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Question about closeness and moving from friendship to more!!!!??????
I have this best friend, I'm a guy, she's a girl, we are 15 and have known each other for 2 years. When we hang out in a group, we are always standing close to each other. We playfully fight with and mock each other all the time. She calls me Reilly, even tho everyone else calls me by my first name and if they call me Reilly she gets anoyed. We are very comfortable with each other. On a couch we sorta lean into each other, anyway, I am pretty sure now that she likes me, an I know I like her, A Lot, so what should I do next? Should I test the waters by hugging her? An arm round the shoulder or waist? Any advice?

Specifically I want to know what I should do next and how.

Also, sholud I make it apparant to her that I am trying to change our relationship? Like, blatantly put my arm round her waist? Or should I be more subtle?

Answer 1

Don't make a move but just sit down with her one night and tell her how you really feel.If she likes you it will naturally grow from there. The body language suggests that she's digging you. Act on that and don't be too forward.

Answer 2

First of all, this seems as if you're both just flirting with the idea of taking the friendship onto another level, but by what you've just described, I definitely think that she's really interested. A normal girl without any romantic feelings for you wouldn't get angry that other people call you the name that she does. Then there's the physical contact - by reading the actions that she takes you're reading the body language that she's trying to convey to you. If you like her and would like to see if she's really interested or not, be subtle. But I must say that she's probably wondering why you haven't made a move by now yet! So, be subtle but don't wait forever between the moves if you know what I mean. Start getting her alone and putting your arm around her, a little more physical contact and if she responds positively, then maybe you could be more daring and start holding hands. If you think holding hands comes after the whole asking her out thing, by increasing the physical contact and getting a positive response, you'll know then that you can ask her out and what she'll say. The key here then is to be subtle but don't keep her waiting because she might lose interest and that's not where you want to be. So, be bold and good luck!

Answer 3

If you feel like she likes u then u should tell her how u feel. maybe she does like u but she thinks that u dont like her so she's shy u should make the first move. just be open and upfront with her. if u just make a move on her like that like putting ur arm around her waist or shoulder she may feel a little smothered and awkward. but when u tell her how u feel she may be weird 2 b/c u guys have been friends for so long. just give her time 2 let it sink in. an if she turns u down then just wait 4 her 2 come 2 u. dont repeatedly ask her over and over again b/c that will surely make her feel smothered.

i really hope this helps u out. good luck!!! oh and btw wait till the right time 2 tell her. whenever u feel is right then just go 4 it.

Answer 4

Your still young man, 15 years old... ahh what it was like to be 15... dont' worry about it, everything will come in time, if you guys are best friends right now... i suggest waiting till you finish high school and then dating... the relationship will be strong and definatly worth the wait.... plus you'll be more mature and understand each other better and the concept of a relationship... i was best friends with my gf since grade 8 and we started dating mid year grade 12, we've now been goin out for almost 3 years and im gonna ask her to marry me soon.... shhhhh she doesn't know... but don't rush anything man, seriouslly... play it cool be her friend, don't pressure her, she'll soon realize your not like most guys and that your there for her, not for what every other guy is there for... she'll come around and you two will be the happiest you could ever be... like i said be patient relax and enjoy what you have right now... it won't last long, nothing ever does...

Answer 5

That's a good question, you must be an nice, intelligent kid! My advice would be to call her on the phone, and say something like this; I know we laugh and joke a lot and kid each other, and that we really have a good friendship, and usually a good friendship is the first step into a good relationship, so what I would like to know is would you like to go out some place with me a movie or something that you would like to do, becaause Iwish it was more than just friendship, but I respect your opinion, and tht is whey I am calling you on the phone, so there is no embarassement for either one of his, whether your answer is yes or no! So are you cool with this or, would you just rather be friends, because what ever your wish is, I will certainly respect it and your feelings. Good Luch

Answer 6

Hey atleast you are asking . Sounds like nture is already in place with the friendship and comfort level. This stress is something you can easily get rid of by simply taking her by the hand next time you two are to gether and walk away from the group so you have her undivided attention and make an inquiry. Something like " As odd as it may sound ______ I really care about you. Can we take afew minutes to talk, I would like to see if you and I are on the same sheet of music, feeling the same emotions for each other. Obviously my terminology will have to be adapted to your age but you will probably find a heightened sense of respect from her instantly and a very special smile crossing those lips.
Just take your time and stay young dude, and stay smart!

Answer 7

It sounds like you have a nice relationship that is going along as it should. I wouldn't try to make any sudden drastic changes. Maybe reach for her hand sometime and say , "Let's take a walk." If she seems comfortable leaving the group to be with you alone then I think maybe it's time to suggest the 2 of you see a movie without the gang being invited. Then if she treats it like a date you'll know you're on the same page. Good luck!

Answer 8

Be more subtle. You don't want her to think that you want to be "friends with benefits". If you like her and feels she likes you too, just be honest and speak to her. It's not about being vulnerable either, just let her know that you like her more that just being friends and don't talk too much, say what you feel and let her do the rest. No mind games and no guessing games. Be straight forward, honest keep it simple and then give her the spotlight. Remember, No touch feely until she gives you the go ahead. You'll know when.

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Sounds like a real ankle biter. Maybe ask her out then start the relationship slow even though you've known each other for a long time. You never know what will happen next.

Answer 10

Well this is a tough one given your ages. But, if your good friends with her and can communicate why not just openly talk to her about it. You could even turn it into a Q&A. Like pop questions to her and maybe you could sneak a hug or like try to put your arms around her, trust me whatevr she feels she wont hide it. Girls will usually react to it fast, and if she initially reacts negatively let her know how it made you feel to be that much closer to her.