and how do they deal with it.....my sister had been diagnosed after we all noticed her behavior had damatically changed...years ago she was a happy outgoing poplar successful woman...now she is frightening everyone away, she's violent, she says the most hateful things, i do not know how to handle her any more...our sister friendship no longer exists and sometimes i hate her for what she's doing to our family...i know she's ill...but how do i deal with it...her son is embarrassed because she makes him look stuoid infront of his friends, he wont bring his girl back to his house because she just makes them feel uncomfortable, she has even taken to shouting at people in the street, setting fire to her own house them calling the police, fighting with her neigbours, she has lived in 5 different places in the past 2 years because of eviction, i miss my sister, please, if theres anyone out there that knows how to deal with it, she thinks people are after her...how can i convince her there isnt
2006-09-19 03:42:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
My son who is 16 has paranoid schizophrenia. I know exactly how you feel my eldest son 19 moved to my mums because he couldn't stick it my youngest daughter started to stay with her aunt which left my middle daughter here with me my husband and son who has schizophrenia.
I used to have to comfort my daughter when she used to cry to me and send me notes saying if you don't do something with him I'm going to run away or kill myself.
He beat her up in front of Friends on the school bus and called all of them names and fought with them. Well he fought with most people.
Everyone avoided coming to our house because the way he got on.
The sad thing is people who have schizophrenia don't want to be like this but they cant help it.
If your sister wont go and get help you can go to her Dr and explain the situation and TELL EVERYTHING they will have her sanctioned as a last resort but she really sounds like she needs help FAST.
My son is on medication which is helping him it is such a relief for all of us AS WE ALL SUFFERED not just him.
Good Luck
2006-09-19 06:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know what you mean. My sister has has paranoid schizophrenia for many years. It's a long tale of no diagnosis and mis-diagnosis, with her moving around all the time doing mostly meanial jobs although she was the most inteligent of us. She did not like us to get near, and, I'm ashamed to say, we got to like it like that, because she was so difficult and embarrasing. Now she tells me it was like living in a permanant nightmare that she could not wake up from. It was diagnosed about 5 years ago. We contacted an outreach centre near to where she lived and convinced them to go and have a look at her. She was immediately sectioned (we live in the UK) which was one of the worst moments of my life. Because she had been threatening to hurt members of the family the police were called to help the doctors. It was truly awful.
But, here is the really good bit, so take hope. She came out of the mental hospital three months later much better and every day from then on she has improved. Now she lives in a nice little flat around the corner from me, we go most places together and she is my best friend. She is totally normal. It didn't happen over night - it has been a gradual improvement. The key factor is she must keep taking her medication for the rest of her life, avoid stress and eat well. The medicines these days are so good. You are going through the hard part - remember she is as ill as a person with terminal cancer - she needs medical help, love and support - and so do you.
Your sister needs to be sectioned too, I would say. Contact the health authority mental health department and speak to them. Do not take this "She's an adult therefore she must contact us herself' nonesense. She is beyond making any rational decisions for herself and she is a danger to herself and others. Be strong for her.
Good luck to you all - God Bless you all
2006-09-19 14:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by fatface 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a half brother who has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and it is about the worst mental illness one can have. There are support groups for family's of PS and I strongly suggest you find one. You can't feel bad about resenting your sister, your response is perfectly natural. A support group might help you resent/hate the disease as opposed to having those feelings toward your sister. Clearly you need to mourn for the loss of your sister, she is no longer the person you grew up with. I would be concerned about your nephew, PS can harm themselves or others depending on severity of the illness and the level of compliance your sister has with taking her meds. I'm sorry I can't give you anything more positive but in reality, the disease SUCKS!!!
Typically the family of paranoid schizophrenics suffer more than the individual who has the disease. One other thought, if you have not seen the movie "A beautiful Mind" rent it b/c it's an extremely well done movie that gives you some real perspective on what it is like for the individual who has the disease. It won an academy award for best picture and it came out right around the time my brother was diagnosed. It was very helpful for me to see the movie. Best of luck and well wishes to you and your family! Remember, you're not alone.....
2006-09-19 11:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Twin 2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Poor you. I don't have a sibling who suffers from this, but my mother does. The only thing you can do is fight hard to get professional help and support for her. The health services being stretched as they are, this can be difficult. Where there is family, they will try and push the responsibility onto you. But she should have a) a psychiatrist and b) a care co-ordinator (or case worker). See the website I listed below - it's very helpful and contains lots of useful info for families and friends of affected people.
Unfortunately, feeling persecuted is all part of the illness. There's nothing you can rationally say to her that can change this - only medication can cure this symptom. But underneath it all, she will know that you're there for her and will remember.
2006-09-19 10:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by megtownson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just love her. Try to help her. Get her to a Psychiatrist Leave her alone when you can't stand it anymore, then go back. Take one day at a time. There isn't much to do except just get through days as best you can. Make your life as good as you can. Make sure she gets professional help.
2006-09-19 10:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bibi B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmothers sister had that and she spent half her life in an instutuion. But she eventaully got out and married and had I guess what you call a normal life, what was left of it. My grandmother tried to keep this secret from my grandad and my mom. She eventually told what happen but she still afraid that it could be passed down to one of her grandkids.
2006-09-19 10:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by nashvillekat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i really can sympophise. my aunt suffers from the same thing. she has been in hopital many times. my family try to give her support but its not easy. all u can do is be there for her
2006-09-19 10:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore5700 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but i have a secret friend who hides in my wardrobe who does,no one else can c him but he talks to me when were alone.
2006-09-19 10:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by paul f 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have a sister with paranoid schizophrenia, I have never seen her but often hear her voice...................
2006-09-19 10:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋