I am 34 years old and have alway wanted a child. I have the perfect Fieance that will be a great dad, but I am so fearful of the whole process and then staying home after the baby is born, because I don't have family to help me. I am so nervous. Is this normal?
2006-09-19 04:28:42 · 14 answers · asked by Dori 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
of course its normal, having a baby is a very scary thing, you may not have family to help but what about your fiance, his family, and friends? just know you wont have to do it alone and just keep in mind even if you did have to, you could, people do it all the time, its scary but exciting and its all worth it, good luck.
2006-09-19 04:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you have a fiance, not a husband, so don't entertain that idea of having a child YET. Once you're married the two of you can discuss that further. Remember people are normally somewhat scared of the sicuation, but not enough to hold them back from doing sex. So when a child is conceived, it just happens, you go to the doctor and follow the rules. Most times you don't have a choice.
If you have a problem with anxiety normally then you need to talk with your doctor as to when to stop taking the medication, or maybe taking vitamins/minerals instead of taking that anxiety medication.
My last thought would be to make sure the man you marry is helpful and not skiddish in tough or smelly situation. And be sure he really loves you and really wants children too. Not that that assures you both will work together after a child is born but it makes things go smoother if you plan ahead. I remember my fiance being real nice and I wanted twelve kids (he became my husband)....many many years later and no children came of it because he backed down......well, means some guys will say anything to get sex.
2006-09-19 11:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a teenager and still get anxiety over her.
Having a child is a big responsibly. It never stops. The older they get the bigger the problems, but WOW the reward is worth the work.
I am able to work part-time and stay home with my girls, there are a lot of things I do without so they can have.
Good Luck
2006-09-19 11:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by Just_Hangan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal---I've felt that with my first and now I'm pregnant with my second and wonder the same thing. How can we afford two babies? What about babysitting? Are we going to have to get a bigger car? So much to worry about, but the joy they bring about just wipes that all away. One way or another things always work out. I'm sure you'll be fine as parents. As ready as you think you are, you are never "ready" for the changes a baby makes in your life. Good luck to you and hope things work out well!
2006-09-19 11:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes!!Even though I am young and don't know much I have a 2 year old and am also 6 months pregnant at this time.I'm 17 yrs. old and I have a great boy-friend and all but no matter how old you are you will always get that feeling inside of you bu don't overwelm yourself.Take it one day at a time and god will lead youy the rest of the way!!!!I Good luck.
2006-09-19 14:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by justins_babygurl06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. I'm 24 and have been in a steady relationship for 3 years and we've been talking about marriage and kids.
I want a child, but I'm also freaked out about it. The closer it feels like we're getting to that point, the more freaked out I get, and I would have both of our mothers there to help us out. It's fear of the unknown.
2006-09-19 11:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is comletely normal.
I felt the same way. I am 18, a single Mom, and working 2 jobs just to support my daughter.
But let me tell you, when you see your baby for the first time, all that anxiety goes down the drain.
Trust me.
Good luck!
2006-09-19 11:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of people who don't have family to help. I didnt either. I stayed home for awhile and went to work part time and my child was in daycare part time. Before you know it, they are in preschool and then Grade school for 6 hours a day.
2006-09-19 11:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already have one child and very time i think about having a baby or the fact my guy and i could be pregnant i still get scared.
2006-09-19 11:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by reba s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very normal.
I don't have a family here to support me here, as well. But I'm gonna have my own family...
You're going to have your child, it'll change all your life for better. It's normal to think about difficulties, but your kid will worth everything.
2006-09-19 11:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by miss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋