Then what's with people saying kids are undisciplined these days. They blame the mythological end of spanking for it. Yet, most of the country still spanks.
2006-09-19 03:51:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't belive that statistic. None of my friends nor me spank.
2006-09-19 03:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Those statistic probably aren't right, but if they are, then good!
I see nothing wrong with spanking as a last resort. If you've given your child warnings, time outs, whatever, and still have no result, sometimes a spanking is due.
As many people have said, there is a major difference between spanking and beatings. Those who are against spankings are most likely those who were beaten as a child. I was spanked when needed which was not very often, and I never received a single bruise. It hurt my ego more then anything else. Also, my parents never spanked me out of anger. If they were extremely mad with me, they would walk away and deal with me later. They would also always sit down with me and explain why I was being punished.
I don't have children yet, but when I do, I will spank them if no other method of discipline works.
Also, I would rather give my child a small tap on the hand or their butt instead of having them touch a hot stove for example. If I can teach them the lesson that way instead of having to take them to the ER with burnt fingers, then good. I will have saved my child a lot of pain and suffering.
2006-09-19 11:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is a choice. I don't criticize those who do or those who don't. It's something that a parent must choose based upon their style of discipline, punishment AND the child they are raising. Spanking doesn't lead to your child being an aggressive & violent adult. I, as well as all my current friends, were spanked as children. Among us, we have an architect, a surgeon, a general practioner, a couple attorneys, an actuary, an entrapeneur, two IT technicians, an advertising exec, a few teachers, a nurse, numerous corp. America businesspersons, and the list goes on and on. Most of us didn't get spanked regulary, but when warranted. Trust me, spanking let us know that our parents were in complete control and that compliance was not optional...it was mandatory!
Now, there is a difference between spanking and beating. Beating is never a good option. That leads to abuse. However, giving a spanking to a wayward child that isn't listening and responding to verbal directions, redirections and warnings is fine.
2006-09-19 11:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Apple21 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone wants to spank their children then let them spank their children. You don't have anything to do with it. Most kids today need their *** spanked that's why the crime rate in our country is rocketing now, because of undisciplined children. They think they can get away with MURDER these days. Spank your kids I say. Help change the world. Don't let them run over you, you are the parents. Do you think a lil time out in the corner is going to work. Come on. Get For real!
2006-09-19 11:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by dollbaby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Raising children with discipline means training them. Training is a lot more than spanking. It's a consistent message that our standards are kindness, safety, responsibility and respect toward each other.
1) Lack of supervision 2) tolerating disrespect and 3) not requiring children to contribute to the family to produce a sense of team spirit are ultimately the culprits that lead to lack of discipline.
Spanking, in small doses, can be a useful tool in training kids. It should only be a small part of a larger picture. Getting angry and hitting a kid you've been over-indulging for his/her whole life when they act bad is not the answer.
A parents' goal should be to nurture self sufficient children. But most parents don't even seem to have a goal. Achieving this goal requires love and discipline.
2006-09-19 11:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about statics on this subject, however, I am one of those children who was spanked as a child and I am 100% OK I have on issues with my parents or hang ups that keep me in doctor offices. I have two children an 18 year old girl and a five year old boy..when my daughter was young I was in my twenty's I was 24 when I had her my son I was 37..the only time I spanked my daughter was when she put herself in danger..example the day she ran between two parked cars to retrieve a ball..she was three years old, besides a spanking she also was told why I did what I did and how the driver in a car coming would not have seen her and so she could understand being dead I explained that she would be in a box in the ground no more Christmas's or birthday's no more smiling faces of her loved ones around her. To this day she never tries to cross the street in the middle. My son on the other hand has never been spanked and hes 5, however, just a stern word hurts his feelings and we can talk to him to correct behavior problems right now,,would I spank him yes if he put himself in danger like she did yes.
If you ask me why I would spank after being spanked let me tell you this..I'm the oldest of 6 children none of us have ever been in trouble with the law, done drugs or drank more then a drink or two, we do not abuse our children or our parents, one of my siblings has my parents living with her to help them on their income, we turned out ok not one of us has any issues with our up brining and we are all alive today and doing well..
2006-09-19 11:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by enoughmichele04 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I find nothing wrong with spanking..Our society has (successfully) over evaluated every possible circumstance in our daily lives. Many of us know our parents were raised that way and many of us were too. If parents stop trying to be their kids "friends" and be the authority figure that they are there may not be the need for spanking. But kids will try you to see what they can get away with so you have to remind them whose the parent at times.
"Children must be disciplined in a consistent way if they are to become well-adjusted adults"
2006-09-19 11:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by donise225 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I spank my daughter but very rarely. Only if she does something extremely naughty, or all other methods of discipline have failed. I don't think I've spanked her for months, but I have a lot of friends and babysitters tell me all the time "She's so well behaved!! I'll watch her anytime!!" Which is rather odd, I think, because I'd assume children should know how to behave. *shrug* I know people that do regularly whose kids are little hooligans. I think it depends on the child.
2006-09-19 11:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to occasionaly to ensure some slight fear in your child, a lot of younger people disagree with this, but the older generation was spanked and beat and they all turned out better than what the teens are now today, just look at how bad the world has gotten, maybe its due to only the 10% who still spank.
2006-09-19 11:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
When I have children they will be spanked
no matter what anyone says
I don't mean beat a child
just get their attention like my parents did me
and their parents did them and so on and so on
I don't mean all the time
You do need to talk to your children amd get them to listen but
there are time when a spanking is the answer
children have to learn to respect their elders
or we are in for a heap of trouble
2006-09-19 11:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by neicee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, that statistic isn't accuarte at all. I am not against spanking, what I am against is beating. There's a big difference.
Children need spanking to learn discipline and respect. And that's what's missing with kids today. Since spanking is no longer allowed in North America, kids no longer fear authorities or their parents for that matter. They demand respect, but don't know how to give it.
My parents spanked me and I never hated them for it.
2006-09-19 11:02:14 · answer #11 · answered by TY 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋