Let's talk about sex......Better yet, how about.....No?

Question

I watched a show one day. It was about teens addicted to sex, most of whom have become parents. The age group was from 13-18. Scary, right? Some of them weren’t even old enough to drive yet, and they have a child. A girl said “Before the show, we all were talking. We found out that we all have one thing in common….our parents didn’t give us the talk, and when they did, they just skimmed the service about it. Our experiences with parenthood at a young age taught us everything we need to know”. Why are some parents afraid to talk about sex? I don’t know. You see it on music videos, movies and it’s almost in all of our music. I was ridiculed for teaching my 20 year old son about sex at 9 years of age. My Mother, rest her soul said “He don’t need to know about that now. You shouldn’t teach him that”. I said “I’m gonna teach him before the streets teach him”. So, I would like the most honest answer that you can give me on this question. Should parents talk about sex more than they do now, if they do it at all, with their children? If so, what’s the right age?

Answer 1

I agree with you, It's best to talk to your children about sex at a young age before they learn from their peers... Peer pressure is crazy nowadays. I think when your child gets old enough to answer then you should talk about it... 9 or 10 years of age.

Answer 2

To be honest, I didn't really talk to my daughters much about it because I didn't know what the appropriate age would be to bring it up. I was afraid that if I started too soon, I'd end up *putting* the idea in their heads... But starting in 6th or 7th grade (I guess they're about 12 by then?) they started learning about it from Health class in school and they had these classes all the way through high school. I just mostly looked at the homework/pamphlets they brought home and asked them if they had any questions.

Given that, I think if the school doesn't provide this type of education, about 11 or 12 is probably a good age to start to tell them. My kids handled it well at that age. I hate to admit the school did a better job of it then I would have, though... in addition to pregnancy there are STD's and health risks I didn't even know about at the time. There are also more methods of birth control I wasn't aware of.

Answer 3

What a very good comedian tale! I form of 'knew' the punch-line, even though it grow to be nonetheless humorous via 'age' of the guy the guy grow to be attempting to 'strike a communique' with ... yet i ought to have enjoyed it much greater if it grow to be a 'attractive youthful lady' or perhaps an 'older and chic lady.'

Answer 4

yes i believe they sould .
but you most also keep in mind that the same as we some times do things we know we souldnt , kids are gonna do the same .
My mother was great ! she sat me down and explained every thing to me when i was around 11 .
im 25 now , i do not have any kids ,
but she did the same for my sisters , my youngest had a baby at 17 , and my eldest now has 2 , but was pregnant at 17 as well .
the point im trying to make here is , it really depends on the personality of the child ..
there comes a time when the kids will do what they want , reguardless of what the parents have taught them .

Answer 5

I think the right age to star talking about sex with a child is when they become curious. Children will let you know in a million different ways all the time. You can have "the talk" in a number of ways, over a number of years, with each discussion suited around age appropriateness. My daughter is two years old, and she has already asked about boy's different parts. Most parents today are so embarrassed to talk about these things with their children, but if we don't teach them, we know who will.... and is that what we all want for our children?

Answer 6

wow that is so tragic but I think that yes parents should make sure there chrildren know about sex befor they found out about it the hard way but i think that 9 is to young of a age for guys but 12 or 13 is a good age for them as for girls they are diffrent girls are more mature then guys but it also means that girls hormones go faster so i think as soon as a girl gets her period you should give her the talk or if she is as little later then some then 12 or 13 is a good age were they can take that stuff seriously.

Answer 7

The parents should start giving the sex talk around the age of 9 or 10 my mom talked to me at the age of 8 and now im 17 and still haven't had sex just make sure that they listen because one of my best friends just had her baby in August and she's only i think a sophmore in high school. I hope this helps you

Answer 8

They are going to find out about sex sooner or later anyway, aren't they? It's best they find out from their parents first. The right age depends on the child's maturity.

My mother told me some things about it before I went to middle school but I basically learned the rest I needed to know about it from school. I'd tell her what I learned and basically asked if the teacher was right. So I had two good teachers.

Answer 9

Modern day parents should be more liberated than their own parents and should therefore have less hang-ups when it comes to talking about sex. As you say, we see it all around us and so to make it easier for our kids, we should be more comfortable discussing any questions the kids ask.

I reckon the right age depends how "in depth" you want to be ... 5 for a vague outline, 8 for more details and certainly 10 for the whole thing - otherwise they start picking things up from their schoolmates and that's when things start getting tricky!

Answer 10

I dont know, speaking from my own experience, I learned about it from friends around 13 or so before ever speaking to my parents about it, and I admit I did get extremely curious about it after hearing all of it. So I really dont know. I dont really think anyone has a right to tell you how to raise a child. Reminds me of something like Dr. Phil.........he's said maybe 3 good bits of REAL advice compared to the 10000 responses he's given people. I honestly believe he's out to destroy females from the inside out......turn them into puppets or something.

Answer 11

PUT THE BLAME ON THE CREATOR(S) THESE SEXUAL IMPULSES SHOULD HAVE BEEN GIVEN TO HUMANS AT AN
APPROPIATE AGE, NOT AT AN EARLY AGE!! BUT SINCE THIS
IS'NT THE CASE, THEN YOU ARE RIGHT, CHILDREN SHOULD
BE TAUGHT THAT SEX, AS GOOD AS IT FEELS IS AN ACT
THAT COMES WITH RESPONSIBILITY, I.E. IF YOU BRING A
LIFE INTO THIS WORLD, YOU MUST ALSO TAKE CARE OF IT.
BUT THEN THERE'S THE ISSUE OF BIRTH CONTROL, AND
ABORTION!!! WHERE DOES IT START, WHERE DOES IT END??? QUITE PERPLEXING IS'NT IT??? I BELIEVE PARENTS
SHOULD TAKE A MORE DEMANDING ROLE IN THE HOMES
AND DON'T RELY ON OUR LEADERS, THEY DON'T HAVE
THE ANSWERS THEMSELVES!!! IF THEY DID, WE WOULD'NT HAVE THE INDUSTRIES AS THEY ARE TODAY E.G. MOVIES, MUSIC, ETC....