why does my dad shout and scream at me ALL of the time over tiny little pathetic things in the past until I punch him in the face, then after this he immediatly stops and tries to be nice to me non stop until the next day?
2006-09-19 06:37:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
by pathetic i mean real pathetic, for example sitting in the living area when hes watching TV.
2006-09-19 06:43:19 · update #1
seems like hitting is the only way to stop him, and he couldnt batter me back, im bigger and stronger than him.
2006-09-19 06:45:17 · update #2
Both of you need to head to therapy and quickly. You should not be hitting your father for ANY reason, especially if he isn't hitting you. Being bigger than him means absolutely nothing. But talk to someone you trust and maybe you all could stage an intervention and let him know that you won't tolerate his verbal assaults anymore. I don't know how old you are but maybe it's time to step your game up and get a job and your own place to stay.
2006-09-19 07:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info really but reason people lose temper is when they feel insulted/belittled threatened. What are you really doing? Are you so nice or is there something not so great about you? It takes two to tango but it can go downhill with neither party realising what went wrong.
Agree with him that there is a problem and see if you really want to solve the problem. Write down the issues you have with each other in a sensible way and let each other read and think about it by themselves and then talk about it in say 1 hours time.
If you really want answers you have to be fully objective and accept that you could be partly to blame and that it may not be all one way.
Hitting someone never solves anything, it just means you have lost the ability to communicate properly. It's only by talking that you can claw your way back. If you dont talk and resolve the problem, their is no future other than getting out of his house and getting on with your life.
2006-09-19 20:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People yell because they are frustrated and often because they feel helpless or powerless to change the situation.
Raising his voice at you is not the worst thing in the world. The question is, what does he SAY when he does this? Is he being verbally abusive over and over? That could cause so much anger in you that you feel like hitting him. But, you have to learn that no matter how mad you are, you shouldn't exceed the other's person's wrong behavior, and then you become the bad guy. Get it? :)
For instance, he's yelling at you, the worst you can do (without becoming an evil person yourself) is to yell back. Or something less aggressive is also an option, something that he doesn't like but that doesn't exceed the wrong done to you.
It's a big lesson to learn in life; you're being tested. Step up to the plate and don't become what you hate.
2006-09-19 06:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Niqabi 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you are a child or young person I think you should phone Childline on 0800 1111 and talk this through with them. If you are an adult you could try and talk to him when he's having a good day. If this doesn't work I think you should stop seeing him for a while because you don't deserve this treatment from him at all, no matter what you do.
2006-09-22 00:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Actionchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by gaffke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just had enough of you and anything you do will set him off, being a parent is no easy task, try doing something nice for him once and see how he reacts ?, i raised two kids on my own and they would wind me up and knew they were doing it too and yet it didn't stop them, your dad could be well stressed out and just wants a little me time, don't punch him - how would you feel about your kid hitting you - the kid you'd done your best for and brought up ?.
2006-09-19 06:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Richard 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is so sad. If you are a child, please speak to an adult you trust - a teacher, the parent of a friend, your grand-parents, your pastor and tell them what is going on. If you are over 18, I think you should leave that house and find a better place for yourself.
Please do not react violently to your father, but it is not right that he speaks to you that way.
If nothing else, this should wake up the people who think it is okay to smack or spank their children.
ONE DAY THEY WILL BE BIGGER THAN YOU!
2006-09-23 17:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you BOTH have issues!
You both need anger management, verbal abuse and physical abuse are BOTH just as damaging.
The fact that you can even punch your Father, in retalliation and him not knock the living Days lights out you... is amazing.
But what's even more amazing is the fact that you claim he's nice to you afterwards; SHOCKING.
You both need help. SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY!
2006-09-19 06:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by * Deep Thought * 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My brother was doing it to his little daughters until it got to the point they would cry if he looked at them. Tell him how much it hurts ya. I hit my father when I was a teen and it hurt me more to think about it. He died a few years ago and I still regret what I did.
2006-09-26 11:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dad has 2 problems, Domestic Violence issues ( you should be ashamed of yourself for punching him in the face for any reason whatsoever, yelling is no excuse) and anger issues, which have passed on to you as well.
2006-09-19 06:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by paeslei 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋