My ex-boyfriend and I agreed to see each other again. Mainly, we are friends but at times we become intimate. I feel he is there for me when we are together. He brings me flowers and he is very attentive to me. There is no implied commitment. I am not intimate with anyone so I am glad to see him. We don't ask questions about what we do when we are not together. We volunteer only information that we want to share. In summary, options are open. I want a committed relationship. I am not certain if he really feels the same way. When I talk with him, it appears that he likes being with me. On the phone, he's always warm and complimentary of me. It's hard to figure.
2006-09-19 04:56:12 · 9 answers · asked by Wondering myself 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the way you're describing your relationship, doesn't sound like there's a committment, at least not on his part. It is not necessarily bad - as long as this works for both of you. Seems like it might be a relationship of convenience - and enjoyable one maybe, but not the kind that crosses over into serious committment. Should there be one? Depends on both of you. If committment is what you want, it may be time to bring it up with him - but be prepared to look elsewhere.
2006-09-19 05:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a committment then there should be one. I don't know how you can be intimate without one. I sure couldn't. And bringing you flowers indicates it's more than friendship. Talk to him and tell him what you expect. If he disagrees then move on romantically. I don't even think the friendship things will work for now - maybe later. But, definately talk to him about it.
2006-09-19 12:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there should be a commitment, but it sounds as if he is enjoying seeing you and doing what else he wants to also.
There is really nothing wrong in this as long as you are not hurt by expecting something more.
How long have you been seeing each other again? Did you have a committed relationship before?
2006-09-19 12:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for some serious discussion. Ar You afraid that if you bring it up, he'll scoot?
Tell him in an intimate moment, how you feel just then, and how you'd like for it to last forever. If he says he feels the same, then propose to him then and there!
2006-09-19 12:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him about this. It sounds like it is an open relationship at this point. Let him know how you feel and what you expect. If he doesn't want a relationship atleast you are friends. Good Luck!
2006-09-19 11:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems he likes bieng around you as much as you do,coz if you do get intimate and if he was only looking 4 some booty,then he'd be gone by now,to me he seems honest and missed you loads.so baby start up a convo wit him,tell him how u feel,his your ex dude com on! you probably know him in out.set a good time and place....show him some independence,maturity,and dignity.good luck swits
2006-09-19 12:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by quebbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bring it up is what you do. Just ask him what sort of relationship he'd like to maintain right now. It couldn't hurt you.
2006-09-19 11:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want a commitment from himt o see eachother and only eachother. if he isn't down for that, then he needs to go!
2006-09-19 12:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you ask him.....what's going on between you two??????
2006-09-19 12:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋