be sorrounded by friends and family, the more i do that, the more i feel pathetic by the fact that i have no life and that i wanna be with this person so bad...I love her so much sometimes i feel i can't breath and my heart is dead, it hurts really bad and i don't know what to do, i don't want to get over her cause i know is real love and we're ment to be together...my friends don't understand...they just want the same happy person i was when i was with her, but how can i do that if i feel empty inside???
2006-09-19 04:44:43 · 13 answers · asked by bibibi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me it never gets easyier to bget over someone, I am 41 and still have that empty feeling once we break up. YOu have to understand that family and close friends just want to help you to be happy again. Unfortunately most do not understand it is better sometimes to back off and give you your space to let you sort out things in your head.
2006-09-19 04:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by brazilman37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our friends and family, will always say that well known line of," You'll get over that"! But we normally don't cause it takes time and a liitle encouragement from ourselves. No matter how much we love someone its not easy to let them go, but we have to even if we think that the relationship is meant to be cause sometimes the other person needs time to see what they had and miss.
But if thats not the case you got to move on, and when I say that find something that is worth loving or living for and focus on that or you need to open the window and let the sun in and think that even though you're alone, maybe this time around you'll find someone who just might be the one?
2006-09-19 04:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by q_ri_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. You have it bad. OK I am assuming that she broke up with you cause i can't see you breaking up with her and loving her and feeling this way still. I hope the two of you didn't break up because people couldn't accept your relationship. That will be a pretty dumb thing.
The only way for you to truly get over someone you love is to let g of them and put the feelings deep inside you in a corner somewhere until it disappears for itself. You seem to be pretty much in love though. I would go get my man, woman in your case, back.
But remember not to go rushing into any relationships right now cause you are at a vulnerable stage in your life. This is the time you are most likely to be taken advantage of. Not to mention any feelings for someone else could very well be transference of emotions from your ex to the current person. Take time to be with yourself. Take time to recompose yourself. I am really sorry though. I could almost feel your pain.
2006-09-19 04:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not merely a matter of being surrounded by friends and family.
It's a matter of opening yourself up to the love that they have for you, and realizing that you are still a complete and worthy human being even if you aren't in this relationship anymore.
Speaking of being a complete and worthy human being, you do realize that "not wanting to get over" an ended relationship prevents you from being OR ATTRACTING one, right? The odds of you ever winning back your ex- get smaller with every day you mope and pine, because you are no longer the person this woman fell in love with - you have become a clinging, needy, obsessive shell. And shells are only attractive to beachcombers and psychological predators.
2006-09-19 04:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru something similar, but I do think that being around my friends helps me out.(but thats me) I was with a person that I really loved, but unfortunately she didn't feel the same way 4 me. All I could say is, if u two were meant to be then she'll be back, but if shes not then u need to move on. U'll regret it later, good luck.
2006-09-19 04:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dwelling on the past hurts and it is a complete waste of time. I have been doing the same thing for a long time now (about 3 years) and I think I have missed out on a couple great opportunities because of it. I know it is hard, but it is time to move on
2006-09-19 04:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by drakekse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friends and family are there to rub your shoulder, give you hug.....bring the tissue, open the wine etc.........they are there for support.........your hurt should be enough to let them know how much you loved her. You don't get over someone by not loving them......in time you will be ok with it.........you will always love her, if you don't then you never did. I don't believe in learning not to love someone, you just get sort of comfortable and forlorn with it.........you know you always loved that person and want the best for them no matter what. It takes time......lots of time.
When I broke up last time, it was sort of unexpected....I sat in my back yard and chain smoked an entire pack dropping them into one pile, just so I could see it build......I also drank the bottle of wine he was so excited to have me taste when he took me to his favorite winery.....
2006-09-19 04:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know that you love her? Are you just clapping with one hand? Make the first move, let her know how you feel. You don't have to listen to anybody but yourself. Do it if you think is right. Is your happiness that you are looking for. Be prepared for disappointment. Anyway, sometimes single life is better than married life. Cos I am married I know.
2006-09-19 04:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by wan2knowhow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be surrounded by friends and family. You need to find someone else. Once you get in a new relationship you won't be as obsessed with the old one.
2006-09-19 04:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what ppl think works, and it usually does, but if you need to be alone, then do it. Good luck with this, I hope you get her back.
2006-09-19 04:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋