Well me and my Boyfriend have been dating for seven months and we have been happy until recently when he acts like i don't want to see him or that i love my friends more than him. He says he likes my friends and that he's glad i have friends but that sometimes they get in the way. The other night he was arguing about not being able to see me and that i see my friends more than him and i said that it wasn't my fault they go to school with me and he doesn't. He just bought me a promise ring and that night he told me to break up with him. I said fine and the next day he said we were still together that he didn't mean it. I just don't understand it. I even ignore his calls sometimes because i know we are going to fight and i just don't want to hear it. He acts like all i do is go to school but i also work so i only get 2 days off from shool and i need to relax but he doesn't see it that way. What does he want and what should i do?
2006-09-19 04:24:26 · 10 answers · asked by shortyrosas2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump this weenie. Life's to short for this kinda trippin', ya know?
2006-09-19 04:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants you to obsess of him like he does for you. Its apparent that you two are no longer on the same page with this relationship. Are you willing to try and get back on the same page or are you too fed up with it? You are apparently a busy girl: job, school, friends, boyfriend. So do you want to invest more time and energy to make this work. But from what you're saying, he's not going to be happy until your world revolves around him. Why? He's probably insecure and too immature for this relationship. I really wouldn't waste anymore of your time cuz I doubt it's going to get better.
2006-09-19 11:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your boyfriend doesn't have to much going on in his life besides you. I think if he was busy everyday after school with work and sports, he'd have a different outlook and you wouldn't have this problem.
REMEMBER: You should be able to spend a lot of time with your boyfriend and not get tired of him - that's key to a long lasting relationship. If you can't, you're wasting your time. The thing is, you should always have other things going on because life is to short to limit your experiences.
2006-09-19 11:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by hellfirsthand 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the way you feel now, whats gonna change it? Maybe you need a break from each other. He doesn't seem to respect what you have going on in your life. He needs to realize he is not the only thing in your life. He needs to figure out what he wants and go from there. Good luck.
2006-09-19 11:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like classic jealousy to me. The telling *you* to break up with *him* is a nice touch - like that makes it not his fault!
He wants you, and he wants to know that he's a priority in your life, and he's not getting enough of that feeling. This could be because you aren't able to give him reasonable assurances (due to being busy), or it could be because he wants *unreasonable* assurances. I suspect that when he says he's glad you have friends, he's saying that because he knows he's supposed to say that, but he would gladly have you all to himself if he got the chance.
You'll probably get folks telling you to dump him, but I say sit down and talk things out. This process may end up with one of you dumping the other, but everyone could use a little more practice in talking things out. =) Sit down and explain to him how your time is broken out (school, work, personal obligations, and leisure). Tell him that you're sorry there isn't more time that can be devoted to him, but that's how your life is and how it looks to be for a while, and what might you be able to *do* with that time to help him realize that he's important to you?
And stick to your guns on this! If he wants you to quit your job so that you can hang out with him more, that is NOT a reasonable request! Neither is insisting you come hang out with him for hours and hours after work if you get off at 9 pm and need to be up for school at 6 am! Like I said, trying to have this talk may end up with one of you dumping the other. But at least you'll have ended the relationship like grown-ups, instead of that childish "I'm going to make you do it" game he tried earlier.
2006-09-19 11:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take his promise ring back to walmart and trade it in on some Preperation H, because he sounds like a big pain in the A$S. Why waste your carefree years tied down to a overbearing jealous fool.
2006-09-19 11:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he misses you, because he doesnt gett o see you as much. His " we're through" thing was out of anger. He loves you and just wants moretime togeather. Make the time you DO HAVE WITH HIM, more quality than quantity. And reasure him that when you can be with him you will. But it's important to spend time with freinds and school too.!
2006-09-19 11:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is so tragic!
Plan a weekend or whatever day, with JUST him....and talk from the heart.
2006-09-19 11:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him
2006-09-19 11:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe, if you are still unsure, you will never be sure.
2006-09-19 11:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by JizzMopper L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋