Me and my boyfriend have 3 months and a few days and we are always fighting and arguing for stupid reasons. We are a young couple and I hadn't dated enough to know how to control these things. He said he gets mad at me because i stay quiet when we arguing and that gets him anger. I dont kno how to stop fighting, the other day we almost broke up. And everytime he does something he has a way of turning it back on me and i end up apologizing. What should I do?
2006-09-19 05:04:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hun i have been with my fiance for 2 years and 1 month. the best thing to do is try to calm him down so you two can talk rationally ok no more silence you talk but don't yell.i am only 22 almost 23 and my fiance just barelly turned 22. so yeah i am older but we don't fight as much. the best thing to do is stay calm and tell him to calm down so you two can talk about it reasonably. if it continues thendon't stay wiht him a man who fights for no good reason isn't a good man he is just a jerk...
2006-09-19 05:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him while you can. You are young and will have many boyfriends in your life. It is not worth the hassle to fight all the time, especially if you are not a fighter. Some people just like the drama. As for him twisting all the arguments into his favor, this will never stop. He is extremely immature and does not know how to handle a relationship. It also seems that he has the upper hand in the relationship and tries to use that leverage to keep you submissive. Move on. There are alot of nice guys out there.
2006-09-19 05:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Guinness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make you feel inadequate. Do not apologize for something you are not at fault for, or he will expect you to take the blame for EVERYTHING from now on. You are doing the right thing by being quiet. That shows that you have lots of self control and you are letting him get his frustrations out. It sounds like he is controlling. If you've been together this short time and having such problems, just call it quits before you get more attatched and move on.. this will be a learning experience for relationships to come. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-19 05:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly what you almost did the other day. Break up. What's the point of letting someone make you feel bad when it may not be all you. If you dont want to break up then try talking to him rather than being quiet. So either try communicating with him or let him go. Good luck.
2006-09-19 05:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by valentinegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to walk away from this relationship and find some one new. Look carefully at what he is doing in turns of turning things back on your and forcing you to always apologize. This is what a future holds with him. I don't think you want to endure years of this considering how hard just 3 months of it has been. This is who he is and how he interacts in a relationship and you deserve better than that.
2006-09-19 05:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. I am serious. Abusive men know how to make women feel like everything is their fault and he might not hit you know but the warning signs are there. Besides, do you wnat to be in a relationship where you fight constantly for the rest of your life?
2006-09-19 05:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Monique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a very angry person. You've only been going out for 3-4 months, fight constantly and then he turns the argument to make it ur fault? doesnt sound like a worth while relationship. Dump him.
2006-09-19 05:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by clueless_idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak out! and make him appologize. He obviously knows how you work and he's figured out that it will always be you who has to appologize. Once he begins to understand things from your perspective he might change a bit, if not you'll break up, but hey some things just aren't meant to last and if he can't change for the better then he's probably not the one for you and you deserve better
2006-09-19 05:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by United_Until_I_Die 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for counceling. It sounds like neither of you can communicate well and need to get the help you need to see if you are going to be able to make it together.
2006-09-19 05:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by slanteyedkat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aris, take it cool with him, he loves you, soon everythings will change, dont stop apologizing becos no more true husband in town, manage the one you have pending he change
2006-09-19 05:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by fajesco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋