She's a single mom. She's 23, I'm 25. Known eachother for 7 months. Together for 2 months. On the first real serious talk about me maybe leaving in 3 months, and how to deal with it (staying together) she backs off. Gave me 101 "reasons" but not on real WHY. We didn't really end badly... After a month of clarity I'm guessing it's because she didn't want to have a long distance relationship. I made my last "effort" of getting her back 2 days ago. But ok... we have the same friends, more hers than mine by 3 months. And the group is feeling the "tension" because they are in the middle. We were all going to go 2 a concert but not anymore.. it's like she feels I'm crossing her border. One of the guys told me that she is screaming for the space or time she wanted.The sad part is I have decided to "dissapear" so nobody feels uncomfortable. He told me not to do so. That he knows she wants to talk to me. I'm ok being her friend or not. But I don't know... just wanted some tips, comments.
2006-09-19 06:17:07 · 11 answers · asked by JD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let her have her space because if you don't, it could push her away even more. Who knows, she could even realize she wants to be with you after but don't wait around ..go out and do things ..meet new people and have fun! :]
2006-09-19 06:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that she is psychotic, no offence tho'.
One moment she objects to your leaving,then she asks for space. Did you ever let her know that she would have all the space she wants and needs when you're gone?
I suppose and perhaps she is still going through the trauma after her failed relationship/marriage before you, but that's very immature of her to deal with you.
Don't worry too much about the friends. If they really look upon you as a friend,they will stay in touch. All you need to do now is perhaps to ask her one last time what she wants and you make up your mind if you can accomodate her demand/s. Then you will find the answer for yourself.
Good Luck!
2006-09-19 13:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youth is wasted on the young, known each other for 7 mths, were together 2 mths, now @ 23 she's screaming for space, and a single mom of some other dude's child?
Dude, turn around and run the other direction, this female has way more baggage than you should be expected to carry on such short notice.
If you feel like disappearing, go for it, move on with your life, wait until you meet someone whom you feel is ready to be a partner, not a dependant.
2006-09-19 13:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by hnz57txn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go- The friggin sea is too full of fish to pine away at someone that sounds like they don't even know enough about themself to be know what they want- the fact that you have a question about it sounds like that it wasn't meant to be more than friends or- just a good time... Just be nice and cordial, but don't overstepp that boundary of 'closeness' or you might give that unsecure person crappy hope of somekind! Good luck on finding out who you are too!
2006-09-19 13:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state if you were male or female. If you're a male then leave because she's pretty much letting you know nicely that it's not going to work. If you persue the relationship it's just going to get worse. So leave it at that since your relationship didn't end badly. If your a female, it might be that carpet munching isn't for her.
2006-09-19 13:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just sit back and give her space until she realizes she misses you and wants you back. Dont dissapear try talking to her about being friends with her cuz it is easier to make an emeny then it is to make a friend so dont loose her as a friend. if she is around you as a friend then she will realize she wants to be more so just dont force the topic on her let her come to you about the situation...good luck!
2006-09-19 13:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty
give her space
act like she doesnt exist
pretend that u r ok with everything
act like u r moving on
stay consistent
and watch her come runnin back to u
i was on that road before
asking n beggin to come back to u doesnt look good and never works
its when u pretend that u dont need them
thats when they are seeking u
good luck and follow what i wrote to u
2006-09-19 13:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest leave it alone and move on,
2006-09-19 13:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it to him and find someone who wants u around
2006-09-19 13:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by omarionsgirl1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space.
2006-09-19 13:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋