirt with him, I'm just SO CONFUSED, please help.

3 hours ago
but i mean, the way she is around him, is the way she used to be around me, and its weird, cuz we dont talk nearly nearly as much as we used to, and its almost like shes sad, or missin that or sumthin, but then all over this other guy

I know I have asekd this many times, but I havent talked to her about it, and I am not spending every second of the day thinking about it, I am simply asking for advice, and listening to everyone. I truely care for her, and I am just trying to see what my best option is. Those who say, she dont like me becuz Ive asked this many times, well, I havent spoken to her, or anyone for that matter about this for a month, so please just lay off

Answer 1

This is a tough one .....I am comparing this to a situation I was in...yes I liked the guy as a friend and I didnt want to offend him ....but I was very young and confused ..as she must be ...one day your a good friend she trusts ..next day you want to be a boy friend ...here is an idea what if it was a group date ...it would be less threatening for her ...and maybe she would accept that ....I know this is probably the ideal situation to be in ...but think what the alternative would be ...life without a friend you know and trust....hope this helps ..a female perspective

Answer 2

of before you even think about stoping to pursue her dun she does like you but she is afraid and the part about not wanted to ruin a friendship isnt trying to be nice she doesnt have the confidence in her self and she thinks that she wouldnt make a good girlfriend and that if she tries and fails that she might completely lose you as a boyfriend and as a friend so if that might help you to see it her way try to reason with her tell that no matter what happens youll never stop being her friend and you wanna try to pursue a relationship with her because you have feelings that you can hide from her and then you wanna tell her that those feelings havent change in a very long time that will definately make her think about saying no cause i have never had any one say no when you tell them that you have thought about them for the longest time
and for the guy thing i had this problem before too but lemme tell you when you put forth that you really want her and even if she trys to tell you know youll let her know that you really want her and the other guy is probably just flirting practice

Answer 3

okay, i've read ur whole shameal, and u definatly need to take a chill pill. It kinda sounds like she is enjoying dicking with ur head. U are confused cause she's messing with you. My advice is that no matter how much u love her, give her space. dont email her, call her nothing. show no more interest. and watch for her reaction. if she does like u back and is "missing u" she'll show it. if not then im sorry i know u love her and are gonna hate when i say this but then she is an abusive *****. and my advice after that is RUN. Try to find someone who is loving and caring like u seem to be.

Answer 4

Let her go,when you show to girls that it hurts you and it matters,they hurt you more.If she flirts with the other guy then may be she just dont wanna be with you.She is just keeping you as aside dish.which she will eat incase their is smthing missing in the main course.I wanna tell you that before you love her love yourself.its just one life that you have.Divert your attention towards studies and sports.Show her that it doesnt hurt you any more.It doesnt affect you and just to find why it doesnt affect you she will make a move towards you.
I wanna tell you smthing about my life too.May be that will help you.
I am 24 yrs old and i had a nice relation with a italian man for 3 years.He was my first love.I couldnt think of a life without him.But he died in his sleep may 12,2006.I almost died myself too.But after his funeral i had to pick up the pieces of my life and move on.i have diverted my attention to work and my parents.but during these couple of months when i was thinking that i will be left alone all my life ,my best friend made a move towards me.He is my BF now and i am happy with him.I am giving my life another chance to be happy.My life didnt came to an end.I am happy and living.My Bfloves me.
I moved on.
Dont be confused,move on honey.You are too young to let things like that bother you.You have to look around you,may be their is smbody else who is in love with you and want you more than this girl who ignores you and hurts you.Dont look back,just move on.Smile and be happy.
Smile
thats all i can say dear
Lots of love
tina

Answer 5

You really aren't going to get different answers by asking the same question over and over again. Chill out and realize that you are still too young to be dating. Be friends for now, and if you still feel the same 5-10 years down the road, date her then. Leave the poor girl alone. She is too young to make the kind of decision.

Answer 6

It's human nature to always try and look at the bright side of every situation. I can't tell you how many times I keep having to repeat this over and over again, YOU CAN'T MAKE SOMEONE CARE ABOUT YOU. She isn't scared, her parents aren't putting a leash on her, whatever excuse you want to put here. If she liked you, something would of happened by now.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.

Answer 7

You again.
How many times are you going to post this. Kick yourself in the *** for not letting it go and move on. There is such thing as obsession and I think you are almost there.

Answer 8

alright look hunny da thing is dat maybe she does want to be with u but dosent know wat to do. u sed she hasnt had a boyfriend well maybe she wants to be alil experienced to be with u but den again she also sed she dosent wanna ruin da relatioship ya have as friends. which i see how hard it can be... cuz i know its hard to find a guy u can talk to bout anythin n once u have dat guy u dont wanna loose it its like ur a brother to her. but now u need to get out of dat brother mode n have her see u as a guy. cuz she may like u but dosent wanna ruin wat ya have so dats why she maybe flirtin with dat other guy... but i would suggest u talk to her tell her wat ur tellin us... tell her wassup cuz u aint be her bak board either. either she needs to stop flirtin with u n leave things da way dey are of if she wants to be flirtin wit u den fine get together but tell her to stop playin games with ur head cuz dats all shes doin... shes keepin u interstated so dat INCASE or IF or WEN she wants to she can have u cuz she has u like a lil puppy just runnin after her tryin to bite on her feet... u gotta watch out for urself too... dont put urself in a situation were ur da one dats gonna come out really hurt. think bout it.

Answer 9

well i think that u should tell her 2 pick if she wants 2 b wit u or not

Answer 10

when you ask you need to be willing to listen
she has chosen someone else You will heal in time..