My husband is deployed over seas and has been since may 30th. I feel like i may be overparenting with my disiplin. I seem ti be punishing alot more because i am afraid that if i don't, she will become more unruly that she already is. She is only 26 months, but is already very stuborn. She i keep this up, or back off of her a lil bit?
2006-09-19 05:06:42 · 6 answers · asked by sknygurl022002 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
First, remember this is a stressful time for her as well as you. She's going through an emotional roller coaster. That said, you must stay firm with her. It's very easy for kids to get out of hand while one of the parents is deployed. The parent at home gets tired, stressed or over worked and starts to get lack. Once this happens, it's easy to let it get too far. Judge each situation separately. Is she being a kid or is she acting out?? Did something happen to cause it?? Once you assess this, then think about the form of discipline. Make sure the discipline fits the action she did wrong. Mostly, remain consistent. Don't flip flop or she won't know what's going on. They can be very stubborn at that age. Let her develop that, but also, teach her to control it. It sounds to me like you're doing a good job. Don't go by what others in your unit are doing. Watch how their kids act. Just remember to be fair, but firm. You and her with both be alright.
Good luck!!
2006-09-19 05:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are probably feeling like you discipline her more b/c you are since you're husband isn't there to help. Try not to discipline her more than she would have been before but you can't be lenient either. I know it's tough to know how much is too much and how much isn't enough. Just remember that if you don't discipline her enough now it will come back to bite you later. (I know cause I have one I should've been stricter with who's a hellion now and a much younger one that behaves alot better because I learned a very hard lesson!)
Good luck! It's tough having your husband deployed and raising the kids alone and I'm sure you're doing the best you can....especially since you're dealing with the terrible twos which is hard under the best of circumstances!
2006-09-19 07:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason your babyis stubborn is because you're over parenting. If you're gonna punish, make sure the punishment fits the crime AND that you explain to you child why they are being punished. You may just be taking your frustration of you husband being gone out on your child. Talk to the FRG for the wives of the men in the unit (something like that!) They're there for a reason. GOOD LUCK and Bless You!
2006-09-22 11:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, bless your husband for his contribution to the protection of the US, second, its good that your home with your daughter because (not a sexist) your the mommy, I have 3 little ones, my oldest is 6 (girl), 5(boy), 3(boy), the daughter can relate to a mom better at this stage even if she will be a daddys girl....Women are better a nurturing than men (in most cases), you will be fine, god bless, and have a great day......
2006-09-19 05:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by lost&confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that she is doing some thing wrong then you need to punish her... but don't forget to talk to her too... she might be acting up because daddy's gone... she might just be looking for more attention...
2006-09-19 07:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by A_Soldiers_Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! You need some parental counseling.
2006-09-19 05:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Vagabond5879 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋