do relationships last at university?

Question

going out with a guy who lives in germany in the army, we've had a long distance relationship for 4 months, im goin to uni next week and a lot of people r telling me that i shud hav fun and not hav a relationship cos it won't work. dus any1 have any experiences to tell me or just general advice. cos we really love each other, i just dont want to be swayed esp wen im feeling lonely without him

Answer 1

You can still have fun, just not any romantic fun. You should at least givethe relationship a go or you might regret it later.

Don't leave uni over the relationship though as that could be a cause of regret or bitterness later.

Am sure you've had the 'You're Young' speech already!

Answer 2

In this world, everything is possible.

What I am trying to say is :

The outcome actually depends on how you think and what you do, not on the probability of success (i.e. experience)

Let's say, if majority of experiences told you that it is going to be a failure. What will you do? Do you think that the relationship that you are having is worth much more than the effort you put in to make it last? So are you willing to work for it to make it last?

In my opinion, the more important factor is you and your partner's perception and belief on this relationship. If you both truely believe it can last, then it will. If one of you is weak, the relationship will not last long, no matter at which stage you are in.

And sometimes perception and beliefs of a person change over time. It is possible that you get more matured quickly once you enter university and during this stage, your opinion about your partner shifts and thus affecting the relationship.

However, if you just follow blindly what other people are doing or saying, you are not giving this relationship what it deserved.

Remember, all depends on how much you think this relationship is worth and how much you are willing to put in effort to nurture it.

It is even possible to create success when everybody have failed before. If not, why are there Guiness Book of Records?

Wish you the BEST!

Answer 3

Generally no. University should be your time to have fun! When you are young, you always think that you are "in love" because you don't have enough experiences to compare it to. I was a late-bloomer who wasn't allowed to date in high school, and I hooked up with my first boyfriend during freshman orientation. Big Mistake!!! I dated one guy during my entire freshman year, and I didn't even like him all that much. Do you know how many guys there are at university??? Just go to school, meet lots of guys, hang out and have fun! It's too soon to get serious.

Answer 4

That relies upon what college you're at and which one he's at. in case you're no longer too far on the practice then you extremely could make the attempt to circulate to a minimum of one yet another each weekend or another weekend, i grew to become into at college final 365 days 2 hours faraway from my female pal who has now moved in with me, and she or he visited each 2 weeks, and we did super. My pal in spite of if is at Kings college London and his female pal is at Cardiff, (ex female pal), they broke up final week because of the fact the gap have been given too lots, and she or he ended up kissing yet another boy... *****! It relies upon no count in case you have confidence one yet another, no count in case you are able to visit a minimum of one yet another, and no count in case you'll be bothered.

Answer 5

ask yourself if you really love this man if not, then enjoy the University .. it will be the best time of your life and also the hardest... good luck

Answer 6

I think it depends on you and on how much you love your bf. anyway, why do you care about what others say? just stay true.

Answer 7

usually not