my ex called me to tell me that every since i started to talk to his friend that he has been thinking about me... well i don't like his friend like that never have never will well the reason why we broke up was because he cheated on me and i found out about it. well he said that he was going to go with this girl but found out that she was just using him to get to one of his friends and he made a decision that he wasn't going to date anyone if he couldn't date the one he loved which is me... well i don't trust him but still have feeling for him... and the thing that keeps making this confusing is that i met a guy sat. night and like really like him but we didn't get each others phone numbers becasue it was 5:30a.m. when they took us home and i was sleepy and got out of the truck and went to bed.. well now i have feelings for two people and can't decide which one would be better... please give me advice i really need it
2006-09-19 05:29:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away from your ex. The only reason he wants you back is because the chick he cheated on you with doesn't want him.
2006-09-19 05:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur gut instinct is to go with the new guy u met! I don't know anything bout ur ex but usually if someone cheats once it's not their last. I can understand that u still have feelings for him, it's not easy to 'switch them off'. If it was me I'd go with the guy u met on Sat. nite If ur ex loves u as he says he does then he'll not be going anywhere & if u then decide that it is HIM u want then u can see wot happens. Sometimes thou we want the thing that we can't have, this may be the case with ur ex, maybe he is scared that ur gonna hook up with his friend! Or maybe he realises what he has lost. Good luck with ur choice xx
2006-09-19 12:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dee Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts. Your ex-, I assume boyfriend, has no one to date at the moment so you have started to look pretty good to him.
Regardless if you see this other guy or not, do not go back to your ex without exploring your other options. Even if this other guy doesn't work out you will have others that will so go for it.
Remember this. The person you will want to spend your life with is a person you can trust. Your ex has proven he is not trustworthy. If you go back you are telling him it was okay to run around on you and he will do it again. Don't do it.
2006-09-19 12:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you may not be ready to be in a stable relationship! Enjoy being single for awhile and if you cant stop thinking about that particular person your ex or the new guy go for it! But if your ex cheated on you he will do it again!! Everyone knows that! Try out with the new guy and see how that goes! GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-19 12:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you are projecting your feelings for your ex onto this new guy, in an effort to get your ex out of your head...thats not going to work. It wouldn't be fair to start something with someone new, when you clearly have feelings for your ex, how can you committ to making something work with someone new, if your mind is always wondering to the past.
First things first, you need to evaluate your relationship with your ex. Do you really want to be with him? Can you forgive him for the way that he has treated you? Does he really want you back or does he just not want to see you with someone else? These are all questions you need to resolve before you can have a healthy relationship with someone else.
Have a conversation with your ex, find out where his head is at, and then have a conversation with yourSELF and find out where your head is at. I think you'll realize that once you clear everything up...you'll either be able to forgive your ex or be ready to start anew.
2006-09-19 12:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by laydehoo05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough...if I was you I wouldn't trust the guy that cheated on me and broke my heart...you can always stay friends,but getting back together, there is always the risk that he will cheat on you again and then you will be hurt EVEN MORE! Move on, I know it will be hard, but eventually when you think about him, you won't have feelings for him anymore.
Good luck!
2006-09-19 12:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back with your ex. Once a cheater always a cheater. Give this new guy a chance and forget about the ex. He screwed up and now he's paying for it. Let it! Good luck!
2006-09-19 12:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away! from the ex....there is a reason he is the ex...that reason could and prolly will come back..
2006-09-19 12:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by roy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the guy you met on saturday once you havean ex you should never go back i know i never have
2006-09-19 12:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a fresh new start with the new guy.
2006-09-19 12:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋