custody cases?

Question

hi im a mom of four boys been there primary care taker for 10 1/2 yrs.there ages are 16 14 13 my oldest is now 18 .

ok i was only recieving 50 aweek in support for four boys cause when he left he said if i would sue him for support he would give up his rights well i didnt know he couldnt do that so he said he would give me 50 aweek i said fine as long as you see your boys.

well one day he grabs his son by the throat hurts him so the two little ones decided they didnt want to see their dad anymore .yes i reported the incident to the doctors ,school counsler and women in crisis i should have called the police and children and youth .

so when the kids stopped going he stopped his support so i sued him then he sued me...

he never wanted theses kids before he only had them on his ordered weekends he was suppose to take them every wednesday but dropped wednesdays cause he said it was too much ..i had them boys all the time did everything took them to all there appts.

so i finally sued him for full support now he wants to take my sons . i am a good mom i dont do drugs i dont go out party i am a full time mom ...here for my sons all the time .
everytime i use to ask him to help me with something for the boys he would tell me i have plans ...or if i would have to run our sons to the er cause they got hurt in sports
he is like oh just call me and let me know what happens you know what after a while you dont bother.

he got married a second time to a great lady they had a son together then he bagged her to get pregnant again and walked out on her one nite to go to a bar and never came home.so she called me crying and scared thinking he was dead ..he wasnt dead he was with another women he was shacking up with her so he left his second wife with a 2 yr old boy and 5 months pregant ...it seems to me he isnt a family man left two families already.

now he is with this women and her kids in a 2 bedroom home her kids are 1o and 5

the 10 yr old has his own bedroom the 5 yr old girl sleeps in with my ex and his gf and then when he gets his kids from wife number two there also in the room wit the ex and his gf and when our sons go there on the floor in the living room no beds for my kids .nice isnt it.

now we are going thru a custody battle ,,,,we are going to have a home evaluation soon i hope.

i do everything i can for my sons i take them to all there docs,dentist,everything

he never ever took them to anything .

when my son would get hurt in his care he would wait till the kids came home and had me take him to the doctor.

then when we were at the court house for support the lady got mad at him cause here he had insurance for my sons and never told me nor gave me the cards for my sons.

she is like you never gave your ex the med cards he said no ...she is like you never took your sons to any apptments he said no that is her job she has custody and the lady said its your job to provide medicial

he is something that upset me this past sunday my 13 yr old walked up to the football field where his dad was coaches other kids at a game ,,he was suppose to keep the boys till 2pm dropped them off at 1130 cause he had football which he didnt spend anytime with them all weekend ,


but anyway my son was at the game went up to his dad and said dad can i have money for a drink and something to eat his dad looked at his watch and said its after 2 pm you are no longer my responsibility,
i couldnt believe he said that to him since when is there a time period for your kids there my responsibility 24/7 no matter if there with there dad or not,i would give him the last of all my money ....that really made me angry .i told my son he should have came home to eat something or money the football field is only like 5 blocks from where we live.i just couldnt believe he said that my 13 yr old told me this i was in shock .he said to me dont worry mom i will remember what he said.

my question is can someone who has taken good care of her kids for 10 1/2 yrs lose them .i dont do drugs ,i dont beat my sons ,i feed them clothed them and take care of them 24 /7 .go to school meetings always talking to guidance counslers doing this there whole lives....i lived on my own for 9 1/2 yrs raising the boys just moved in with my fiance last year been with him 10 1/2 yrs him and only him ...if you are wondering why we waited so long is cause my kids were my focus and they are whats important i wanted to take care of my boys on my own and not put it on someone else but the boys and i talked about it and we all decided we were ready to live together with my fiance ,they call him there step dad cause he was always there for him i mean they call him by his first name not dad ..

they have a dad i guess if you want to call him that ,,sorry i am just upset and angry

my email address is [e-mail]

Answer 1

He does not have a snowball's chance in hell of getting your kids.He is obviously a deadbeat and pond life. You know any father that would not give his kid a dime out of his pocket to get something to eat and drink is a pig. he is a coach? for what team ?Cause i would report his behavior to whoever is in charge of getting those teams together. He also has a bad temper let them know that too because he could end up hurting someone
else's child and you would feel terrible if that happened for that child i mean not him . Nope do not worry about that scum getting your kids you tell ur lawyer everything you have said here.That judge if he is worth anything will make sure he never gets them. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

If your question is does he have a chance at getting the boys I would say not to worry. One your boys are old enough to explain to a judge that they don't want to be with him and why. This is a man that just doesn't want to pay to support his kids and a waste of the courts time if he files for custody. If you have raised four boys on your own especially at those ages you are a heck of a woman I have one son and he is a handful I can't imagine four of him. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I am not sure what your actual question is. I would say he is full of hot air as far as sueing you. What can he sue you for? Sure he can try to get custody of the boys but with the report of abuse and the fact that they are all old enough to make their own decision as to whom they want to live with, I doubt that anything would come of it. I think you are look for some reassurance that you have nothing to worry about and I think you don't. give me a email as I am going through something similer right now this Thursday 9/21. My email is [e-mail] and we can talk more about both our problems.

Answer 4

You have NOTHING to worry about. THere is no way in hell he could get your kids. In fact, I would file for full custody. I see no reason for him to even see these boys. He is a loser and a deadbeat and is only trying to get custody to avoid child support. NOT to mention your boys are old enought to make the decision on where they want to live and living with him sleeping on the living room floor is not an ideal way to live. Do not worry about it...I hope they throw the book at his sorry assss.

Answer 5

You know, judges are pretty smart... collect specific incidents, dates and times... keep a journal of them... and persue persue and persue....he doesn't have a leg to stand on... and the judge may be very amused.... they have been known to laugh people out of court. You're doing good... he sounds like a piece... Don't sweat him too much.... and keep a lawyer involved on your side.

Answer 6

what exactly is your question?