i was just wondering why it is that i feel different, almost happy when im single. and depressed when in a relationship. im in a relationship now and i dont feel myself. it was like this with all the others as well
2006-09-19 03:54:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just haven't been dating the right one yet, that's all
2006-09-19 06:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that the relationships you have been in make you feel like you can't show him your true self? You may need to wait for a relationship where you can be as happy as you are when you are single.
2006-09-19 11:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by cutest_kittykat_411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats happened to me too i've been in a relationship for over two years now and since i've been with my boyfriend i've changed, and others have mentioned it too. I think it's because you have to look after them aswell as yourself, i feel i have to watch how much money i spend so i have enough to support him when he runs out.
It's also effected my friendship with men because i don't want him to worry about me doing anything.
When they go out you also have that little thought in the back of your my thinking i wonder what he's up to.
But then theres the good sides to, like when you come home to them, and the company when you go to sleep, being able to tell them anything.
As the say lifes a rollercoster!!!
2006-09-19 11:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your "Singing my song!!" I think my problem stems, from my childhood... I had a really abusive Step-Mom, who even tried to kill me & my sister.. My dad, was always at work , when she'd do these things... I still haven't "Pin-Pointed" much, about my childhood relating to how I feel in a relationship.. Except, the fact that I had an "Absent-Dad" most of the time.. So, he never really played any significant role, in my life, or leading me in the righ direction, about men.. Dad was a little on the "Rebellious-side" so I always picked guys who were also living life on the edge.. But, once I got them, I didn't approve of their behavior.. Wierd, hoh.. See, my real Mom, on the other hand was a "Goody-two-shoe" and I think even tho, they say, your first 5 years of your life, reflect on who & how you are as an adult, my first 2yrs-9 years were spent with my dad & step mom.. Never even saw my real mom during those days.. But, I genetically take after Mom & dad.. I've lived my life, on the "edge" and been the "Good-girl" so its complicated !! But, relationships, are complicated.. So , I just stay single.. I feel that one of these days, I'll make myself go back to church, and try to find an honest guy, who used to live his life on the "edge" so we'd atleast have some things in common.. You know...But, as far as your feeling "Depressed" while in a relationship, I went through that too... I think mine stemmed from relating my childhood, too my relationships.. I wanted out, of the whole family thing, period. When I was so badly abused, by my step-mom and her daughters.. So, when I get into a relationship, it reminds me (subconsiously) of being in the home, family thing, that was not a good place to be, as a child I hid in my room, afraid for my life for 7 years!! So, in retrospect maybe its something to do with either, you dont like the whole domestic thing, like me, or being tied down, or maybe you have some insecurities, like me, and feel like he reminds you of all those things you feel inferior about yourself.. I like being free, to roam, and do what I want without anyone telling me, what to do, or having to be on their schedules.. That very well could be your same problem.. I hope I've helped in some way.. Just talking with you, that your not alone, .. I hope it gets better for you.. Smile..
2006-09-19 11:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to take some more time to get to know yourself and when you are ready you will have a better idea of what and who you are looking for! Don't settle for less than you deserve!
2006-09-19 11:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by drakekse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a time alone.....enjoy to be with your self....probably your are not ready for a serious relationship for the moment ....take your time
2006-09-19 10:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy who's fun. Sounds like you're dating losers.
2006-09-19 10:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you feel more like yourself when you are single and when you are in a relationship you feel that you have please the other person.
2006-09-19 10:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by givingubodyshots 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋