with my boyfriends ex, he and the ex are members of the church and he ask me to go with him to church but didn't tell me there was an ex of his there until we were in the car, but I ignored it but I didn't like it, she never said anything or looked at me in anyway, and I been going for 2months straight. I still don't like the fact that she's there but I wan't to be there with him and I like the church. I really hadn't said anything much to him about it b/c it will prpbably start a argument, what should I do or how should it be handled.
2006-09-19 03:56:38 · 20 answers · asked by single mami 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
One of these days, while you are at church or maybe after you have returned home from church, you are going to feel compelled or led to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal savior.
When this happens, its a life changing feeling and you will want to read and reread your bible, you will want to understand all that God wants you to do.
Suddendly you will remember how you used to feel about one person and your uncomforableness, and you will feel bad about thinking about another human being while you were assembled for the purpose of praising and worshipping your creator.
Once we understand exactly why we attend church, we realize that it isnt about who else is there and how we feel about them, or dont feel about them, its about God and God alone. And God tells us to Love one another.
2006-09-19 04:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to search further about why you feel uncomfortable with this woman being at the Church. If she's a solid ex, I don't really understand why you're uncomfortable. I reallyIt would be nice to have a little more information. Does your boyfriend still have a relationship with this woman that’s making you feel insecure? Or is she trying to get him back or somehow tormenting you in someway? The world is littered with people’s ex’s. What are you going to do? I don’t think it’s worth your mental energy to worry about this. It may even help for you to talk to this woman, see she’s just a human being, so you can get on with your life. If your boyfriend is still palsy with this woman and it makes you uncomfortable you need to let him know that you don’t appreciate the interloper in your relationship. If he can’t deal with that, maybe you should consider a new boyfriend and a new church. If she is actively pursuing your boyfriend you need to confront her and let her know you don’t appreciate it and leave it at that. A man can only be stolen away if that’s what he wants, and if it is, so be it. He wasn’t worthy of you anyway.
2006-09-19 07:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many people in church and that is why it is there, for people to worship and to learn. Let go of the fact that she is there and just concentrate on why you are there. Any other way would only go against the teachings of Christ. If you like the church, keep going. Things will straighten themselves out. Have faith, okay? I understand you feelings because that happened to me too, but I became friends with the ex's parents, relatives, etc on a Christian level.
2006-09-19 04:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by makeitright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like the church then go. As Christians you should be able to get along and attend the same church. You don't have to be best friends or even sit on the same side of the church. You should be able to worship in the same place though. I'm glad that you are all Christians and take the time to go to church. God Bless!
2006-09-19 04:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about his ex. You can't focus on that. Talk with him about it. Whatever questions you have or your concerns for the situation should be addressed. If you enjoy going to the church keep going. Maybe you could strike up a conversation with his ex and see what she's really like. Just keep your head on straight and do the right thing.
2006-09-19 04:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged to a young lady some years ago. We broke up a couple of times before deciding it wouldn't work out. We remained in the same Church.
She started dating again, and got engaged. For a while I was bothered by seeing them in Church, but once I got my eyes off man, and on God where it belonged, I stooped having a problem.
2006-09-19 04:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Minister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel but remember he is with you now. He isn't with her and the two of them evidently have moved on so don't feel so insecure. You like the church and the real reason you are there is to worship. The ex is there to do the same. Just enjoy the time there and be grateful that you are the one there with him to worship togeather!
2006-09-19 04:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Brianne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably not a nutty judgmental kind of person. I on the other hand am. There is always someone I don't like wherever I go. Remembering to place Principles before personalities is very important to me. I am at church to worship God to help me not be nutty and to help me to remember to look at the great huge log in my eye. To help others the poor and the homeless. Those things are more important then the personalities I don't like. I am what I choose to pay attention too. It is your job to look at why she bothers you. Does she threaten you? are your afraid of something? are you afraid that she might steal your boyfriend? are you afraid of what others think\? Are you angry at her? have you chosen not to forgive her for something? are you holding a grudge? Have you prayed for her have you prayed for acceptance of her presence in your life?Have you asked God to help you here?
Maybe these questions don't apply to you but hey do help me and I can not change other people I can change How I choose to look at them.When I ask God for that help. HE always changes ME.
2006-09-19 04:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Rich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does everything now-a-days need to be comfortable?
Do what you desire, instead of avoiding things you fear. Otherwise you will become the puppet of some terrible puppeteers. Which explains your need to go to church in the first place.
Church is a band of mafia style puppeteers. The mafia says; "do what we say or we will kill you". The church says do what we say or you will suffer for eternity. The mafia in that sense is more humane. Wow!
2006-09-19 04:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. What happens if you see her at KMart? Walking on the street? Fact is YOU have the guy and she is the loser in the deal, remember that when you are in church together. If he can't be trusted, your issue is with him, not her.
2006-09-19 04:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋