He dumped me but keeps calling me every day. Why?

Question

I dated this wonderful guy for 2 months. He was the perfect boyfriend. Then I found out he was married. He supposedly made plans to move out and sell the house he owned with his wife. He kept me updated every day. Suddenly, he decided not to go through with it and told me it was over with us. However, he said he would be a free man once his daughter went away to college, in one year. I never had sex with him and he knows I never would due to his situation. I won't see him anymore. but he still calls me at least once every day. I asked him why. He told me he does not want me to forget about him and that even though he cannot be my boyfriend at this time due to family responsibilities, that maybe someday we can be together. My question is what is going on here? He has no chance of sex with me so why does he keep in touch?

Answer 1

He is a selfish, immature man. He doesn't have the courage to clean up his mess at home. So, he looks for other women like you to use as an escape and to live in fantasy world. He is so convincing because he believes in the fantasy world himself. You are his drug which helps him forget the real world he is too immature to face. I suspect you are not the first and won't be the last. The reality is although his feelings seem genuine and sincere, he is actually a very selfish man who is incapable of mature love. He is not motivated by strong attachment and loyalty; rather, his actions are irresponsible and for his convenience only. He has no consideration for your need to have an equal partner in love. Your problem is you believed in his fantasy.

Answer 2

Run fast and run long.................. He calls you because he has a crappy marriage and he wants to keep his options open in the event he ever develops the gonads to leave.

This outline is such a classic---don't allow yourself to be one of those women who fall for it. If you are reasonable bright and were brought up well, you should already recognize that, although you have not had a sexual relationship, you have been involved in an affair with a married man. Is this the sort of thing you should be proud of? Are there no other attractive single men in your state? Cut the crap, be honest with yourself, recognize the mistake you have already made, be ashamed, don't return his calls or accept his calls and move on with your life to a real relationship with an honest man who can make you, and you alone, the center of his attention.

Answer 3

I think he's playing a mind game. Maybe he's hoping all the attention will get to you by the time he gets around to asking you to be with him ...again. Usually when a married man finds a reason to stick around he doesn't really plan to leave. A child about to go to college is almost an adult and should be able to deal with divorce. Don't push him to leave his wife in a couple years you may be in the same position, he appears as if he's not to be trusted.

Don't allow him to use you, if he wants to be your friend, do it on your terms maybe give your self time to get over him or JUST TELL HIM TO LEAVE YOU ALONE AND JUST WALK AWAY.

Answer 4

forget about this loser creep! go out there and meet you a real man that will love only you and devote himself to only you! every girl deserves to be with a man that gives her nothing less than everything he can emotionally and physically. he's just stringing you along because he likes having that kind of control over you and that's not fair to you! don't put your life on hold waiting for some married guy to leave his family. you don't want to be a homewrecker....

Answer 5

he probably became emotionally attached to you or else he is going to wear you down for sex & figures you will eventually give in - sounds like he also wants to have his cake and eat it too - i would stop taking his calls - what's the point - he's married.

Answer 6

Because you are a challenge to him. Men are only in it for the thrill of the chase