Should a man and a woman become best friends before becoming romantically involved?

Question

Sometimes I think that is part of the problem with marriages today and why they end up in divorce. Couples ( especially young couples ) don't take the time to get to know one another properly and end up with someone with whom they have little or nothing in common. Agree or not?

Answer 1

Personally I disagree. As a guy, if you approach a potential relationship by trying to be friends first, you very often get stuck there. Make your intentions known that your pursuit is of a romantic nature.

Answer 2

Well, I think there are many factors to why the divorce rate is high. One is that people who get married under 25 years old do not know who they are and when they marry, they grow apart from their spouse instead of closer together. The problem is that people from 18-25 think that they DO know themselves and won't listen to reason. LOL. People also get married for alot of stupid reasons and over look the fact that they don't have much in common with the one they are marrying. I don't know about whether or not you should be best friends first because when I met my husband there were a lot of sparks flying and really amazing chemistry and that happened first. We got to know each other and found out we did have quite a bit in common, so then we moved it to the next level. It is different for everyone I guess. I personally do not want to be married to someone who is too much like my best friend in the traditional sense as that is pretty boring. If you want a good marriage, you need both the sexual chemistry and the friendship that includes respect and honesty and love. Hmmmmmm, yep.

Answer 3

I think that a relationship between two people that starts off as a very good friendship and then becomes more romantic is going to last a lot longer than if you got with someone and didn't REALLY know them before you got serious. Communication is a big part of a relationship and you have to be friends to be able to talk about alot of things....
friends before lovers!!!!!

Answer 4

I dont think a man and woman should be best friends before becoming romantically involved. For one, I do think they should get well acquainted with each other, so they can have an idea of that person, to see whether they want to have a relationship. And secondly, I think a person should let their intentions be known, straight up, before anything gets started.

Answer 5

I agree that a lot of relationships start off as a physical attraction and once they've had sex a ton, they realize that there is no emotional connection. So, starting a relationship as just friends is more sought after for my case; don't get me wrong, I love being physical. However, when I meet someone I really want to be with, I try to hold off on the sexual relations for at LEAST a few weeks.

Answer 6

Agree

Answer 7

Yes a man and woman should be very good friends before dating each-other,so you date some-one you know and have some thing in common because the one you love should be your best friend as well.

Answer 8

first of all romantically involved and sexually involved are two different things and knowing someone better doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, marriages take work rather you know your partner or not, that holds true for younger people and older, so i have to say i disagree, but your heart is in the right place.

Answer 9

he answer is yes become good friends before you end up all romantically involved.. that way you know him and he knows you alot better and you start to feel a connection then you can go for itbut i would take a little more then 1 week to do so....

Answer 10

I agree, my relationship ended in divorce, I didn't know him well enough. I should have took more time, then I wouldn't be a single mother and still have all this hurt and emptiness.