i've known this guy for years. To make a long story short, i gave him a chance, we hit it off, he took that "innocent" part of me.... but he still loves his ex. He chose to tell me afterward! He said he really really likes me though. Now we are finish...i feel like he used me to get his mind off her but only to find that he couldn't...so he dropped me! The only thing that keeps him calling is that i MIGHT be carrying his child....i know, i know..it sucks right?.....i know, i'm moving on...... can i get some opinions!!!
2006-09-19 04:12:22 · 32 answers · asked by stress77mulah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so was so into him! but in the end he has been going back and forward between the two on us for months!!!!!
2006-09-19 04:13:47 · update #1
he had me fooled. He acted like he care, you know...just like a boyfriend! He he has also made it clear that he wants to be in the childs life!
2006-09-19 04:34:36 · update #2
his ex knows about my possibility......
2006-09-19 04:36:12 · update #3
As long as you keep taking calls from him and babying him over his ex you are making yourself an easy target for casual sex.
The fact that you have known him for years makes it easier for you to have sympathy sex with him even when you know deep down he isnt gonna stay with you.
Him calling you because he thinks your may be preggers with his child, only seems as though he is guilty or maybe he doesnt want his ex ( or maybe she isnt even an EX yet) to find out that he had sex with you.
If you are carrying his child for gods sake dont start a relationship with him just because your preggers. If you want the baby have it, give it up for adoption although I dont condone abortion you have to choose whats best for you.
Make sure you get support froom him if you have his child. He was man enough to have sex with you, now he is worried about a child, true its the responsibility of BOTH of you to use protection, however only ONE of you is left with the responsibility of a child and thats you. You do whats best for yorself and your child no other person. And if you are preggers, then let him know and let him know what his obligations are concerning that child. Be blunt, and dont let him get off by saying he really loves his ex and he cant help with the baby.
This guy has used you once. He had sex with you and then dropped you like a hot potato and cried off sayin he wasnt over his ex. If he isnt ready to move on then no amount of sex with you will make him do it.
You need to be blunt with him. Let him know you are his friend, but let him know that the friendship that you share doesnt make you easy and it doesnt make you his screw buddy. Let him know it wont be happening anymore. Let him know that your not here so he has someone to have sex with when the one he wants wont let him in her bed. It doesnt feel good to kow that you are second choice, even if you are.
Best of luck and get over him (in that way, anyways).
2006-09-19 04:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the ex gf know you may be carrying his child? If not i would let her know . In a situation like that it is hard to move on but first things first find out for sure if your having his baby if not move on quickly break all contact even if it hurts to do so now it will hurt less in the long run. if you are having a child with him your stuck with him in your life however it does not mean you have to be his victim find someone new anyway and just accept him for what he was a jackass
2006-09-19 04:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I could ask if you have ever heard of birth control to start with, but I won't. As for him, there is nothing you can do to make him like you more or forget about his ex........feelings are feelings and you can't change them. As for the baby you might be carrying, that is your choice as to what you do if you are pregnant. I just wouldn't expect to much from him and I wouldn't even mention it to him until you find out for sure, no need to get him nerved up and make him really run away for no reason. Good luck
2006-09-19 04:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish you the best of luck. please use this as a learning experiance. stop frretting over him . he has proven to you that he is isnt worth your time. The baby and you should be your main priority right now. I went through a similar situation about 2 years ago. i have a beautiful little girl out of it though. i delt with a lot of emotion while i was pregnant everything from guilt and shame to a sence of wonderment. i was growing another human being. now we are not only thriving we are a happy and complet family. i have found a wonderful man who treats her like she is his own and she adors him. be strong hold your head up high and always put your baby first. Its going to be a long bumpy road but you will survive. good luck.
2006-09-19 04:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Pixie Dust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama Heh
Do you really like the Drama or being second..Everyone deserves to be number 1. Don't settle for 2nd and don't think someone will drop baggage to make you number 1. He has baggage lots of it. Kick him where it counts >:) and what is this might be carrying? Either you are or your not. Don't tell me you don't know if it is his because you were with someone else too. That is to funny. I can see it now me as a little kid asking my mother who my father is and her reply is don't know honey the line was to long ;P
2006-09-19 04:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can seperate sex from their emotions, we don't have to have feelings for you to sleep with you. You were there and he felt like having sex. Its unfortunate that he hurt you like that but a lot of girls don't understand that just because we sleep with you doesn't mean that we like you.
Now that doesn't mean you should give up. Still go out and have a good time. Date the guys that you're attracted to. But don't get too emotionally attached to anyone until you find someone who is relationship material. That might mean that you have to date a lot of people to find out what you like. Some of them you will like but won't like you back. That's just how it works. So go out, have fun, don't think about this guy and you'll be more open to the other guys who are out there.
Now the baby is another story all together. Good luck.
2006-09-19 04:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The three way thing usually only goes well in bed. This guy probably doesn't love either one of you. He's a player, and seems to maybe be controlled by the one he keeps leaving you for.
Many, many children come into this world without "2" parents.
Dump him!! You'll come across a man who respects you and loves both u and baby.
2006-09-19 04:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're in a sticky spot. There's not much you can do about it. He probably did use you. Most men will do that at some point or another. I take it you're still friends, though. That's very good that you've moved on; you don't need to be hung up on this guy. Hope everything works out.
2006-09-19 04:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are carrying his baby two words child support. For the next 18 years.
2006-09-19 04:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if ur prego for sure! If you are you really need to stop persuing a relationship with him because it will make it harder to co-parent! I have two kids two dads and get along great with one and the other one its horrible! YOu don't want that for yourself or your baby!! Try to use the time to get past the hurt youre feeling and focus on the mini Me coming!
2006-09-19 04:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋