My bf and I been together for about 9 month I love him so much and he said that he loves me and want to live with me for the rest of his life. So about 2 weeks ago he was talking about moving in together us leaving together. Ok first of all I live at home with my mother I go to college and I work at a department store that is not going to pay nothing. And he lives with his brother in this drug bad neighborhood, he works at the same job as I do. So last week I was rage with my mother and I told him and he said he would go out and look for a house know and I said YES I was not thinking at all so know he came back and he said in about 6 month he is going to find nice house for us to live in, so I said I don’t think that is going to work we need to get a better job, first in about 6 month form know I might get a better job then we can move in together so he got so angry that I said that, and he is talking about I don’t believe in him, he is not going to get anther job and he is not going to try to go to school. And he telling me that stay at ur mothers house and finish school but I am still going to get a house I don’t like to wait for years I want everything to be right at this moment. And he also said that he was thinking of giving me a ring but he is not going to do it because I want not move in with him. He never give me a thing even for my bf not even a flower. He said that he order soothing expensive for me and he said it is on layaway that was in July I mean I never complain about it before I don’t know what to say to him he doesn’t mean to get it I don’t know what to say please HELP ME. BY THE WAY HE IS 20
2006-09-19 06:21:25 · 24 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and know he said that he will call me and didnt call. what do i need to do how should tell him and what should i tell him please make me under.. step by step
2006-09-19 08:15:38 · update #1
he advises well. follow him.
2006-09-19 06:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK that explains everything that he is 20 yrs old first of all you did not tell him that you did not want to move in with him you were telling him that you wanted a better paying job for your right having a mortgage is very expensive you were doing the mature thing and he is being a baby so you need to sit with him and tell him that it was not a rejection to him it was you thinking how can I give you half of the money when I am a poor paying job its nothing to do with him its you wanting to be responsible for yourself and be fair for him when it comes to the bills if he still doesn't get it then dump him and find a better understanding man to be with for right now you are with a boy
2006-09-19 13:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to finish with college, and stay at your mother's house. The only way a "lady" leave her mother's home is to go to college, going into the military or AFTER getting married. What is wrong with you. Think about it, read what you wrote and think if your daughter came to you with the same story. In nine months you don't even know a person. How old are you guys? Stay in school and stay at your mother's home until marriage.
2006-09-19 13:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home, finish school, find a better job, save some money!
It's sounds like you know what to do for yourself, don't let this guy persuade you to get yourself in a bind.
He dosen't want to go to school or get a better job? If you live together, you'll be the one paying all the bills & borrowing money from Mom because he has no motivation to do better.
2006-09-19 13:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Dump the bum.
2. Go back to school.
3. Learn to spell.
4. Learn to type.
5. Learn some grammar, so you can write out the English language.
6. Find a good paying job.
7. Find a new boyfriend.
2006-09-19 13:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK he doesn't have a ring for you or something expensive on layaway. Don't move in with him you will never get a ring or anything else from him you will end up supporting him. Stay with your mom until you are out of school and can get a good paying job. You can do that with a degree. Please don't waste anymore time or energy on this guy.
2006-09-19 13:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyaht1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right. You should finish your school first. Bf's come and go.... your education will never leave you. Also, there is a saying why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free. I don't think that it would be a good thing to shack up with him. Make him work for it. He will appreciate you more. Just keep building up your relationship and go from there. Use your head. Be wise my child
2006-09-19 13:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a child. He is a child. He is a child.
You do not want to live with a child. It is all good and well that he wants to have his own house but his approach is wrong. He has never bought anything for you. I a sorry, but he sounds like a loser to me. He said that he was going to give you a ring but is not going to because you do not wan to move in with him. i am sorry again, but i don't think he had a ring to begin with. Let him tell you what is this thing that he has on layaway for you.
I think his trying to impress you. Do not leave your comfort zone for a headache cause that is what moving in with him will be like.
2006-09-19 13:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Osun Iya Mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's kind of hard to understand what you are sayin... but girl, honestly, i think you should just live separately. Not only is it moral, but why would you want to be with someone who is showing signs of anger problems? He won't give you a ring because you won't move in with him? Then let him keep his ring! You don't want some man manipulating you to get what he wants. Suppose you move in and in the course of time you end up pregnant. Can he support you and the baby? Can you? Why would you put yourself in a position where you are going to regret it later? This really sounds stupid to me that you would let some guy decide your future for you.
2006-09-19 13:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by 123456789girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I know you may think this is the one, and he probably is, but dont be jumping to anything. Your better off with your mom. Once you leave home, the free ride is over. Besides, you are trying to better yourself, is he? Stay home, continue your job to give you some extra $$$ and you would be in a much better enviroment to be studying.
2006-09-19 13:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off
u need to learn how to spell and ur grammar sucks lol
well he needs to respect ur opinion
i was in ur shoes before my x wanted to move out and i wasnt ready because i was still in school
it wouldnt work out right
so we broke up but i later realize that it work out for the best
she left and live on her own and was struggling so bad even with suppport from friends n family
i on the other hand likes to plan things save money
and then make a move
not just some spurr of the moment type thing
i learn my lesson
if he doesnt want to respect ur wishes then u need to reevaluate ur relationship
because he s thinking selfishly
its ok for him to move out on his own and wait until u r ready
thats cool
but if he is going to act like d i c k then thats not cool
2006-09-19 13:27:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋