If you just found your soulmate, but you already have a long term partner that you love what should you do? I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now but I have had to put up with alot from him, and we separated for 2 months earlier this year. Just recently I was lucky enough to start talking to someone who is completely my soulmate. What should I do? Has anyone experienced this kind of thing?
2006-09-19 03:48:22 · 29 answers · asked by Kelly D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually I would say this is my imagination, but, you know when people say that they met a person and they just ''know''? Well, I do and ive never experienced this before, nothing like it, and ive been in love before, but this is sooooo different.
2006-09-19 03:52:47 · update #1
And to people who say there isnt a soulmate, you are wrong. Really. You just havnt met yours yet. If i would have seen this q 5 months ago I would have said the same thing as my mate thought she had found hers and because I didnt understand I was sooo negative about it, Im normally a ver cautious person so this is all new to me.
2006-09-19 03:55:25 · update #2
THATCHINNORGIRL- that is exactly how I feel, I feel too scared by it all to do anything at the moment, This man know about my current partner, and he does feel the same as me but is in no way pressuring me into anything, I think he had resigned himself to the fact I wasnt going to finish with my bf anyway, but still doesnt want to let go of what we have! Im not sure what im doing yet im having a hard time dealing with this new feeling.
2006-09-19 04:52:49 · update #3
He has not tried to make me cheat on my bf, nor would I ever, even though he has done to me.
2006-09-19 04:53:38 · update #4
you gotta go with the soulmate honey...they dont come along very often,grab him with both hands xx
2006-09-19 03:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by English Rose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to explore the possibilities with this person before you do anything rash.
But it sounds like you are not necessarily happy with your current partner - so maybe it is time for a change?
I definitely believe that everyone has at least one soulmate in the world - possibly more than one!
I have met one of mine and he is now my best mate (despite a longish relationship with him that did not work out). We are still very much in each other's life. I can't forsee a time when he won't be. My current partner is fine with this, luckily!!!
I also had a strong connection a few years ago with a 'stranger' whom I met. We bumped into each other several times, and there was such a strong connection each time that the air was electric! However, I never acted upon it because I was so disturbed by it all! I regret that now, as I feel that it could have been really exciting!
So - sometimes you have to follow your heart and your gut instinct - but do be careful! Sometimes you don't know what you already have until it's gone and too late!
I wish you well...
2006-09-19 11:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by thatchinnorgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cheat on your current boyfriend. If you do love him, then treat him with respect. Get to know this other person, this 'soulmate' a bit better - but as friends. You may find that the more you get to know him/her, the less 'ideal' you find they are. If however, after a month or so of getting to know each other as friends, you do decide he is still your soul mate, then break up with your long term partner. Your long term boyfriend is going to be upset anyhow, but don't give him a reason to hate you by cheating with this new guy. Wait until it's all over with your long term guy, (maybe give it a couple of weeks for you to get over it and mourn the lost relationship) then start to date the new one. And hopefully given time, your long-term partner/ex will keep in touch and be friends.
And if this new person is really your 'soul mate', then under no circumstances will he be pressurizing you to cheat on your current boyfriend, and should be understanding that you want to take it slowly and be friends to see how it goes before breaking up with your boyf. He may not like it that much, but he should understand if he is actually committed to being with you for ever and ever.
All the best!
2006-09-19 11:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a soulmate, firstly. Get that out of your head. That's just some fairy tale we tell our daughters. Anyhow, you've just stumbled across another guy whom you're compatible with. But don't cheat on your current boyfriend. Be honest and noble in all you do.
EDIT - A soulmate suggests that there is ONE person on the entire planet that is the perfect person and made especially for you. Any adult who agrees with this is completely irrational. There are literally hundreds, if not thousands of people in the world who fit the ideal of the soulmate. Don't assume that this person is that. Honestly, considering how gigantic the world is, the odds that you've found the SOULMATE is about a trillion to one. So, be smart and assume, even if you still believe in this soulmate theory, that you have not found yours.
2006-09-19 10:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be careful. Your soul mate is not necessarily the person that you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with. But if you think that you and this new guy could really make then go for it. Proceed with caution however. But i hope that these problems that you were having with your boyfriend were irreconcilable. I hope that you all really tried to work things out and couldn't. Make sure also that the other gentleman is not your ex without the problem cause that would mean that you just didn't want to deal with it. Make sure as well that you really do have feelings for the guy and it is not transference from that of your ex.
2006-09-19 10:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with your long term boyfriend for good then. Not even because I believe in the whole soulmate thing - I don't believe in it. But I do believe that if you are in a relationship, and you start to have strong feelings for someone else, it is time to end your current relationship. When people have significant doubts about their relationships, those doubts won't go away, unless you get out of the relationship, and take some time to grow. If my boyfriend had feelings for someone else, and wasn't sure he wanted to be with me, I'd WANT him to break up with me, even though I love him a lot. I don't want to be with someone who isn't sure if he wants to be with me, and staying together isn't going to change the way he feels. Get what I'm saying?
As far as the whole "just knowing" thing - everyone, EVERYONE says "oh I just knew". I guarantee you the divorce rate for people who say that is probably still about 50%.
2006-09-19 11:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
this is fnatastic news that you have found your soulmate. I just really want to point out you can be with someone and still have a great realtionship with this other guy who is more compatible. however it does not mean just beacuse you feel he is your soulmate, you should actually be with this person. You really need to think about this one before you make your decision and as you already have this feeling after speaking to this guy, just go inside yourself and ask your unconcious to give you the answer to your dilema and be rest assured you will get the right answer.
Best Wishes
2006-09-19 11:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by budhha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time; whether you think you found a soul mate or not.
I won't tell you how to live your life; if what you have with your man of two years is not happening maybe this is what you need to say goodbye.
But take it slow with the soulmate - if it was meant to be then theres no rush, right?
Good luck and much happiness
2006-09-19 10:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Warrior 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember every relationship has goo/bad days. Some are worth hanging in there. If you're sure that you want to end you relation of two years for someone you think is your soul mate then do it. Finding out that you made a mistake afterwards will only leave you with regrets.
2006-09-19 10:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have already mentally checked out of the relationship that you are ready in. To stay with him won't be fair to him, esp. if you've been having problems. Whether this new guy is your soulmate or not, it's too soon to tell - you are/were in a relationship and you need some time to finish processing that before you move on...
2006-09-19 10:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by cutest_kittykat_411 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
soulmate, he knows u inside out?, how can he be so sensative?, why cant my b/f be this lovely?.........
all bullsh it hunni, its a tried and tested way to get the knickers off u, either that he's gay, dont leave ur b/f, besides ur current b/f will prolly kill him anyway and then ull be alone, so be wise get drunk, have a damn good 1 night stand and if he still calls u the next day then u know i was wrong, and u only have to worry bout ur b/f killing him, if he dont call then i was right and ur b/f wont have to know,
good luck in whatever u decide
2006-09-19 10:56:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋