He is demanding to know (I don't know why) and I don't know what to tell him. Would there still be visible scarring from 17 years ago.
BTW, as he turned away from me and walked off, I heard him mumble something like "not going in the way I came out."
2006-09-19 04:48:52 · 18 answers · asked by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well if he dosen't want to go in the way he came out, maybe talk to him about his other options...(the back door entrance)
2006-09-19 06:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.♥ Krasinski 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my daughter is 17 and I kept her "blue book" from hospital and my family doctor has the history of all my 3 kids births too. But this is Australia so I dont know what medical records your country keeps.
However, his crap is about anger with how his life has turned out...not HOW he was born. So if he's not into vaginas...is he gay and scared of telling you? or in hating ladies mode due to inconsistent parenting and of need of counselling. Those are angry/abusive words to you and he does need boundaries....from your husband or another family member.
Teens go through a stage where their frontal lobes are growing in the later years. Thats mostly why they do and act in unthinking ways...even if you've been a great parent. Why you didnt just yell what the hell and give him a lecture is more of a mystery to me because if your self esteem is strong...how could he dare or think to say such a thing? Maybe he's asking for boundaries or support, so that he doesnt feel so lost?
2006-09-19 12:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good lord - what a pickle!! you could tell him that a woman's cervix changes shape after giving birth, there would be marks on the pelvic bones for each child given birth to, (these are not naked to the visible eye, of course - he's not going to be able to see either of those things & that's just a fact) umm, stretch marks (but that's not a 100% accurate indicator because women who've never given birth can have those). as far as "not going in the way I came out" - I have no idea what to make of that, unless it indicates he never intends to enter a woman's vagina ever again? wow - I wish you well with this one - I know teens can be a pain in the butt - hang in there & try to keep those communication lines open! He won't be a teenager forever!!
Good luck to you!
2006-09-19 12:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u have to do is go to da hospital were he was born at n request da medical records cuz der is no other way dat u can prove he was born natural. unless u have pictures of video der is no physical proff. but u should really get to the root of the quesion. why does he wanna know? why is it so important? n why would he mumble " not goin in the way i came out ?" talk to ur son see wats really going on, it may be more seriouse dan u think.
2006-09-19 12:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by mperez637 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No scarring that long ago, but that's kinda freaky to think of having your son look at his mother that way anyway. His mom could get her medical records from the birth and it will show vaginal delivery.
2006-09-19 11:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no c-section scar.
there would be a c-section scar if the woman who gave birth to him had a c-section. Vaginal birth usually does not leave any scars, and what kind of sick person would let their kid look there.
If he was adopted, do let him know, but if he was not, I cannot see why on earth he would want to know how he was born
2006-09-19 11:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your SON'S question that is important, it is WHY he is asking this odd question that is important- unless this is some kind of a sick joke on your part.
Now IF the question is genuine, you need to get to the root of that, and then things will sort themselves out.
BTW, having him scratch around in his birth mother's bush to disprove a scar is not really very healthy.
2006-09-19 11:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a weird thing to want to know, but surely you wouldnt actually show him any proof on your body. Get a copy of his medical records thatpertain to his birth. If that doesnt provide a satisfactory answer, then somethings wrong.
2006-09-19 12:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by thetruthteller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a real question?
Show him a picture of him right after birth and explain the reason for his conehead appearance.
2006-09-19 11:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Just talk to him about it and find out what the underlying problem is (i.e. why he now wants proof). This just sounds like one of those kid things, most can be sorted out with a decent conversation.
2006-09-19 11:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by StoneWeasel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you kept any hospital records, it would mention it there, or early doctors records. Scarring would not necessarily be there, nor appropriate for him to be probing his mother that way.
2006-09-19 11:58:26 · answer #11 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋