I've always lived my life with a sense of balance and readiness, and now it seems this policy might end up hurting me. I always told myself that the first girl I had sex with would be someone I really cared about because I didnt want my first sexual experience to be an awkward mistake that I would end up regretting later on. So I've had a few girlfriends thoughout my life, but either through, the relationship not lasting long enough to really care for the person, them not being ready, or them being religous I never had sex; and only messed around with them and such. Now at 21 years of age I finally slept with girl I care about and both of us were ready. She is the same age and has slept with 3 other guys, which bothers me somewhat but not extremely. The thing im really scared of is that I never planned for my first sexual experience to be my only one, and as the relationship gets more serious. Part of me keeps thinking I want to have sex with at least one more person. Please help.
2006-09-19 07:05:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex is mean to be an intimacy...with one person unless they die or they leave. hence why sex is for marriage as most religions say..
nothing wrong with sharing your love with her for the rest of your life..it should turn you on that youre the only one that will please her from now on..so you better get on with it and make it worth while
2006-09-19 07:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also waited to be in love, same thing- not religious, nothing to do with any beliefs other than what I felt was right.... I ended up marrying the guy... Who was very experienced... Let's just say a LOT more than 3 other partners. I had done everything but have intercourse with multiple people, but I felt the same way you did for awhile... That I was missing out in someway... What I realized is, I am fulfilled emotionally and sexually, Having sex with someone else wouldn't compare with what I have with him. It would seem empty. I suspect the same for you, wanting an emotional connection before a physical one is admirable... Good for you.
2006-09-19 14:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly man they all feel the same. some girls are a little more wild some are aggressive. so want you to pound them some want you to make slow love. the end result is the same. if you really like this girl and she likes you there are so many ways to keep things exciting and creative. if you have a close enough relationship you guys can try just about anything you would experience with some one else. share your fantasies with each other get some toys. i understand you thinking you want to be with at least one more person and considering your age you most likely will but dont do it just cause you want to if you really like this girl its not worth it. they really do all feel the same. some might look and smell better than others but inside is the same thing.
2006-09-19 14:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by ian6868 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your clearly not ready to be serious. If your girlfriend is under the impression that your in a serious relationship and your moping around about not sleeping with someone else then break up with her and let her go then do what you want. You obviously not happy in your relationship if your willing to screw the whole thing up over this. Its ok to feel how you feel and it makes a lot of sense to go out and experiment. But don't drag this poor girl around any longer if you know you need more.
2006-09-19 14:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all these ******* women answering your question. Women are the dumbest when it comes to relationships. Don't let these bitches convince you that you are not really in love or that you should tell your girlfriend the truth.
If you don't **** another woman you will regret it the rest of your life. I would never even date a woman with more experience than me, never mind marry one. Do yourself a favor--go get a call girl or something.
2006-09-19 14:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by A. J. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to get all your fun out while you are young, before you get married. I am getting married next year and I do not regret getting all of that out of my system. Now I don't have to wonder what is out there, I know. I think it also brings experience to the table, from both of us. Men are visual creators and are always going to want to look and wonder, so its hard to give you advice from a female point of view.
2006-09-19 14:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by webster1305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, you seriously need to have sex with a few more girls before you decide to settle down with this girl! there is so much you can learn from other people and yes i think you would regrett later down the road only being with one person. i mean...some religious people only sleep with someone after marriage and whatnot, and they constantly wonder what it would be like with someone else...causing them to cheat...so get out there...explore..sow some oats (safely of course)...sex is great, but saving it for the right one, isn't all that it's cracked up to be....trust me i know...in fact i was raised baptist and to wait till marriage..and i didn't, because i didn't want to be constantly wondering what if...and i ended up loosing mine to a friend i worked with the night before he left for the marine cor...and i've never seen him since...but we both did eachother a favor i guess...so no regretts....good luck kid!:)
2006-09-19 14:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having doubts, do NOT commit yourself to this woman. That isnt fair to either one of you. I commend you for your beliefs, but I feel that having intimate relationships with different people before we commit can only make the real thing stronger.
2006-09-19 14:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright.first off, congrats for keeping it till 21. thats amazing.what you need to do is tell this to the girl your seeing what your feeling. women like communication. she might get a little mad, but thats expected. (if youve talked about marriage with her, dont tell her...thatll just be bad) but, if you have talked about marrying her, talk to her-tell her you truely care for her but you need to date some other people. later in life you dont want to get that itch (especially if youve already married someone) and go out and do the wrong things. just talk to her.
2006-09-19 14:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by rachey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so much better off believe me...no fornication to repent of if you stay with this woman..If you love her propose and count your blessings and be true to her for always..After 6 mos t0 18 mos men should commit with diamond and profession of love etc.
2006-09-19 14:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋