Should i try to tell my mom????????????

Question

my mom does not understand why i was so depressed after my bf and i broke up he was my fist bf and everything else but i also became pregnant and was for 5 months. She was suspicious and took me to the doctor because i was gaining weight but by then i was already miscarrying. So i told her it had just been a scare. I had one other scare in january from what she thinks but the blood test i took was too early and the doctor told me to come back in two weeks i did not tell my mom that. I did go back on my own 3 weeks later and i was pregnant. I was so depressed i stopped eating very much and all i wanted to do was sleep after my bf broke up with me. We got back together a month and half later secretly because after that suposed scare my parents hated him. But the relationship was really bad lots of stress and fights took place. My bf and i broke up again and i miscarried shortly after. I hid all this from my parents .

They did not trust me after a scare so i think it might be worse if i tell them the real reason?

My relationship ith my parents is pretty bad to begin with

I am 18 years old

Answer 1

Honesty, Honesty. You don't don't need to give all the details of relationship to them but be honest with what you do tell them.

Answer 2

this is difficult if your relationship with your parents is not too great to start with. Did you not have to go to hospital after your first miscarriage? 5 months is a way on to miscarry and not have a D&C afterwards. or did you hide this from your folks Honesty in my opinion is always the best policy. how are your parents expected to understand you if they are not been told what is going on. if your relationship with them is that bad have you not got an aunt or a teacher you can talk to about this. I would advise this only if you cant tell your parents. One important message here is use protection,ask your GP for the pill or the coil, and if you cant then please use something, these events were all preventable,. once I can understand but twice!!. Do what you feel is the right thing to do and the fact you are asking this question intimates you will. good luck

Answer 3

You are 18 years old, that makes you an adult and you need to be responsible for your own behavior and choices. So, if you choose to be sexually active, you should choose NOW whether or not you want to be a parent. Obviously you are quite fertile (two pregnancies already). Learn more about your body and protect it. You don't sound like you're ready to be a parent...don't do that to a baby...they deserve so much more than that. Wait until you are more mature and stable (and get a lot of fun & partying out of the way before you have a baby to take care of) and then you can be a great mom. That means get on birth control AND DON'T KID YOURSELF! NOTHING IS 100% EFFECTIVE. Use a back-up---spermicide, pull-out, avoid ovulation time, whatever.

And, if you want a better relationship with your parents, earn their trust and respect. It ISN'T automatic, it is EARNED. Lying about relationships and pregnancies is not going to earn you anything but their distrust and disrespect. Let them know that you are someone with good judgement and who can be reliable; that they did a good job raising you. Whenever you find yourself in a tough spot, try to make the choice that you can be proud of later, not ashamed of or have to hide/lie about.

If you get a couple big areas of your life in better perspective, you'll be amazed how much happier and peaceful your life will be. Don't you deserve that? (yep!)

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Not telling your parents is just perpetuating the bad relationship. If you honestly want to give it a go with your parents and really patch things up, then honesty is your best chance here. You've been through an awful lot in this relationship with your boyfriend, and your parents need to know where you stand. You are their daughter, they love you. It's just hard when a teen asserts their independence, not all parents can handle that gracefully. Just sit them down and tell them the truth. Maybe you can begin to rebuild the gap between you and your parents, they are your parents for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

That depends - are you actually wanting to better your relationship with your parents? Are you starting to figure out that maybe the reason they don't like the boy who knocked up their baby girl is that they LOVE you, and unless you forgot to mention that you're in your 30's, you're probably way too young to be saddled with uterine parasites?!

If you *are*, then let it go. Now that the fetus has politely excused itself from your womb and this boy is way the hell out of your life, this phase of your existence is over and done. If you tell your mom that you got back together with this boy, then what you're also telling her is that you doubt her interest in your well-being, and that you don't trust her, AND that she can't trust YOU. And it will just further cement all the reasons that your relationship with them sucks.

But also, if you are trying to make the relationship better, keep your love life above the table from here on out, and actually take their concerns into account once in a while. That's how you show your parents that they're still important to you.

Answer 6

how old are u? and why arent you using protection?? either way, you've been through a lot. how do you think your parents will react. you said they hate your bf now since you told them what happened the last time right? if u 2 get back together and u tell them what happened, theyre really gonna hate him and u might have to hide it from them. if u think they can handle it tell them. maybe if u wait a while thinks might be better, and then u can actually talk to them about it. me personally, i would just keep it to myself. parents dont have to know EVERYTHING you know!!

Answer 7

no matter how you handle the situation with your mom you should really consider some type of semi perm. birth control such as the norplant, iud, maybe that new novaring or something to ensure you will stop becoming pregnant.. if you are not prepared to discuss the possibility of pregnancy just wait till you have to sit down and say mom i'm pregnant, we broke up and it seems i'm gonna need help raising this baby now.....doesn't sound to fun

Answer 8

You are old enough to be responsible for your own actions, so become responsible and quite sneaking around getting pregnant. Educate your self about birth control, about also may be se a councillor about your self esteem. you may be 18, but are thinking like a 12 year old

Answer 9

My mom would kill me if that happen to me...but i would still sit down & try to talk to her about it..then more you think about it & not talk to any then more its going to kill your insides.....believe me you dont need that there are more objects out there that your going to need to get over & is going to give you more stress....If your young then i would be a little worried what my mom would do but, if you & your b/f really love each other & want to be together do it for each other & dont worry about what other people think..It just seems like your little to worried about what your parents think.

Answer 10

Tell her sooner or later she will find out. She may be mad at first but she will always be your mother and love you. You may not believe this but you will need her as much as she needs you after the loss you went through.