I and my dad don't have a relationship. Due to his wife. I was probably 12-14 yrs old and I found out from him he and Connie went to Arkansas and legally got married. I went crazy. To this day I hate Connie so much and I blame her on alot of my feelings towards her. I even didn't know they were engaged. How dumb does he think I am.
2006-09-19 05:38:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow! I went through a similar situation. My Dad totally got married without my knowledge...but I'm not talking runaway somewhere and have a little ceremony, I'm talking full out wedding that all my family was at, that I was NOT invited to! How did I find out you ask...well I go to my grandmother's house one day, and there is a wedding picture of my Dad and my Stepmother...I was FURIOUS...he had told everyone that I did not want to go to the wedding and thats why I wasn't there...when I told my gram the truth, she went off on my Dad!
For the longest time, I didn't know what to say to him, or how to feel, and on top of it all, I had a new little sister...it was all a very trying time. But as I go older, and my Dad and I finally had it out...it was okay. I still don't like my Stepmom very much, but I'm cordial and I want to be a part of my little sister's life, so I make things work. It always hurts at first, but it does get easier, I promise...you just have to be willing to let it.
Good Luck...hope that helped!
2006-09-19 05:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by laydehoo05 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be hard but you also have to remember that has hard as this is for you your dad has a life. Do you tell your dad everything? Teens want there parents to tell them everything but when it comes to there lives they don't want them to have anything to do with it. You can't have it both ways!! It just don't work that way sweetie. Your dad probably didn't realize how much it would bother you if he did this, he probably loved this woman so much that he just did it at the spire of the moment because it felt so right and now he probably regrets it because he would rather have your relationship back. Go talk with him and tell him that you love him but you don't know how to make the hurt go away because it feels like she stole him from you. I would let him know how you feel because if not you might regret it later!!!
2006-09-19 12:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids do not like the man that I want to marry. They feel sorry for their dad because I left him even though it was because of emotional and verbal abuse and neglect. They will always love their Dad, no matter what. Well, they have focused all their anger over our split-up towards this new man that I have fallen in love with....However, I have not married him because of their feelings towards him. It really hurts his feelings when they reject his efforts to reach out and get to know them and even his Christmas and birthday gifts. In turn, it makes me hurt for him.
I feel sorry for him because my kids are being so cruel to him.
It is not his fault that their Dad and I do not get along or love each other. He makes me very happy. And it upsets me that my kids can't be happy for me. I suffered to stay in that other marriage for 23 yrs. And I stayed mainly for the kids. So why cant they wish me happiness for the remainder of my life??? I loved them that much. Your Dad may have known that you would have hated the marriage anyway. He could not have enjoyed his ceremony with Connie if you had laid a guilt trip on him or cussed him out. He was avoiding confrontation with you. Too bad he didn't feel close enough or comfortable enough to talk to you. Guess he thought you couldn't handle his happiness or the truth that he is in love again
2006-09-19 12:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dad married my step-mother(for the second time) in a secret ceremony. He likely did this because of the bad feelings we all had about each other. I may not agree with all the things my step-mother has said and done, but I love my Dad and I got over it. You should too!
2006-09-19 12:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Babes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my father has been married 4 times with 4 divorces. I did not even know about any of his 3 weddings. And I agree with you...how dumb do they think we are?
2006-09-19 14:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know but i can go you 1 better my dad died when i was 17 my mom got married 15 days later no she didnt tell me they said they were going to vegas to see a show yeah right they were in it i know what you are going through i have been there still have resentment about it i hope it all works for you good luck sweetie
2006-09-19 12:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by shasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but i got married without telling my 2 young sons because if there dad had have found out he would have come and ruined the whole day.we got our wedding blessed a few months later in church and all our kids where there to celebrate it with us.
2006-09-19 12:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by littlepiglette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother always was dating around without tellin me that she was. She would sneak around and for no reason. She did get married without telling me. I guess in her eyes i was Only a lil kid and i wouldn't understand. I hated the guy and guess what i was right when i told her he wasn't a good guy. now they are no longer married. ha that's what she gets
2006-09-19 12:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lady C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to me how this is her fault????? i think u should b mad at ur dad..... i mean would u at 12-14 yrs old rather hear it from ur then soon-to-be step-mom or ur father. and since (i`m guessing)ur above the age of 15 u should sit ur dad down and try to talkto him and try to make sum peace with ur step mom . and wish them the best ..... cuz life is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to short to spend it in hate
2006-09-19 12:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did. Her then boyfriend got her a trip to Hawaii for Christmas. They came back married. Didn't bother me. But then again, I was 21, so it really didn't affect me.
2006-09-19 15:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋