I am having a problem getting my daughter to sleep all night in her own bed. I have tried the ferber method and it doesn't work for me. She will cry for more than an hour. We haven't let her go for longer than that. She is a very restless sleeper and wakes up often during the night. I need to get some new ideas to help me get my nights back to being for me and my husband instead of running up and down the stairs to try to get her to stay asleep.
2006-09-19 04:55:57 · 8 answers · asked by ivory_kittens 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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This was asked before, I hope this helps.
2006-09-19 05:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably so used to getting up all night, that it will take a while to establish a full nights sleep, like with a newborn, but with a louder cry! :( I would establish a definite bedtime and routine, which maybe you already have. Bath, rock, story, song, bed (or whatever works for you). You can try sitting by the door once you lay her down, but looking away. Or, in some cases, I have read of parents even sitting right near the crib. But once she goes in she stays in. Then, move farther away as the nights progress, then to the hall, and finally the child stays in bed. Once she is able to fall asleep on her own, when she wakes up rolling over, or with an itch, or whatever, during the night, she should be able to fall back to sleep on her own.
If she uses pacifiers put 10 in her bed, so no matter where she is she can grab one during the night. Make sure she has her blanky, or whatever it is that soothes her. If she doesn't have something, create a bond with something (put it in bed with her every night, because maybe she is using you as her lovey.
See the link, it has some hints that cover a greater array of scenarios. And, good luck!
2006-09-22 23:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness your daughter has already worked out the secret of getting to your parents - let's see who will last longer my crying or how quickly they will come to rescue me.
I would say she is totally winning, you need to put her in her bed and put up a baby gate, it is easier to move or step over in case of a REAL emergency. Yes you will have a week or two of her crying when you put her to sleep in her own bed but sooner than later she will realize there is the place she is suppose to sleep if you don't cave in and try to rescue her due to the crying.
I am sure you may find this cruel but imagine having the same problem when she is 4 because you didn't stop it early. Or taking her to a supermarket and she is crying because she can't get some type of sugared cereal. Attention to negative behavior is still attention....
2006-09-19 12:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sydney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre not going to let her cry it out then the only other option is to go down and put her to sleep each time she wakes up.
she cant learn to fall asleep on her own, if she never does it on her own.
Try running a fan in her room. The white noise might help her stay asleep if shes a light sleeper.
2006-09-19 11:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no quick solution to this, it takes time and patience. What worked for our family is the first few nights when you put your child to bed, stay with them, rub her back, sing. The next few days, just sit next to her bed, there but not actively soothing her, the next few days sit across the room, then in the doorway, then in the hall outside her door. This will take a couple of weeks and you will know when to move on to the next stage, but it does work!
2006-09-19 13:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the answer the first person gave, but I would add to leave a small light on. Maybe she's afraid of the dark. Give her a special stuffed animal or doll that she can only have when she is in her own bed by herself.
2006-09-19 12:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i got 4 of my own just sit in her bed with her till she falls asleep and if she wakes up do the same thing will take a few times but shell get the idea dont give up i always rubbed their head that always worked for me good luck
2006-09-19 12:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by jkosburn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Sepernanny.. she deals with this all the time... the first thing you need a a routine.. develop one that is managable and stick to it..
It's Ok to let kids cry... they are doing it becasue they know you'll give up eventually..
2006-09-19 12:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋