Shes 4 and she cries at the drop of a hat. You look at her funny she cries. She dont get her way she cries.Maybe its just a girl thing cause my 8 year old daughter does the same thing. Just seems that girls are harder to raise than boys because of their emotional devlopment.Its like you dont want to do the wrong thing because you dont want them scared for life but yet just having to deal with every day issues seems very challenging.
2006-09-19 04:34:00 · 8 answers · asked by redsnowykitten 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have an 18 year old daughter and a five year old son...my daughter seemed to go through a whinny stage too, what I found that worked was to keep her talking,,from how was your day to what do you think of this product when we were shopping to keep her mind too busy to cry, now when there were times this didn't work, I at first reacted,,with the stop that, there's nothing wrong with you,,but I realized that maybe there was and she didn't know how to tell me.
So from her I learned sometimes a child whinnies maybe because they are tired, maybe like my daughter one time was cutting four teeth at all at the same time and I didn't know it till that night at bath time when she went to brush her teeth, so sometimes taking a minute of our time to talk and listen to why they feel they are whining lets them relax and stop to tell you how they are feeling instead of trying to get your attention thru noise..try it and see if it works for you..Good luck
2006-09-19 04:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by enoughmichele04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two of each.
Ahhh, the whining. I tell my 4 yr old daughter I can't hear her until she speaks in a big girl voice. When I forget and answer, one of the boys reminds me I can't hear her.
Whining is a tactic. It does express feelings, but there are other ways to do it, and it's our job to teach them this.
2006-09-19 04:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There r some things u can do. 1.Help them express their needs in a more acceptable way. Tell them to use their words to explain what is going on, or what they need. Let them know they r safe and u understand how they feel. Key into their feelings,sad,angry,happy etc. and explain what these feeling r and how they can exprees them. For example "Mom,I feel very sad right now. Good luck and enjoy them. They grow up to fast
2006-09-19 04:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 2006 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her why she whines? I would probably help her make a list of things that make her whine and see what both of you can do to help her overcome her fears/apprehension. Make sure you give her lots of positive praise when she's not whining.
2006-09-19 04:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by Katyana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is a whinner too. I tell her that I will not continue to listen to her if she keeps whining. She's a girl..it only gets worse with age. If she whines for something, I don't give it to her until she stops and askes politely for things.
2006-09-19 04:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by jevic 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OH it's not just GIRLS who whine. My 2 SONS whine and CRY MORE than their older sister!
Just ignore it.
Tell them to STOP whining.
Don't talk to them when they cry or whine.
Let them know it is unacceptable behavior.
2006-09-19 04:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn what envy is.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If children live with encouragement, they learn to be confident.
If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to find love in the world.
If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.
If children live with honesty and fairness, they learn what truth and justice are.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those around them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
If children live with serenity, they learn to have peace of mind.
With what are your children living?
(old poem etiyyrn by Dorothy L. Nolte)
2006-09-19 04:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had a whiny kid, I would tell them to suck it up that they weren't dieing.
But I guess that's how I was raised.
2006-09-19 04:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋